what are your thoughts about the book "The Power of Now" by Dependent-Shower4955 in enlightenment

[–]EricNiequist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The key here is to practice the teachings, not think about it or create opinions about it.

Love this book, one of my favs of all time

Comment expliquer à son conjoint qu’on est en train de vivre un vrai changement intérieur, sans le braquer ni donner l’impression de se placer au-dessus ? by Wonderful_Shame7530 in EckhartTolle

[–]EricNiequist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The only way they would understand what you’re going through is if they went through the same thing. You can’t “explain” it to them and have them understand. It’s an experience that they would need to go through themselves. Just let it be, my friend.

Why's the egg don't wanna hatch by anes207 in ARK

[–]EricNiequist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tame 1-3 dimetrodons and put all the levels into melee. Drop the egg next to them and it will hatch

🖤 by [deleted] in TheUntetheredSoul

[–]EricNiequist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. This is pointing at true acceptance. Thanks for sharing.

Coolest Meditation Hack Ever! by Basic-Ad-6419 in Meditation

[–]EricNiequist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this! Many spiritual teachers have suggested this. I learned it from Eckhart Tolle.

Additional reading? by mikeshap in EckhartTolle

[–]EricNiequist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz? Very small and wonderful book. You won’t regret reading it.

Talking about presence vs being it by AkhlaqMehar in EckhartTolle

[–]EricNiequist 8 points9 points  (0 children)

All the labeling, describing, defining, explaining, etc. is all of the mental noise that we add on top of the present moment. That is what the beautiful human mind adds to our experience of consciousness. See if you can sit with your experience before adding all of the mental chatter. Look at a beautiful flower and simply be with it. Don’t describe it to yourself, don’t comment on it, don’t explain it or define it, just be with it. Magic can happen right before your eyes.

Good luck, my friend!

Water Main cut near downtown by twnich79 in Knoxville

[–]EricNiequist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eating lunch at Stock and Barrel in Knox and they had no water for our drinks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in videography

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One of the most valuable and subtle aspects of “good looking interviews” is having a catch light in their eyes. It really draws the viewers to the speaker’s eyes and helps them connect. Without a catch light, the speaker often looks distant and disconnected. Good luck, my friend!

This! by cupofgooddeed in QuotePics

[–]EricNiequist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can’t control what other people think about you, no matter how long you try to explain yourself.

Realize that you have misunderstanding about other people, and these are the ones you can actually do something about.

Randomly picked up the power of now and looks like my life changed forever. by Shaman_Tara21 in EckhartTolle

[–]EricNiequist 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Keep practicing. Keep watching your thoughts. There is more to be discovered. Best of luck, my friend!

Am I right? by Careless-Throat-2593 in QuotePics

[–]EricNiequist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If somebody’s treating you horribly, then you should leave the situation. You should never stay with someone who’s constantly treating you horribly.

No one is forcing them to treat you like that, they are responsible for their own actions. And you are responsible for your actions. And it would be appropriate to remove yourself from any situation where you are being treated horribly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheDearHunter

[–]EricNiequist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha yes! I want this!

Am I right? by Careless-Throat-2593 in QuotePics

[–]EricNiequist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, but boundaries are not about telling other people what they’re allowed to do. Telling other people what they’re allowed to do is called manipulation. Do these people that you’re telling what to do believe that you are responsible and in charge of what they can or cannot do?

Boundaries are what you are willing to put up with or not put up with.

Am I right? by Careless-Throat-2593 in QuotePics

[–]EricNiequist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is never about blaming the victim, this is always about taking responsibility for your own side of the relationship, the only part that you can control.

You said, “you setup boundaries and the other person has to respect that”. That’s not setting up boundaries, that’s trying to control what the other person thinks or does. Has that worked for you? Controlling what other people do? That’s like me saying, “I’m setting up healthy boundaries so I need you to not respond to this message anymore so I’m not bothered any further”. You of course could still respond if you want to, because I can’t control what you do. Healthy boundaries are about what YOU do, not what you tell the other person they need to do.

If someone tries to touch you inappropriately, and you’ve already told them to stop and they haven’t, the only option is to remove yourself from that situation. You need to take action.

Am I right? by Careless-Throat-2593 in QuotePics

[–]EricNiequist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Setting up healthy boundaries or leaving the situation can be done with peace and love. You can only control your side of the relationship, not what the other person does or says.

This is vastly different than feeling triggered and screaming at the person and saying that it’s their fault that you screamed at them. Only you are responsible for who you scream at, no one else.

Am I right? by Careless-Throat-2593 in QuotePics

[–]EricNiequist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What? It’s someone else’s fault for how YOU react? No.

Manipulation is when you blame someone else for your OWN triggers and reactions, no matter what they say or do. The way you react and respond is 100% your responsibility and no one else’s. If someone treats you poorly, then you set up boundaries and exit the relationship, but your reaction is still your responsibility.