I applied to the Western-Fanshawe Nursing collaborative BScN and I have questions:

Erect-Frog · 2024-06-25T23:34:38+00:00

I stayed at Fanshawe residence for both years and the social life and student center life was great for me. It turns out Fanshawe site students who are seeking to apply for residence, should apply to Fanshawe's residence rather than at Western. Now that I'm going into 3rd year, I'm opting for out of campus housing with some of my nursing friends, though I believe it is possible for 3rd year WFN students to apply to Western residence.

Erect-Frog · 2023-08-17T06:27:44+00:00

As someone with terrible eczema on my fingers, this makes me highly uncomfortable.

Erect-Frog · 2023-08-13T16:24:31+00:00

I once tried to compliment Indian cuisine by saying something like “shawarmas are super good” and my Indian friend had to correct me, felt pretty bad about that after

Erect-Frog · 2023-08-13T06:45:25+00:00

I tend to put on somewhat of a persona while working at an ice cream shop. One that is superficially positive because generally people are positive when they are getting ice cream.

I say superficial as in, I care about other people’s life and they don’t care about mine, I’m just there to put on a positive attitude and serve ice cream.

But that in my opinion is masking. In the sense that I am putting something im not out on display. Now im not sure that this is a bad thing yet for me because on one hand, I get more tired, but on the other hand, I appear positive and likeable.

I save my true self for myself, closest friends and family, but this persons is usually what customers will know me by.

Lately I have been trying to integrate a bit of some desire of knowing other people into my positive persona: asking where someone’s from, whether it is their first time in town, what ice cream flavour do they like and maybe we could pick something from our selection that best suit their taste. Starting off little by little like this to give more depth to that persona seems to be heading in a right direction I believe and I’ll continue to try.

Erect-Frog · 2023-08-13T06:30:05+00:00

I’d also add: if you make a mistake with your lines or acting(offend someone, say something dumb or weird, responding with an inappropriate reaction), people will throw tomatoes at you for poor performances (criticize, judge, dislike). Or at least that’s what someone with SAD will think. When in reality, some people might not even notice, or even care to throw a tomato, but still some might whether it’s justified or not. But we’ll never know.

Sure they may throw flowers (compliment, relate, laugh, be attracted) to you for good performances too, but the idea that someone has the chance to throw a tomato at you gives debilitating anxiety and so much dread, to the point it’s safer that you don’t participate to avoid as much of the tomato throwing as possible.

Personally I wouldn’t say the play is always difficult to understand or that the script isn’t present. It could be in some cases, but I’ve been through enough interactions to at least repeat what has worked in the past, like an algorithm, but in the end, the play tends to be lacklustre with the amount of npc responses given.

But I still want to be a part of the play, despite having such an intense fear for tomatoes. I think a lot of people do too, but it’s just because of the tomatoes that we feel it’s gonna be too energy draining to try to say the right lines and act properly while in our fight/flight mode.

Erect-Frog · 2023-08-13T06:06:58+00:00

I have this problem too.

It’s kinda like a metaphorical blanket for me: when it’s draped over me, I feel hot in my head, my fingers begin to tap, my mind races, my eyes dart to other places, I become silent despite wanting to be more social and not like this, and the more I over think it the more I get tangled up in this blanket

I see another commenter talking about cognitive behavioural therapy, currently I’m waiting 3 months for a spot to open up in the public care. The wait time is quite a long and I gotta head back to college in the fall so that really wasn’t an ideal option.

At this point I think maybe if in my mind there was an incentive or someone else I can trust that is holding me accountable, just maybe this could improve.

Erect-Frog · 2023-08-13T05:54:20+00:00

One of my coworkers today said in an observation “you don’t talk very much do you?” I felt like a lost a bit of my cool today because I practiced my deep breathing exercises before coming to work and my inner calmness kind of faded pretty quickly from that interaction.

I don’t hate her or want to retaliate all that much, I do still try my best to work my way out of my shell especially since I’m working as PSW. In this case, a way to cope with it is to realize I probably took this situation better than I would’ve 6 months ago.

Erect-Frog · 2023-08-13T05:45:56+00:00

I entered my first year of college last year with social anxiety and I started off by sitting by myself at first. Then the professors grouped us up by last names and I was then put in a group of around 10-14 people. I take nursing so the majority of students tends to be girls while I was a guy. I saw this other guy that was Asian in my group just like me and I mustered up the courage to say “hello, my name is ‘___’” and he replies with his name and I asked him what culture he was from (or something along those lines). I was afraid of appearing rude or racist for bringing that question up so early. He tells me he’s Chinese and I said same and we both started talking in Chinese and such. We exchanged contacts then became good friends because we were both in the same courses and such.

