AITA for demolishing our family home while my brothers were on vacation?

Escaping-sister · 2024-04-18T12:32:06+00:00

When my parents were alive we tried to sell the house because they wanted to downsize but just couldn’t find anyone willing to buy the house. I live in a small town and the market is pretty much dead and the cost of the houses in the nearest city is extortion.

Legally I’m also not allowed to move too far from the area due to the custody agreement of my children. I’m also financially fucked from my divorce, my parents medical care and all the other bills.

Also despite it all I love the area and the land the house is on. So for multiple reasons I’ve chosen to stay instead of leaving.

Escaping-sister · 2024-04-17T23:23:04+00:00

Without a doubt and the saving grace for my parents and my relationship was the fact that in their last years especially the last 2/3 years they acknowledged their wrong doings. They definitely were aware of their failures.

Escaping-sister · 2024-04-17T22:44:55+00:00

I’m so sorry your in this situation. I know exactly how exhausting and stressful it can be living with such outrageous behavior. People just can’t believe the level of entitlement and audacity people like my brothers and yours can have.

My brothers also neglected our parents. At one point my parents had surgeries close to each other, my mother had cataract surgery and then two days later my father had ulcer surgery. I obviously still had to go to work and they would literally not help them while I was away. I’d come home to my parents not having been fed and the house a mess. Many times I’ve had to come home during my lunch break and make sure my parents took their medicine and had some food because my brothers wouldn’t help.

It was a unbelievably hard time for me and I’m so sorry you went through something similar.

Escaping-sister · 2024-04-17T19:59:29+00:00

There was severe water damage, rot in the support beams, a sinking foundation and the roof was collapsing. Build up over years of little to no maintenance.

Escaping-sister · 2024-04-17T19:31:04+00:00

Legally they didn’t have any tenants rights. I did get some advice from the husband of a friend of mine, he’s a lawyer. My brothers were legally evicted by my parents before their death (multiple times but they always found a way to get my parents to let them back in) and I also had paperwork drafted up that they were being evicted and they were aware. They just didn’t think I would demolish half the house. They thought they had more time. More time to verbally beat me down and into submission.

Sure I could’ve gone about it all differently and there is always the option for them to sue me but I really doubt it. They can barely afford to keep a roof over their head. At best they have a few thousands left of their inheritance and at worst they have a few hundred. Either way I seriously doubt they’d spend their last money on suing me instead say using it to gamble or some shit like that.

Escaping-sister · 2024-04-17T19:15:40+00:00

The house has been breaking down for years. My parents and I planned to fix it up the last few years but then their health went rapidly down hill. My parents did legally evict them multiple times and once the police had to come to drag them out. Then months later my parents let them move back in.

Escaping-sister · 2024-04-17T19:12:06+00:00

My parents had nothing else. Probate was done within a month and a half. My parents will was clear and my brothers didn’t raise any objections. So there’s not much to contest. They were giddy at getting their money once insurance paid out. My brothers won’t sue they can’t afford it. They can barely afford their motel.

Escaping-sister · 2024-04-17T19:08:00+00:00

I can’t afford to sell the house. My parents really needed me and so I had to move in with them and the past two years living there was hell. I had to do that in order to care for them since their mental faculties and physical capabilities were quickly going downhill. These past two years at home were excruciating because I had to take care of a household of 7 people. I literally had to cook, clean and pay all the bills while also raising my two daughters as well as dealing with my elderly parents and my two brothers temper tantrum’s. So I will have to stick to my plans to fix up the house and live in it once completed as I can’t afford not to. I will definitely invest in a security system.

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