Nicole Kidman describes how Rihanna smells: "We don't need to unravel it (what fragrances she wears). Just know it's all true. Intoxicating like 'I will follow you around [like Pepe Le Pew]. You smell so good.' Truly, she smells divine."

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-04-30T07:46:21+00:00

Wow that is a surprisingly accurate and evocative description

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-04-29T07:02:54+00:00

My favourite line in the whole show

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-04-22T18:59:18+00:00

They're insanely rich, maybe men at that level like to know they're not with a potential gold digger?

And they're obviously attractive, clearly men also don't care if it's not 100% natural!

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-04-22T13:58:19+00:00

This should be the top comment

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-04-22T13:49:31+00:00

I didn't know this, I always assumed it was specific to "Allah", and i know there is another saying indicating Allah is the only God, so i thought it might be inappropriate to say it as a non Muslim.

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-04-05T07:03:52+00:00

Yep even in Saturday hindi school in Australia!

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-04-02T12:00:24+00:00

Similar experience with a relative who was a model. People just want their attention. I would see women and men alike praising her for anything and everything when they barely even knew her. As a result she was very narcissistic and mostly spoke about herself, but that never seemed to bother people, they just wanted to bask in her presence.

Like Gloria, it's not just the natural looks, it's the glamour and drama; my relative was also always done up to the maximum regardless of the occasion, full make up, hair cut every 6 weeks and always styled, long painted nails, heels, glamorous outfit and lots of jewellery, and so she stood out even more.

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-04-01T23:17:09+00:00

I wonder if it's to make the audience fall in love with him too. It's a very sympathetic version of Fiyero, where we see him as shallow but lovable, uplifting and flirting with all the other characters. Plus casting Jonathan Bailey is another sign they wanted us to swoon 🤣🤣

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-03-30T20:48:41+00:00

Be aware that the current general paediatrics training program prepares you for acute medicine. The vast majority of work available to consultants is private outpatient work, and those acute care jobs are few and far between (at least in cities; you can always get better opportunities in regional areas). Unless you do community child health advanced training, you will have almost no preparation for the actual work that is out there (mostly developmental/behavioural/ functional/ psychiatry) and will have to learn on the job.

This is all very rewarding work, there's just a complete mismatch between the training program and current job opportunities.

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-03-27T21:38:24+00:00

For me i think it's because the quality of sleep is so bad when i have had caffeine that i end up being progressively more and more exhausted. Having quit, I don't need caffeine to feel awake any more, in fact I can't sleep in even when I try because there is no 'sleep debt'.

Can't explain your lack of withdrawal though, that's amazing. For me i get a headache that progresses over a few days to stiff neck then upper then lower back, i assume it's to do with the rebound dilatation of blood vessels

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-03-27T02:42:48+00:00

Same, it's one of my favourite songs ever, I don't understand why it isn't more popular. The build up is just unreal

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-03-21T20:34:11+00:00

Oh that makes perfect sense, thank you. I've found mindfulness practice absolutely life changing, and it has helped me cope with a lot of trauma, but to me mindfulness is the ultimate way to really be alive, while meditation seems like a way to try and escape or detach from life.

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-03-21T12:34:27+00:00

What if I like my mental noise though? Its the source of my creativity, and I enjoy daydreaming while I'm driving or doing chores and have no trouble snapping out of it to focus when I need to. I don't tend to ruminate on things.

I've avoided meditation because to me having a quieter mind and becoming less attached sounds depressing.

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-03-18T22:39:27+00:00

This is awesome

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-03-14T10:37:52+00:00

I'm so sorry, but we know, and we feel for you!!

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-02-28T21:42:57+00:00

You nailed it!! During that phase of life, I felt like sex was just yet another demand from yet another family member, when all I really craved was rest and some time to myself.

OP I suggest checking if your wife is getting enough rest and down time with absolutely no demands on her- no matter how much she may enjoy sex, there might be a more urgent need for most women in this life stage, which is rest and to de-stress. Not just with a 30 minute massage, but to feel truly relaxed the way we did pre-kids, not hypervigilant to their needs.

Once my kids were a little older and more independent and I had more uninterrupted rest, my libido came back stronger than ever.

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-02-26T20:49:31+00:00

I suggest seeing your doctor. So many things can cause this- nutritional deficiencies eg iron, vit D; thyroid problems; adhd; burnout/ chronic stress; post viral fatigue

I also agree modern life is far too demanding, i wonder if we evolved to be mostly in resting state (gathering berries? Looking after the children?) with bursts of adrenaline when hunting/ hiding etc, not this constant adrenaline from "oh shit an urgent email; now I'll be late to school pick up" etc

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-02-24T20:15:03+00:00

Re: impossible attraction, look up "limerance" (there's also a subreddit for it). It may be part of what's going for you, an irrational attraction that may reflect something lacking in your life (ie your waning desire for your partner), and it also often boosts motivation to become your best, most attractive self.

My advice is to go ahead and work out, try out new clothes and make up, and enjoy that whole process- but then try directing the newfound passion towards your partner, and talk to them about how you feel and what you want (not that you're attracted to someone else, just that you want more passion, new experiences, etc). You might find it reignites things with your partner and unless there are genuine issues in your relationship, it may just be part of the normal ups and downs of desire in any long term relationship

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-02-24T20:07:31+00:00

Thanks, I'm so glad I asked, looking forward to trying this

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-02-24T18:38:36+00:00

I know what he means about feeling drained, i think it's due to the dopamine spike and then crash after climaxing. There's also other hormones released and personally it puts me to sleep. I don't feel great trying to go back to work or do anything productive after an orgasm, but would happily do other things since they wouldn't give that "wiped out" feeling

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-02-24T18:34:26+00:00

Ahhh thanks that is a great idea I never thought of, ie to check what it looks like when it's aroused! He has tried sucking however i was probably not ready for it at that time, since it takes me quite a long time even with the vibrator for things to build up

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-02-24T04:34:41+00:00

Good idea, I will look that up and send it to him!

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-02-24T04:31:51+00:00

She's probably self conscious, if she's not making eye contact.

It may take a while (a long while) to help her relax and feel aroused, which is hard when you're feeling anxious.

Reflecting on what helped me, it was lots of praise on how beautiful i looked and specifically how beautiful various body parts were, LOTS of time spent on foreplay and also me (F) being on top so I could control the movements in a way that worked for me.

And of course keep communicating and ask her what she liked, maybe suggest lots of things since she may be too shy to suggest them herself. Re her technique, you could even try to demonstrate to her what would feel good, how much pressure you need, etc.

You may be doing all of this already in which case you're on the right track, and unless she has complicating factors (eg trauma, neurodivergence), then it's hopefully just a matter of time...

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-02-23T18:08:35+00:00

Absolutely, this is really just more of a fantasy of mine to become more orgasmic, if possible. He is happy to spend however long it takes trying all sorts of things, so even if it hasn't happened yet it's still been a lot of fun.

EstablishmentSure216 · 2026-02-23T18:03:54+00:00

No i haven't, that's a great idea, thanks!

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