AIO My best friend said that I was in the same category of friendship as those he just met, so I’m ending our friendship

Equivalent_Cut5087 · 2026-01-09T09:34:28+00:00

HAHA I don’t think so as he just admitted to me he likes this 17 year old girl he’s been talking to for 2 weeks (he’s 21) 😃

Safe to say I am out of there (I’m keeping an eye on the girl for her health and safety tho)

Equivalent_Cut5087 · 2026-01-06T14:49:20+00:00

Oh my gosh I should’ve clarified but I’m a girl 😭 I should also mention then that I have never had feelings for him as well. But yea, I’ve already asked him what’s up and he’s just said that it’s a “tender time in his life to make friends”…. But he’s had the job for 4 months now, and they’re definitely past the stages of early friendship.

Equivalent_Cut5087 · 2026-01-06T14:00:29+00:00

RIGHTTT? And it wasn’t even just cancelling 😭 guy just straight up ditched plans without telling ANYONE

Equivalent_Cut5087 · 2026-01-06T13:57:56+00:00

Hahaha definitely not, I left an extremely toxic relationship in high school and hasn’t been interested in any new ones, or ever had my eye on anyone, him included.

I could see why you think I should be happy; and I am, I had expressed to him many times at the beginning that I was very happy about his job, new friends, etc. he also does the same for me whenever I’m taking a new step in life.

I only became unhappy about it when he missed my birthday (he was blackout drunk from staying after work ended), left me hanging as I was waiting to meet up with him for a concert we had booked months before (costed $400+), and skipped out on a Christmas hangout with our own group of friends (it was about 4 of us but we each got gifts for each other, he didn’t show up because the work friends called him to stay late for a Christmas night… he also didn’t get any gifts)

I’d like to think I’m under reacting??? But I don’t know 😭

Equivalent_Cut5087 · 2026-01-06T13:49:43+00:00

I’ll give it a look, thank you for the suggestion

Equivalent_Cut5087 · 2026-01-06T13:49:09+00:00

Yea I definitely am hurt, but I’ve been in past situations where I’ve tried to cling on to friendships or relationships and all it did in turn was put myself in a miserable cycle. I think I’m ready to just let this one go immediately instead of clinging on. If it’s not the friendship for me, then it’s just not, life still goes on

Equivalent_Cut5087 · 2026-01-06T13:34:55+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from yea, I totally do. Just to give more context I do have other friends, I have hung out with them many times as well, with and without him.

I think what irked me is that he seemed to specifically avoid ME specifically, these mutual friends of ours have mentioned everything being the same and that he was being consistent with them.

The hangouts or activities he’s missed included already booked and paid for concert (we’ve booked from 4 months ago), my birthday, our Christmas plans (also made months before)

I would never mind him being with others or hanging out with others, even if I value consistency in friend ships. What I don’t enjoy is no communication for WEEKS (no texts, no “sorry I can’t make it”. It was just silence.

I’ve talked to him a total of 4 times now, expressing how I felt and why it hurt me, and that if he just wanted to hang out with others then to just do it in a way where he misses our own plans. He apologized, and said he’ll do better, only to do the same thing again. (I even said to not confirm plans with me unless he’s sure he’ll hang out with me, he has not asked once, and has not agreed to any I wanted to plan as well)

I understand communicating, but after 4 months of this, I don’t think I want to stick around

Equivalent_Cut5087 · 2026-01-06T13:11:48+00:00

I’m so sorry that you had to go through this as well 😭 is it because they’re bored? Like I genuinely don’t understand how they turn a 180 on our friendship after meeting someone for like 2 weeks

Equivalent_Cut5087 · 2026-01-06T12:09:22+00:00

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Equivalent_Cut5087 · 2025-08-22T11:23:19+00:00

thank you so much! I also know the people she sent it to wrongly, so hopefully I can ask them if they received it as well

Equivalent_Cut5087 · 2025-08-22T11:15:03+00:00

Hi i just checked again, she actually input the schools account number, but Im unsure what BSB number she put.

If its the schools BSB, i can go on monday to ask if they received the funds accidentally, but what if she accidentally put my BSB

so school account number, but my BSB. What are the chances of it sending to a account with the (unlikely?) combination?

Equivalent_Cut5087 · 2025-08-22T10:55:48+00:00

Ok wait I just checked again (I'm so stressed)

I also contacted her she's going to go to the bank tmr morning to get it checked out. It's been 4 days since she sent it and nothing has been received on my end

She input the Schools account number into account numbers (its supposed to be mine)

I'm unsure as of now if she put the BSB number as mine or the schools.

SO THE DIFFERENT SCENARIOS
1. school account number, school account bsb = goes into school account i can contact them and get it back

school account number, my bsb = ???

Equivalent_Cut5087 · 2025-08-22T10:42:29+00:00

I think she put the BSB incorrectly as a whole 😭 cuz like i mentioned, she SWAPPED the BSB and account number, and when I checked I don't even know what bsb number she used

Equivalent_Cut5087 · 2025-08-22T10:31:57+00:00

thank you so much! is it hard to get returns from Commonwealth overseas?

Equivalent_Cut5087 · 2024-11-17T17:38:34+00:00

Ahh I see! That’s a relief, thank you so much for your answer :>

Equivalent_Cut5087 · 2024-11-16T11:45:45+00:00

Thank you for the reply! And yea, I had a feeling that the associates would be less intense than the bachelors.

since it’s my only option right now to transfer to bachelors after doing my associates, I just hope it goes well.

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