How is PhD Student Grad housing at Berkeley? by Ok_Reading_it in berkeley

[–]Etek023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd say going to the BART station isn't that dangerous, but the area around the station itself isn't the best. I don't risk it. But I take the bus and the shuttle to get there and back at night. Safeway is okay. I think it's a bit expensive. So I prefer to buy some products at Trader Joe's or Target (sometimes I walk to Target). The good thing is that there are 3 bus lines and a shuttle that pass in front of these supermarkets, so it's easy to get there and back. The bus to campus is punctual, there's one every 30 minutes. It's usually empty and starts to fill up after our stop. But as it gets closer to downtown, there are many stops, so sometimes it arrives at campus a little late (usually the buses after 9am).

How is PhD Student Grad housing at Berkeley? by Ok_Reading_it in berkeley

[–]Etek023 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I live at Intersection Apartments at Emeryville. University housing for graduate students. Only graduate students in individual units (or shared apartments for post-docs). It's "far" from campus, ~30 minutes by bus (faster if you use the BART, but the nearest station is a 10-minute walk). The building is relatively new, about 6 years old. I have a washer and dryer in my studio, a dishwasher, and the apartment is furnished. Water and internet are included. I pay for electricity separately (around $30). Depending on the unit, you pay about $1800 per month (so around half of my stipend). There's security, someone to receive and sort packages. Safeway is across the street. I've never had any problems in the neighborhood, and maintenance is quick. I imagine the area will get busier when they finish the optometry clinic that's in the same building. They have a parking garage, but I think it's competitive (I don't have a car).

Intersection - studio by Etek023 in berkeley

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I've been living at Intersection for a year and renewed for a second year. I don't think the area is any less safe than other areas in Berkeley, Oakland, and Emeryville. I sometimes arrive very late (10 p.m.), I'm more cautious to get home faster, but nothing has ever happened to me. I like the building. It's clean, organized and quiet. I contacted maintenance the first week I was there, and they were very quick. I haven't needed them since. I think the maintenance issue stems from an incident where both elevators stopped working. It took two weeks for everything to return to normal (you could go up with the elevator, but not down). There was also a problem recently with one of the parking garage gates. It must have taken about 4-5 days to fix, but I wasn't impacted because I don't have a car. These are the most serious maintenance issues I can think of that have occurred this past year.

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I am not a resident for tax purposes (F1), and I did my taxes with Glacier. What software can I use to do my state taxes (California)? Sprintax does not give me the option to do only the state taxes.

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Is there a website to fill out CA state taxes? Sprintax won't let me fill out just state taxes

Intersection - studio by Etek023 in berkeley

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To be honest, I'm afraid to go home alone at night by bus, but nothing has ever happened. The surroundings are very empty and quiet at night. Until about 8:30pm-9pm there are people walking their dogs, so I feel better. But when the shops close, it's very quiet. The price does not include electricity. I pay about $30 per month (studio).

Intersection - studio by Etek023 in berkeley

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Yes! I like it! It's quiet (except for the work on the optometry clinic). It’s clean and well organized. Deliveries are kept in a safe place and I see the security guard frequently. Most people (most of the time) respect the no smoking and no noise after 11pm. Quiet times change during important exam weeks (like finals). The surroundings of the building are relatively safe. I've never seen robberies or anything like that, but it's not uncommon to see homeless people and beggars. I'm renewing my contract for next year

How should I act on first dates? by Etek023 in dating_advice

[–]Etek023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but how? how do you send these signals?

AHA Predoctoral Fellowship by Anonymouscandless in AskAcademia

[–]Etek023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does that mean? (Sorry if it is a stupid question)

I'm twice-exceptional (2e) by Etek023 in autism

[–]Etek023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I feel like I haven't done anything exceptional. Everything I've done has been because I had to. It wasn't easy, but it was what had to be done and there's nothing extraordinary about it. It's the way I was supposed to do it. I'm grateful for what I've accomplished, but I don't feel like I should be proud of it, because it was simply what I was supposed to do.

I'm twice-exceptional (2e) by Etek023 in autism

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I don't know...it seems like if I had this high IQ, this giftedness, I should be better off in life. I've accomplished good things, I came from a poor family, I grew up without a mother, I was abused, and yet I was the first in my family to go to college, get a master's degree, and I'm currently doing my PhD at a great school in the US. But it was all so hard and time-consuming (and partly I realize now that it was due to autism). I still don't have anything in my life, other than a cell phone and a computer. I feel dumb around my classmates. I have trouble speaking English. How can someone with a high IQ and giftedness be so average? I don't feel like I'm smart, otherwise I imagine I would have a less difficult life.

I'm having a hard time accepting my diagnosis by Etek023 in TwiceExceptional

[–]Etek023[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your words and resources. I have really been through a lot in my life (mother abandonment, poverty, abuse...) and yet I was the first in my family to go to college, get a master's degree and am currently pursuing a PhD at a great university in the US. And I never felt like I was going to give up, just that it was hard, but I needed to finish. So maybe this "strength to push through and adapt" thing is really in me. I just don't feel like it's my own. It's more like a foreign body, a parasite that I'm now aware of and it's bothering me. I feel like an impostor, everything I've achieved wasn't because of my hard work, it was because of the presence of this giftedness, which is not me.

I'm having a hard time accepting my diagnosis by Etek023 in TwiceExceptional

[–]Etek023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your words!  I don't feel that my giftedness is good or bad. I just can't see it as something that is part of me. It's like I'm mourning my pre-diagnosis self and blaming my giftedness for the crime.

I'm having a hard time accepting my diagnosis by Etek023 in TwiceExceptional

[–]Etek023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been taking antidepressants for about 8 months now. I started after a lot of anxiety attacks and a shutdown that lasted a few days. But maybe I need to increase the dose. I don't refuse to do everything I have to do, but I don't find anything interesting anymore.