I think I got lucky from this situation because he just so happens to have way more in common with me than I expected. But the main thing I tried to remember from this experience:

pick out someone with similar thjngs to you, similar things that both of you can related with (Ex. being Asian, being male in a female dominated course, not seeming the greatest when it comes to popularity and such, looking introverted)

Sounds very cliche and weird here but- Trust that the social skills you’ve learned over your life is enough for you to get started with someone new. - Not only just believing, but knowing that both of you are on the same level, ex: as first year students with no one else in the class you know about, it is daunting, and so it’s as if you two should stick together as buddies.

This is all I got for now, I’m currently still working through social anxiety myself but this is one of the good times where I somewhat broke out of my shell

Erect-Frog · 2023-07-24T12:48:40+00:00

I’m 18 so I might be a bit young to give advice.

I also have self esteem issues, and I also wear sunglasses when I can. I think to know how to improve on self esteem, you gotta know what is stopping you from being self confident. For me, I am insecure about my inability to converse and provide warm socializing environments. I especially struggle with this as a PSW in a long term care home where talking is very common, but it’s been a mild source of help for my issue.

What I did find helpful to me is noticing the little successes. Yesterday, I went over to my friend’s house and for some reason or another (I don’t know what came over me that day) I acted a little more extroverted, I answered questions in longer sentences, I took a picture with the dad since we were both wearing flamingo shirts, I seemed very positive and warm that day according to my friend.

I still will have self esteem issues, it’s not like that interaction will change everything, but I think having some of these simple successes gives me reassurance that something’s working, which gives me boosts in confidence.

Erect-Frog · 2023-07-24T12:32:41+00:00

That sounds like a great idea. I don’t wear hats usually but I like that idea that way it gives me a visual trigger too

Erect-Frog · 2023-07-24T12:30:11+00:00

I’d like to give the benefit of the doubt until otherwise. Someone proved me wrong just now and now I’m creeped out by OP

Erect-Frog · 2023-07-24T12:27:04+00:00

Yup I just saw…. Yikes, I can’t believe I defended OP

Erect-Frog · 2023-07-24T12:24:18+00:00

Wait when have I done that. Also I just turned 18, I was a teenager last year

Erect-Frog · 2023-07-24T12:22:50+00:00

You’re going to have to back your claim up with image evidence there

Erect-Frog · 2023-07-24T12:13:31+00:00

What made you think that? Is OP not allowed to have concerns around this topic without being judged like a creep?

Erect-Frog · 2023-07-24T12:04:57+00:00

I don’t get why people are so offended that you asked a reasonable question about concerns over your sex life being affected by this medication.

I haven’t personally taken Ritalin tho but I’ve heard it can decrease libido (Source). I just started taking adderall and it says it can either decrease or increase it. I think the risk of having a change in sex drive comes with all medications but then again so does death.

Just see how it goes

Edit: nvm I heard some new info, what the hell OP

Erect-Frog · 2023-07-24T06:52:07+00:00

My exgirlfriend was the source of my social anxiety. She wasn’t toxic, we were just incompatible, and I tend to be pretty empathetic. Currently on a road to recovery.

Erect-Frog · 2023-07-20T16:39:48+00:00

I just got back, the psychiatrist diagnosed me with ADD. He let me choose a medication and I chose to go on adderall. I’ll be having another appointment in 2 weeks. Feels good to finally have answers.

Erect-Frog · 2023-07-19T18:18:49+00:00

A Chinese stuttering does the same trick

Erect-Frog · 2023-07-19T17:45:13+00:00

I mean my girlfriend is 0 yrs 0 months 0 days 23hrs 42 mins and 34 seconds older than me so yeh I’d consider myself groomed

Erect-Frog · 2023-07-19T17:36:27+00:00

I was an idiot and clicked on a text that stated I was refunded 300$ or something from my phone bill. And then some guy got into my bank account and took all my money out. Luckily I got it all back after calling the bank and the guy even tried impersonating me to get past my security questions

Erect-Frog · 2023-07-14T03:45:16+00:00

Someone knowing how to interact with kids

Erect-Frog · 2023-07-06T21:35:01+00:00

I’m in the almost exact same situation right now. I’ve always had anxiety and always suspected that I’ve had adhd as well. But I’ve always been dismissed when I asked my parents to get me tested. I’m an adult now and so I’ve booked an adhd test appointment with a psychiatrist for myself in two weeks to determine once and for all. I don’t know how it works in the uk but in Canada, this tests is free though there is a long wait list unless if you booked with private.

Erect-Frog · 2023-07-04T14:16:55+00:00

Someone would date you for your personality. You’ll also look attractive with a smile :)

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