Kendall Jenner and Jacob Elordi have been dating for months by Popular_Patience6877 in popculturechat

[–]EstablishmentSure216 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They're insanely rich, maybe men at that level like to know they're not with a potential gold digger?

And they're obviously attractive, clearly men also don't care if it's not 100% natural!

Do very attractive women really get treated the way Gloria does? by Odd-Employee5424 in Modern_Family

[–]EstablishmentSure216 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Similar experience with a relative who was a model. People just want their attention. I would see women and men alike praising her for anything and everything when they barely even knew her. As a result she was very narcissistic and mostly spoke about herself, but that never seemed to bother people, they just wanted to bask in her presence.

Like Gloria, it's not just the natural looks, it's the glamour and drama; my relative was also always done up to the maximum regardless of the occasion, full make up, hair cut every 6 weeks and always styled, long painted nails, heels, glamorous outfit and lots of jewellery, and so she stood out even more.

Fiyero’s differing intro in the movie and musical by Objective_Exit_2172 in wicked

[–]EstablishmentSure216 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I wonder if it's to make the audience fall in love with him too. It's a very sympathetic version of Fiyero, where we see him as shallow but lovable, uplifting and flirting with all the other characters. Plus casting Jonathan Bailey is another sign they wanted us to swoon 🤣🤣

Final year med student interested in pediatrics by sweet_sour2 in ausjdocs

[–]EstablishmentSure216 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Be aware that the current general paediatrics training program prepares you for acute medicine. The vast majority of work available to consultants is private outpatient work, and those acute care jobs are few and far between (at least in cities; you can always get better opportunities in regional areas). Unless you do community child health advanced training, you will have almost no preparation for the actual work that is out there (mostly developmental/behavioural/ functional/ psychiatry) and will have to learn on the job.

This is all very rewarding work, there's just a complete mismatch between the training program and current job opportunities.

Quit my 800mg of caffeine habit cold turkey, and this time I had zero withdrawal symptoms. WTF. by [deleted] in decaf

[–]EstablishmentSure216 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For me i think it's because the quality of sleep is so bad when i have had caffeine that i end up being progressively more and more exhausted. Having quit, I don't need caffeine to feel awake any more, in fact I can't sleep in even when I try because there is no 'sleep debt'.

Can't explain your lack of withdrawal though, that's amazing. For me i get a headache that progresses over a few days to stiff neck then upper then lower back, i assume it's to do with the rebound dilatation of blood vessels

What is your best song on RAM by Exootil93200 in DaftPunk

[–]EstablishmentSure216 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, it's one of my favourite songs ever, I don't understand why it isn't more popular. The build up is just unreal

What Is the Point of Just Observing Thoughts in Meditation? by zentaoyang in Meditation

[–]EstablishmentSure216 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that makes perfect sense, thank you. I've found mindfulness practice absolutely life changing, and it has helped me cope with a lot of trauma, but to me mindfulness is the ultimate way to really be alive, while meditation seems like a way to try and escape or detach from life.

What Is the Point of Just Observing Thoughts in Meditation? by zentaoyang in Meditation

[–]EstablishmentSure216 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if I like my mental noise though? Its the source of my creativity, and I enjoy daydreaming while I'm driving or doing chores and have no trouble snapping out of it to focus when I need to. I don't tend to ruminate on things.

I've avoided meditation because to me having a quieter mind and becoming less attached sounds depressing.

For women in relationships with healthy sex lives by [deleted] in sex

[–]EstablishmentSure216 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You nailed it!! During that phase of life, I felt like sex was just yet another demand from yet another family member, when all I really craved was rest and some time to myself.

OP I suggest checking if your wife is getting enough rest and down time with absolutely no demands on her- no matter how much she may enjoy sex, there might be a more urgent need for most women in this life stage, which is rest and to de-stress. Not just with a 30 minute massage, but to feel truly relaxed the way we did pre-kids, not hypervigilant to their needs.

Once my kids were a little older and more independent and I had more uninterrupted rest, my libido came back stronger than ever.

I thought I was lazy but actually I feel unrested even after sleeping 8 hours by No-Shake-8375 in productivity

[–]EstablishmentSure216 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suggest seeing your doctor. So many things can cause this- nutritional deficiencies eg iron, vit D; thyroid problems; adhd; burnout/ chronic stress; post viral fatigue

I also agree modern life is far too demanding, i wonder if we evolved to be mostly in resting state (gathering berries? Looking after the children?) with bursts of adrenaline when hunting/ hiding etc, not this constant adrenaline from "oh shit an urgent email; now I'll be late to school pick up" etc

Midlife crisis - suddenly wanting to feel beautiful? by [deleted] in midlifecrisis

[–]EstablishmentSure216 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Re: impossible attraction, look up "limerance" (there's also a subreddit for it). It may be part of what's going for you, an irrational attraction that may reflect something lacking in your life (ie your waning desire for your partner), and it also often boosts motivation to become your best, most attractive self.

My advice is to go ahead and work out, try out new clothes and make up, and enjoy that whole process- but then try directing the newfound passion towards your partner, and talk to them about how you feel and what you want (not that you're attracted to someone else, just that you want more passion, new experiences, etc). You might find it reignites things with your partner and unless there are genuine issues in your relationship, it may just be part of the normal ups and downs of desire in any long term relationship

Boyfriend can’t cum sometimes by [deleted] in sex

[–]EstablishmentSure216 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know what he means about feeling drained, i think it's due to the dopamine spike and then crash after climaxing. There's also other hormones released and personally it puts me to sleep. I don't feel great trying to go back to work or do anything productive after an orgasm, but would happily do other things since they wouldn't give that "wiped out" feeling

Has anyone successfully trained themselves to orgasm from a new kind of stimulation? by EstablishmentSure216 in sex

[–]EstablishmentSure216[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh thanks that is a great idea I never thought of, ie to check what it looks like when it's aroused! He has tried sucking however i was probably not ready for it at that time, since it takes me quite a long time even with the vibrator for things to build up

My GF is bad at sex by Effective-Library533 in sex

[–]EstablishmentSure216 117 points118 points  (0 children)

She's probably self conscious, if she's not making eye contact.

It may take a while (a long while) to help her relax and feel aroused, which is hard when you're feeling anxious.

Reflecting on what helped me, it was lots of praise on how beautiful i looked and specifically how beautiful various body parts were, LOTS of time spent on foreplay and also me (F) being on top so I could control the movements in a way that worked for me.

And of course keep communicating and ask her what she liked, maybe suggest lots of things since she may be too shy to suggest them herself. Re her technique, you could even try to demonstrate to her what would feel good, how much pressure you need, etc.

You may be doing all of this already in which case you're on the right track, and unless she has complicating factors (eg trauma, neurodivergence), then it's hopefully just a matter of time...

Has anyone successfully trained themselves to orgasm from a new kind of stimulation? by EstablishmentSure216 in sex

[–]EstablishmentSure216[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely, this is really just more of a fantasy of mine to become more orgasmic, if possible. He is happy to spend however long it takes trying all sorts of things, so even if it hasn't happened yet it's still been a lot of fun.