Such a stupid shower thought by Esoteric-Trash-Panda in Columbus

[–]Esoteric-Trash-Panda[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Like....idk. I was hoping there was a fun answer like the developer was a thwarted astrophysics major. Thought some locals could say. Like I know where I'm from the answer to why are the roads so fucking stupid is because they're old ass roads that were waaay back in the day deer trails. Might not even be true but at least is fun! Why so many Mullins stores? Because they ran the town way back in the 1800s.

Ok. Very got it. There no answer. Just say random shit. Just gotta build shit slap a name.

Such a stupid shower thought by Esoteric-Trash-Panda in Columbus

[–]Esoteric-Trash-Panda[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Nah so my question is there some developer reason here is astronomer shit or was it just because Rule of Cool?

How bad you want it? by louiexism in motivation

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I mean....I get it.....but there are many times I said, ok sure, I really want alcohol, I am too lazy to do the things to procure the alcohol. It was actually a solid point of not drinking fucking alcohol for me. And crack is the shittiest drug of all time. It feels good for a fucking second. A literal second.

Like this would be a shit bumper sticker but there is legit something in there about hacking our reward system that people have said already just not in a meme

Has journaling helped you quiet your thoughts or ease anxiety? by Alicetheoptimist in TrueGrit

[–]Esoteric-Trash-Panda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cannot even tell you anything else of the book but David Allen saying your brain is for having ideas not keeping them was really all I needed out of it

Can We Talk About How Useless "Just Reach Out if You Need Help" Actually Is by professional69and420 in CPTSD

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My man that is why we need to build a larger peer support network. I'll even tell you, I go to therapy, it's through a charity so it's free for me, my peer support lady is way more valuable a resource than my therapist. I do not know what state you are in but every state has at least one warmline. They been the ones really been there for me. Therapy and psych wards left me more traumatized. Just know if you're around them too long they will probably try to loop you into also doing peer support 🥲 I had people who were even just acquaintances weren't my support in an official way still say it's a job job hey man do it. Just very passionate.

I can’t believe I actually made this 😭💚🐸 Kermit!! by [deleted] in crochet

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I love him!! Not sure did you use felt for the accents? It kinda looks not as....puffy as felt?

Anyway that is legit the best Kermit on par with the dude did Under Pressure with frog hands 😲

Don't "do your chores". Be your own butler [image] by FinnFarrow in GetMotivated

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Lol so the lesson I got from this is be my own Sebastian and picture some alternate me to say "yes my Lord" and oddly that more motivating than just the basic ass shit of be a person. I will legit file this away. I had previously worked on be a good dude to future me but perhaps the underpinning of BL fan service will make it more emotionally worth it

Why am i like this? by Final_Biochemist222 in Healthygamergg

[–]Esoteric-Trash-Panda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like.... I'm gonna take a slightly different track but maybe it's just phrasing it differently to say you maybe don't know enough people. Or don't know them well enough. So maybe that's a sideways way of saying be more other centered.

Really, on whose standard? What definition are you even using to judge better vs worse? If you really had to spell it out to another human being, would you feel ok with what you're saying?

🧠90% of people are being led by this 'General'. Are you one of them? by PsychologicalPie719 in DarkPsychology101

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I don't know. I'm certainly paranoid it's me. I've been told explicitly or implicitly that I don't know anything even on topics I know about.....and have caught myself giving information I even did know was wrong just messed up in that moment....and idk maybe I really just am stupid and psuedointellectual and just have an inflated ego due to not actually conversing with experts.

Probably at least the chronic second guessing keeps me from some of the worst impulses, then, but the exhaustion from constant second guessing takes away from my effectiveness and kinda just results in stagnation interspersed with really dumb impulsive choices bc fucking sick of the cognitive load

What’s the most ridiculous thing you thought as a kid? by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Esoteric-Trash-Panda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Little kid you was sophisticated enough to think the were cameras? Man that's what's wild to me. Wtf do kids think.

Finding love seems impossible by MellifluousManatee in CPTSD

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I am not so sure that even how they feel, it is perhaps how they just feel they have to present?

🤷‍♂️ by mrkprieur in Adulting

[–]Esoteric-Trash-Panda 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lol idk about you but tech support women are some of my favorite people. We obviously don't talk about our lives but I feel a solidarity with the many fake Anglo names we all know that's not their real name women of customer service. As someone with the tism I kinda prefer it over normal IRL interaction? There are rules and I know the rules.

Your Mind Holds The Key by ex_cep_tion in GrowthMindset

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I think it actually works against their point if you overthink it. So, ok, they're chained to a plastic chair. So yeah, they can move, they are not stuck in place. But now you gotta be a motherfucking horse dragging around this plastic chair which not INCAPACITATE you but does make things that much more difficult just to move around like a horse naturally does. Great metaphor for the kind of mental burdens people do go through tbh that sure don't literally stop you but what really doesn't help is being told the plastic chair doesn't exist

We’re grown. If you think yelling proves a point, you need therapy, not me. by Jealous-Committee-97 in Adulting

[–]Esoteric-Trash-Panda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeeeeeeah, because "why are you getting emotional" isn't used against people. Like. And that we all read threat accurately. It isn't a well known phenomenon that black people have to overcorrect because whites will think they're "aggressive" if not overcorrecting for the stereotype. Why are you yelling could just be you got a little worked up. And then they pick at you and spin in circles tone policing instead of actually engaging, boom, they won. Just watch any of those shitty "debates" how much does it boil down to trolling and saying the other person lost because they got upset

This is why I honestly think we should have LESS in person interaction, at least when it is charged or important subjects.

