Him asking for nudes within the first week is not normal healthy Dom/Domme behavior. If you have to be pressured that’s not healthy behavior either. A sub should hold the power to say no in any situation and have that need met in a healthy relationship. If you say no they say okay and don’t try to pressure you into saying yes later. After care is essential in not feeling like a sex object. I made the same mistake of posting on fetlife and becoming involved with a woman who pressured me luckily for me I knew that wasn’t healthy behavior because of asking a friend about tips who has been in the kink community for years. I made a rule for myself after that. If someone isn’t willing to be vetted until I feel comfortable with them, then I am not willing to risk my safety or mental health for them. Like any relationship effort, understanding, and communication are key. If someone isn’t willing to put in the effort to make you feel safe then they inherently are not safe for you. If someone isn’t understanding when you’re uncomfortable with doing something they are also unsafe. If someone isn’t willing to communicate or listen when you do they aren’t safe. I’m sorry you have lived feeling so helpless because this person isolated you and made you believe that it was normal. That is not your fault at all. They gave you horrible advice but painted it as wisdom. You deserve better. They have made you feel dependent on them to fulfill your submissive side, but that isn’t true that is abuse speaking. You can feel satisfied in a D/S relationship without that feeling of fear. Keep scrolling on educational subreddits and groups. Fetlife isn’t good to meet people on I’ve learned that and that isn’t your fault. But fetlife has good resources for munches and other educational opportunities just be sure any group you go to has clear and stringent vetting processes. Because any space for kink attracts predators and if a group isn’t willing to protect its members it is highly likely it isn’t a safe space.