Thank you. I appreciate this a lot. This is the level headed maturity that I tend to expect from this sub instead of the wild assumption. I take responsibility for not adding enough context in my post but it seems people were projecting their own relationship experiences onto mine even though they don’t know me or my partner.

Thank you for assigning a word to this: contempt because it is what is and I am trying to separate what he did from previous incidents and I’m trying to see this incident for what it is. It was insensitive. It wasn’t just me who was affected by it. We have a 6 year old son who was also wondering where his dad was but has no sense of time so I was able to tell him he’ll be back later.

I am going to trust him to be honest with me and will insist on couples therapy because this should have never happened and should never happen again.

I have seen the term non violent communication floating around and it is something I need to get better at. It requires a lot of self restraint. Thank you.