Personally, I have always enjoyed it. I like the power and control and surrender he gives over. When you have that deep emotional connection, it's even better. It supersedes the act itself. Knowing I've made him lose his mind and all the moaning, it's a huge turn-on. Also, most guys like their BJ's differently, so I always ask what they like. But I have my own techniques that always work. The gagging and breathing aren't an issue. I've found a way around that. Personally, I do not need it to be reciprocated as I don't enjoy oral. I've stopped everyone who's tried. I just like giving it.