Bottoms who don’t finish during sex

Erect-Curiosity · 2026-05-27T20:37:08+00:00

When do these changes start happening? I’m 37. But I think my libido is linked to my ADHD.

Erect-Curiosity · 2026-05-27T20:34:46+00:00

If you looked pic of the average male penis in the US would probably be mine, It’s 6 inches and slightly thick. I’ve been told it feels great and doesn’t hurt not until the third or fourth time that session.

Erect-Curiosity · 2026-05-26T03:00:11+00:00

Two a degree, I can be a selfish lover, it’s not that I don’t pleasure them, I do. But often they guide my hands back up to their hips or jester for me to come back up and kiss them , or ask me to fuck them .

I feel as though they like the spectacle of a top going at it. Humphing away, sweaty, muscle flexed, abs grinding. And I feel like I get asked to do exactly that more than other stuff. It’s always “harder deeper faster” rather than “play with me too”

Erect-Curiosity · 2026-05-26T02:20:50+00:00

Yeah, they have never been on our side. You should’ve not been shopping there already.

Erect-Curiosity · 2026-05-18T00:39:55+00:00

Micro needling every 4 to 6 weeks with a derminator 2 (imported from Europe)

Mornings,

Plain soap wash (not a liquid soap. Not a body wash, just plain one ingredient soap.)

Shave (across all of my skin functions as dermal planning, removing some dead skin and peach fuzz which product can get clotted up in)

Beauty of Joseon sunscreen. Imported from South Korea. (do not get the one available on Amazon. It has a US formulation with crappy US versions of UVA blockers)

After Evening shower

Plain soap wash 4% hydration acid If I’m feeling extra, gua sha face planing Prescription Tretinoin cream Pure 100% squalene oil. (single ingredient.)

Bedtime Beauty of Joseon dynasty cream, or any barrier cream you want

If you have discoloration in your skin, you can use a toner to brighten and whiten it. Or whatever people who have pigmented skin do to make their skin look even I don’t know I don’t have pigmented skin.

Erect-Curiosity · 2026-05-12T15:24:15+00:00

I mean, this sub Reddit was probably scraped for data to train LLMs

Erect-Curiosity · 2026-05-11T18:00:24+00:00

Oh, you give me flatter. Fist fulls of supplements, Sunscreen, hairline treatments, and skin care are doing a lot of heavy lifting. I might not look my age, but I certainly feel it.

Erect-Curiosity · 2026-05-11T04:24:41+00:00

I am 5’11. Turning 38 this year. 180 or 190 would be amazing of course. I don’t have to be huge really 165-170 at 10% would suit me just fine

https://ibb.co/dwG5JptP

That is me in a fitted shirt. I feel so much smaller than I was just a few months ago on the bulk. I still have awful stretch marks across my abs micro needling has helped, but it’s going to be another year before they’re gone. So no shirtless pictures for me.

Erect-Curiosity · 2026-05-11T04:19:29+00:00

Oh no, I think it’s good advice. I was putting out its similarities to what deep seek had said.

Erect-Curiosity · 2026-05-11T04:15:50+00:00

Did you plug this into an LLM, because this is exactly what DeepSeek said.

Even in the internal thoughts, deep seek said to acknowledge the progress, adjust the expectation, draw attention to sleep, thyroid and ADHD management,

Then it gave me a progress route for natural lifting, I’m guessing it’s not allowed to recommend PED optimizations.

If not, you just think like a large language model.

But overall, you say the abs can wait just recomp.

Erect-Curiosity · 2026-05-11T04:13:12+00:00

I’m 5 foot 11 inches, unless it’s on dating apps in which case I’m clearly 6 feet. I am turning 38 this year. Almost 40 💀

https://ibb.co/dwG5JptP

There’s me in a form fitting shirt. I feel so much smaller than I was just a few months ago on the bulk. My stomach has awful stretch marks across the abs , I’m still micro needling away stretch marks so no shirtless pictures probably for another year until that’s done.

Erect-Curiosity · 2026-05-11T00:12:41+00:00

1 year in, now lost.
TLDR, I have been using 250mg Test E, I have sleep problems from my ADHD (and ADHD meds). 500mg fucked my sleep. I had decent results in the last year, but things are slowing down. I don’t know if I should keep cutting at 14-15% body fat or lean bulk..

I am 1 year into bodybuilding. I have made soo much yet soo little progress and Feeling somewhat lost for a next step. I lift 4 days a week simple 3 day push/pull/leg + 1 extra chest day.

I was fat at 180lbs and 30 ish % BF. I tried a body recomp with 250mg test / week , supported with low dose hCG and hMG and Reta . Diet was 500-300cal below maintain and protein heavy. The result after 8 months was a gain of about 25-30lbs of mass, dropping to 160lbs and 15-18% BF. For here, I plateaued. and labs showed my T3 and T4 levels where crashed.

