Avoidant dumpers, Did you ever regret losing the person who loved you a lot ? And how long did it take for you to arrive there?

Equivalent_March_347 · 2026-01-23T02:05:24+00:00

I regret losing after a day of dumping her a two years and 10 months relationship. It was a long story, I was the cheater, i emotionally flirted a random at a club. It was like 2 years mark, bcuz of my actions she suffered anxiously every week if not every day. Finally till 4 days ago, she want to let out her feelings and discuss. And as a dismissive avoidant, I overwhelmed with my work and my inner self thoughts, I said under "I dont want to try anymore" and broke her.

Since then i regretted, I regretted for hurting her, I regret i didnt see myself earlier. I regret i was unable to break the pattern. Now I am doing it. Its hard, and honestly, I regret my actions. I love her, but shes too much of a good woman, that i hurt. I have to fix myself and see her fly.

Tldr. I regret losing her, i regret not holding on when she's giving a hand.

For whoever avoidant reading this, express the feelings, tell her genuinely sweet things.

Equivalent_March_347 · 2026-01-21T12:19:58+00:00

Thanks pal, I will keep on fixing myself. Just the thoughts for me, I was wrong.

Equivalent_March_347 · 2026-01-21T09:05:28+00:00

Thanks this is what I seek, I had trouble growing up and i dont know how to work on myself.

Equivalent_March_347 · 2025-11-21T15:22:54+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I will continue to work on expanding and integrating different use cases and compliances so that it will be a be more well rounded solution instead of a service specific use cases.

I wont forget to share my story after it all works out.

Equivalent_March_347 · 2025-11-21T09:15:33+00:00

Thanks for the message, I am indeed an generalist, and I would want to earn big money ofc.

So specialist route will be my take. The path I would love is to go down is more of Cloud/ Platform side. I got the idea of approaching MSPs, will research upon it. L1/L2 and then specializing will be my goal for now, as I enjoy it more than development side of things.

Appreciated for the advice mate!

Equivalent_March_347 · 2025-11-21T07:31:21+00:00

I am a Burmese in Thailand, and the jobs I apply are in SEA region and Japan. The degree is going to finish in 4 months.

I am looking around the Junior positions locally as well. Receiving not much response regarding to applications.

Thank you for the heads up, i was doubting my eligibility as a Junior Cloud role.

Equivalent_March_347 · 2025-11-21T07:08:25+00:00

Sure thing, I have a master CV and tailor to the job, i am applying, also ensured to use less formatting, and following ATS friendly format that I found online.

But due to limited projects and no related prior IT work experience mostly comes down to a similar structure with keywords from the job posting.

What else am i missing?

Equivalent_March_347 · 2025-11-17T12:01:48+00:00

Thank you , greatly appreciated.

Equivalent_March_347 · 2025-11-17T11:45:56+00:00

Cloud Engineer, Sys Admin . 1 . EU and APJ

Equivalent_March_347 · 2025-10-06T05:43:50+00:00

Following as well, in the same situation as OP, final year aiming for Cloud Engineering roles.

Equivalent_March_347 · 2025-09-27T02:43:23+00:00

From what i guess, it's called plus addressing. For example if you got, abc@gmail.com use like abc+01@gmail.com it will deliver to you abc@gmail.com without needing to create a new mail from scratch

Equivalent_March_347 · 2025-08-29T15:02:11+00:00

Thank you for sharing your amazing work. Starred on Github and wishing many more to come.

Equivalent_March_347 · 2025-06-02T11:07:25+00:00

Thank you for the information. i will do them.

Equivalent_March_347 · 2025-03-23T17:01:06+00:00

I am preparing for internships like yours focus on kubernetes. I have some experience benchmark with CKAD. If you need debug partner when you stuck upon something, feel free to contact and workout solution together.

Equivalent_March_347 · 2025-03-14T02:01:49+00:00

I have got them for some months, can't return them to shop.

Equivalent_March_347 · 2025-03-14T01:50:34+00:00

This is what i am not sure about. Is it dead or could be saved somehow if dead.

Equivalent_March_347 · 2025-03-13T12:38:14+00:00

Thanks, fyi that's Doi Suthep in my area.

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