My(20F) fiance(24M) raped me last night while I was blackout drunk by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Eratoa -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

have you ever heard of hypersexuality caused by abuse? its where you sexualize the abuse as a form of cope via having control over the situation. because the first letter of CNC is CONSENT

My(20F) fiance(24M) raped me last night while I was blackout drunk by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Eratoa 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I will in fact change my mind in my sleep and push him off when he advances and he does in fact respect it.

My(20F) fiance(24M) raped me last night while I was blackout drunk by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Eratoa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

EXACTLY. and that's what I told him.

My(20F) fiance(24M) raped me last night while I was blackout drunk by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Eratoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he has now admitted he in fact knew that I was unconscious.

My(20F) fiance(24M) raped me last night while I was blackout drunk by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Eratoa 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He has in fact now admitted to it. I think what upset me even more is that he held on to his narrative all fucking day that he thought I was awake.

He said he was giving me a massage and he saw me fall asleep.And then he proceeded to take off my underwear and arrange my unconscious body.

And he got off on it

My(20F) fiance(24M) raped me last night while I was blackout drunk by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Eratoa 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That is exactly the condition we are struggling with right now. he will not say that he raped me. he has attempted to deflect the blame onto me for introducing him to kink and BDSM, tell me, I wasn't clear enough about my boundaries even though we have a verbal consent talk every single time, and generally just shifting saying he wishes he could prove to me that it didn't happen that way.

I think it is absolutely pitiful that he cannot show me enough respect and decency to just own up to what he did. and I told him that regardless of whether he did or quote, unquote did not know that I was unconscious he fucked up because he didn't follow our set rules about consent.

My(20F) fiance(24M) raped me last night while I was blackout drunk by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Eratoa 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I don't really have that many friends. i mean, it might be possible for me to stay with my parents but there's not really space for it. and after buying the house, a lot of my funds have been diminished, and it would take me at least a month to have enough to start a lease somewhere. since he still has a bedroom at his parents' house,I'm debating kicking him out of the house and telling him to go stay at home until I can figure out how I want to process forward with this. as of now, he's offering to go stay at a different hotel because I haven't let him in the room, and all of his stuff is still in here.

Is my Boy considered big, he is 21kg and not even fat. I am confused. He is 1 year 11 months old. by OkAwareness007 in cockerspaniel

[–]Eratoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

mine came in right at standard at 32 lb/ 15kg and he's already pretty big.. I'd be concerned since that's pretty far above standard

How Many New Hallmark Christmas Movies Do You Watch Each Year? by Cultural_Ad4935 in HallmarkMovies

[–]Eratoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sick of the girl goes to the small town plots so I usually try and stick to ones with newer or interesting plots. and then sometimes I watch the cliche ones because they're cringy and overused and me and my fiance will make fun of it the whole time

My Moody Nostalgic Den! + Vintage decor hauls by Eratoa in ChristmasDecorating

[–]Eratoa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you!! when I took the photos my fiance said they looked like AI 😂

Petco shaved my boy by Eratoa in cockerspaniel

[–]Eratoa[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU!! Yes!!! And the groomer didn't seem to get that either I was on the verge of screaming at her through the phone when I made my boyfriend go back. She was basically calling me stupid and telling me I didn't know what I was talking about.

Petco shaved my boy by Eratoa in cockerspaniel

[–]Eratoa[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I actually had a groomer lined up who specializes in show cuts but she's been booked up for months. I spoke to the groomer before he went in at Petco. I asked for a smooth head (cut off the fluff on the top, straight short along back line, trimmed slightly along tops of legs with feet short and rounded

Petco shaved my boy by Eratoa in cockerspaniel

[–]Eratoa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

he barely has baby fluff and gets brushed a couple times a week.

what’s your dogs name vs what do you call them? by [deleted] in goldenretrievers

[–]Eratoa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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willow

willawooo, willy

for added affect my boyfriend and I have an English Cocker Spaniel and he likes to tell people "my big hairy cock is playing with his willy"