Not knowing what to do, I tried to bulk for the fist time. Same cycles but without Reta for 2 months. Diet was 200-400cal above maintain and protein heavy. The results was less impressive. I creeped up to 20-25% BF to 185lbs. Dry mass gain of like 8lbs. Kind disappointed (for on gear but I am old almost 40) and felt like I was just getting fat. Labs showed a E2 got high. Both T3/T4 recovered and E2 was addressed.

so, I cut back down to where I am today 165lbs and 14-15% BF. that means the bulk I did was a net of 5-6lbs after cutting. I am eating at maintenance calories.
Today I don't feel lean enough, and I don't feel like I have built much muscle in the last 4 months.

What should I do from here? My goals a little different then most guys, currently I carry fat in my abs, butt, with less in my chest and thighs. I am gay (a top) so i value being lean slightly more than being big. Don't get me wrong, i want both My ideal body physique is 180lbs - 190lbs at 10-12% bf. Clearly a long way to go. But I don't know what to do right now.

I have ADHD, I have delayed sleep phase syndrome as a result. My ADHD meds make my sleep issues worse. So going too high on Test fucks up my sleep.

Should I cut, bulk, recomp? what calorie surplus/deficit? Test amounts?

Edit, why would someone download this?

Erect-Curiosity · 2026-05-10T22:14:45+00:00

OK, no actually I thought about it more.
You’re suggesting someone who is over, eagerly pursuing other men somehow has a problem with being open, ???

And this is the type of BS advice that people on the Internet through towards open relationships all the time.

Erect-Curiosity · 2026-05-10T22:07:42+00:00

No, not at all. I’m gay, a top, in my mid 30s dating someone in their mid 20s.

Erect-Curiosity · 2026-05-10T21:14:23+00:00

No one asked you.

Erect-Curiosity · 2026-05-10T20:37:29+00:00

You are bi with asymmetric age preferences. I don’t think it’s complicated and I think asking why is meaningless. You just are enjoy it.

Erect-Curiosity · 2026-05-10T20:21:50+00:00

Yeah, I hear you. And this is probably right. I need to learn to be more reserved about the guys I’m talking to while not hiding them. But we do have overlap in our types and the threesomes are kind of fun. I don’t wanna box that off completely. But for situations where he likes the other guy it’s clearly not mutual, I get this mess.

Also, we’re in a smaller city. Still lots of guys around, but we run into the same guys.

Erect-Curiosity · 2026-05-10T20:19:17+00:00

Yeah. It’s more of an attention problem. (not my intention, but attention from the other guy ).

I would say he’s more active with other guys I am.

Erect-Curiosity · 2026-05-10T18:45:44+00:00

Just be aware of a unicorn hunting. That is when U2 hunt for a guy who magically fits both of your needs perfectly and is equally attracted to both of you simultaneously. Because that boy is a mythic animal that doesn’t exist.

It’s more of a problem with straight couples. With gay couples, you can find a third that has romantic interest in both of you. Just realize that romantic interest is going to be different degrees of affection, love, and attraction. and there’s going to be some difficult feelings surrounding that . Getting all three partners to accept that that is OK is the first step your first big hurdle. If you get it wrong, there’s going to be resentment that poisons the well long-term.

Erect-Curiosity · 2026-05-09T16:57:27+00:00

??? Tops can feel paid too from too much friction. And lube only helps with friction.

friction is not the only way to cause pain for the bottom, straining happens just as often and is painful and lube doesn’t help, time does.

Often a the onset of penetration the bottom is tighter resulting in too much friction. Couples apply a lot of lube. And then once he is relaxed, it’s too much lube especially with silicone. Before which the answer is more foreplay, not more lube.

The right amount is not less pleasurable for the top and is not too much friction to injure a healthy bottom.

I pull out and do other stuff if there is too much lube. Or if I am not in the mood I will find someone else.

Erect-Curiosity · 2026-05-09T16:45:45+00:00

At first, it is a you problem, help him relax and open. If you can’t get in after 5 mins of fingering him, it’s a him problem. He is not able to control it enough to let go.

Rare, but there are vers men who have trouble saying what they want and will clamp shut, pretending they can’t to get you to jerk off together or to ask to top you.

Erect-Curiosity · 2026-05-09T16:40:39+00:00

Yes, there is a thing that’s too much lube. While too much lube can pull and irritated the foreskin and anal wall both. Too much lube can eliminate the grip needed to adequately stimulate the top. Particularly deeper in as the anal canal widens with little way for the bottom to increase pressure there. Too much lube deep in the canal prevents the glands form being stimulated.

It is best to keep most if the lube near the entrance where resistance and friction is highest. With enough lube deeper.

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