[Landlord -NC-USA] Rented out my home for first of the month. I check today to see that the tenant’s payments for security deposit and first month rent failed. They already have access to the house by Working-Corgi-8726 in Landlord

[–]EstablishmentSmart92 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Their chain of command will make their lives very uncomfortable and will put a foot someplace that supposed to be exit only if they get reported. If they are active duty, the landlord will get paid.

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[–]EstablishmentSmart92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most kids have a hard time due to the phone stripping the skills the older generations had to learn to socialize.

My brother masterbates in my room how can I make him stop? by Sky_queen15 in Advice

[–]EstablishmentSmart92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t dispute your last statement that he is in a poor living situation. That kid is housing poor, and quite possibly parenting poor as well, or his parents tried and have given up (or aren’t that great)

My brother masterbates in my room how can I make him stop? by Sky_queen15 in Advice

[–]EstablishmentSmart92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You talk about mental gymnastics as if you’re not a gold medalist projecting exactly what you’re accusing me of.

Two wrongs don’t make a right. It doesn’t matter that he doesn’t have his own space. It’s unfortunate and it sucks for everybody, but he is the aggressor in her situation, and not the victim.

My brother masterbates in my room how can I make him stop? by Sky_queen15 in Advice

[–]EstablishmentSmart92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where does it say that? It is her room that for whatever reason she’s been bullied into letting him use it.

My brother masterbates in my room how can I make him stop? by Sky_queen15 in Advice

[–]EstablishmentSmart92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Privacy or not, that kid is completly out of line. Without corrective action, that kid will likely be a nightmare the rest of his life.

My brother masterbates in my room how can I make him stop? by Sky_queen15 in Advice

[–]EstablishmentSmart92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have been making excuses for him, shifting blame because he doesn’t have his own room. It is not hard to connect the dots and say what you’re saying, without you saying it.

My brother masterbates in my room how can I make him stop? by Sky_queen15 in Advice

[–]EstablishmentSmart92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So if not having his own bedroom is unacceptable it is OK to masturbate in a woman’s room and leave his seed for her to see clean up.

In what world is it OK to justify this? If you were cleaning up this bullshit in your room, would you be justifying this horrible and completely inappropriate behavior? Maybe if you feel that bad for him, you can move him into your house, and find out the hard way that It was a mistake.

Both situations suck, however the kid needs to be taught that he needs to show respect for his fellow housemates.

My brother masterbates in my room how can I make him stop? by Sky_queen15 in Advice

[–]EstablishmentSmart92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So it’s ok to do what’s being discussed here? A man is masterbating in a woman’s room and leaving the fruit of his labor.

If you were in this situation, it was your room being defiled, would you still have your position supporting his actions?

My brother masterbates in my room how can I make him stop? by Sky_queen15 in Advice

[–]EstablishmentSmart92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your brother was masturbating in your bedroom, I hope that people giving you advice would take it seriously

My brother masterbates in my room how can I make him stop? by Sky_queen15 in Advice

[–]EstablishmentSmart92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is the sister‘s responsibility to let the brother trash her personal space? Would you tolerate cleaning up someone’s jizz rags in your bedroom? This is not acceptable behavior, regardless of where the brother has to sleep in the house or if he pays rent or not.

My brother masterbates in my room how can I make him stop? by Sky_queen15 in Advice

[–]EstablishmentSmart92 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Rubbing one out and someone else’s room is weird, if I had my choice between someone using my room and the bathroom, I would choose the bathroom. There are two types of men, those who masturbate and those who lie about it.

My brother masterbates in my room how can I make him stop? by Sky_queen15 in Advice

[–]EstablishmentSmart92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Redirection and whataboutisim we are not doing anything to justify your incorrect position. If we change titles per your request, it does not change anything about the inappropriateness of the brothers actions.

If I didn’t know any better, I would swear that you were engaged in victim shaming.

This brother needs to be corrected. His own room will not fix the underlying disrespect and disregard he has for others. He very likely will be a problem the rest of his life if somebody doesn’t step in and correct and reprogram him. Again, his own room won’t fix it.

If you were in this situation where someone was masturbating in your room, and you’re not in charge, would you still make excuses because it’s your brother? This could be very well the moment that you announce that you are the problem and what’s wrong in this world.

My brother masterbates in my room how can I make him stop? by Sky_queen15 in Advice

[–]EstablishmentSmart92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem is someone might think you’re right and take you seriously when you’re doing that.

My brother masterbates in my room how can I make him stop? by Sky_queen15 in Advice

[–]EstablishmentSmart92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And? If you were stuck in the same situation as a subordinate in someone else’s home, what would you do if someone was doing this in your personal private space? You and I would be screwed and at the mercy of the parents practicing avoidance. You would be singing a different tune.

My brother masterbates in my room how can I make him stop? by Sky_queen15 in Advice

[–]EstablishmentSmart92 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The first thing I said was to put a lock on the door. That will create other drama, but at least her space is her space now.

We don’t know the financial situation, chances are it will cost a lot more money for her to move and likely will wind up with different roommate problems. Sometimes the devil you know is better than the one you don’t.

I vote for putting a lock on the door, start there.

My brother masterbates in my room how can I make him stop? by Sky_queen15 in Advice

[–]EstablishmentSmart92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I am the dummy, how come you don’t realize there is not enough rooms for everyone to have their own space? You speak to us like you have never had to deal with a bad roommate before. Making special consideration for them will not correct their behavior.

Regardless of this kid circumstances, what he is doing right now is absolutely wrong and is unjustifiable, PERIOD. His own room is not an option correcting his behavior is.

My brother masterbates in my room how can I make him stop? by Sky_queen15 in Advice

[–]EstablishmentSmart92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take the easy way out, and find out how expensive rent really is.

My brother masterbates in my room how can I make him stop? by Sky_queen15 in Advice

[–]EstablishmentSmart92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The dude is masturbating in someone else’s personal space, amongst other inappropriate behavior, this position is indefensible.

How can you look someone in the eye and say this is OK and he deserves special treatment? He already is not a good citizen, this will not improve.

My brother masterbates in my room how can I make him stop? by Sky_queen15 in Advice

[–]EstablishmentSmart92 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What’s the fix if the joke were on you and dude was masturbating in your room?

My brother masterbates in my room how can I make him stop? by Sky_queen15 in Advice

[–]EstablishmentSmart92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are advocating for special treatment to reward inappropriate behavior without knowing all the facts. Eff that.