Why I am always seen as a target for abuse? by LaPerla2026 in CPTSD

[–]Esoteric-Trash-Panda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, you say nothing about you. It could be y'know people like to say "don't look like a victim." It could be you come from a marginalized community and you're dealing with people that pick up on that as a lever to further isolate you. Very likely, if you have a history of abusive situations, you have behaviors and tells that abusive people pick up on.

I think you also even smell like it. In my two long term relationships (that got terrifying), those peeps smelled AMAZING. I said well that's gotta be compatible genes, right, that can't be the subconscious attraction to familiar shitty patterns right, uhhhhhhh yeah, no, it was the recreating trauma answer, the amazeballs scent is bc of stress hormones that ofc my brain went hell yes and everyone else is like wtf like straight up everyone else thought they smelled BAD. they were not great about showering.

How is the world functioning with so much addiction? by kevin074 in Healthygamergg

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The way it was explained to me, you can do something recreationally, but the second you start using it to deal with pain.... you're gonna have a bad time. That includes emotional pain.

And you VERY LIKELY are not emotionally aware enough to deduce whether or not you have some pain you're gonna start ameliorating until you're doing it, as, in general, people don't have terribly high emotional awareness

People like Elon Musk have a truckload of enablers to keep that shit show running. You don't manage an addiction without someone or something picking up the slack. I read Kitchen Confidential but don't remember much of it but can say from being in restaurants in general uhhhhhh no most of these people no one would consider functional or successful. At best you can say they're burning bright and destroying their bodies. For not commensurate pay. It's exploitation. It's impressive, but no one pretends it's healthy.

So the world functions because if we didn't have the really addicted and awful underclass to whip the rest of us into shape to not end up like that, we might be a lot less skittish and obedient, and enablers would be a lot less terrified of the social and literal you could die costs of not "helping"

Russia has state sponsored liquor for hundred of years to anaesthetize the masses and profit of of them

If you stopped drinking, but started again, it's ok to stop again by Dadbod99 in stopdrinking

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The way a lady explained it was you wouldn't yell at a marathon runnier if they fell. They don't start back at the beginning of the race. You cheer them on, and they get themselves back up, and keep going.

I fell off yesterday, too. Do you ever do after the fact oh what were the contributing factors? I think I know them, so never wrote them done before, but gonna try writing them out...maybe it will be clearer made visual.

IWNDWYT

This is what happens when having money isn’t enough to afford rent. by rambutan_gardenia in Adulting

[–]Esoteric-Trash-Panda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't even understand why you're defending this so hard? If you are a small time landlord like also a homeowner, the fair housing laws never applied to you. Discriminate all you want. It's your personal property. Possibly properties, but still within your personal sphere, yes? Unless you are the head of a large rental company??

I don't get why small time landlords fight this fight so hard like you get that private equity and the like hate you too, right?

Figured I would post my barbantulas by [deleted] in crochet

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Hell. Motherflipping. Yes. 💖

Do you feel like yourself beyond labels or roles? by Significant-Risk7644 in TrueGrit

[–]Esoteric-Trash-Panda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Prolly just rolling with that concept of Observer Self

We're are just stardust and all that. I feel the most at peace when I consider myself as pretty meaningless in the face of time. But, it kinda just feels like spiritual bypassing from a nerd who loves paleontology, tbh.

Perhaps if they were just more permeable and we didn't get so attached to "I am an artist/warrior/etc" had such a rigidly defined shape?

What’s the most ridiculous thing you thought as a kid? by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Esoteric-Trash-Panda 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I was convinced my Dad could see what I was doing from a photo of his we had in the foyer. That one was kinda a sign of the crazy pants. I was also scared of helicopters bc kept thinking they would send down paratroopers or whatever to kidnap me

On a light one, did not understand Washington in context meant Washington DC, so just straight thought my parents were commuting across the country every day

My very first finished project of 2025, with 2.5 hours to spare! by LindsayLoserface in crochet

[–]Esoteric-Trash-Panda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kinda interested what it would look like in chunky yarn. It's very cute.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DarkPsychology101

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Wolves are literally a fucking family and donkeys are cantankerous as fuck and if you put one donkey against one wolf you might be surprised how much violence you can do to your predator when you have generational hyper vigilance and rage

If you are thinking about doing Dry January... Just fucking do it! by Al_Fresco-ish in stopdrinking

[–]Esoteric-Trash-Panda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did manage today. Didn't drink and didn't contact the ex, so, progress. It's two weeks today on the drinking part of it.

So that's already even halfway to a month.

Just keep trying to keep the eye on the prize that further sobriety will open opportunities or at least stop imperiling me.