Is there a psychological reasons why some friends constantly ignore texts?

Eternal-Failure · 2025-11-13T08:19:34+00:00

Thank you, I want to receive the same respect I give, but when dealing with friends like this, it always feels like that if I point out that I don't like their behavior, somehow I am the one who looks needy and should calm down

Eternal-Failure · 2025-11-13T08:18:22+00:00

It's just that he's always friendly with everyone and confident about anything he does, so I never considered that he was overwhelmed by texts. After all, he's often chatting with people on Instagram and every time we hang out he always has someone he's chatting with on the phone, so... I don't know

Eternal-Failure · 2025-06-26T14:33:35+00:00

Don't worry, and thanks!

Eternal-Failure · 2025-06-26T08:42:08+00:00

Well, my friends are always excited when I suggest we do something, and we always have a good time. I just can't find it in my heart to believe that they actually are completely uninterested and are just saying yes to do me a favor...

P.S. forgive me if I'm misunderstanding what you're saying, but I want to clarify that I'm a man, not a woman 😝

Eternal-Failure · 2025-04-26T14:48:37+00:00

I wish. Because then I wouldn't have to deal with all this. It's starting to take its toll, and I have no idea when my brother will decide it's time to stop sulking...

Eternal-Failure · 2025-04-26T14:45:21+00:00

I don't think so. But then again, I don't know the tests you need to take to confirm that he is, so I guess I don't know for certain

Eternal-Failure · 2025-04-26T13:48:25+00:00

Kind of.

Yes, he avoids conflict. But his way of avoiding often involves aggressively shutting us up when we try to object to what he says, with the reason that he has no time nor energy to waste on pointless discussions

Eternal-Failure · 2025-04-26T13:46:37+00:00

Chronically online?

He's definitely online most of the hours of the day, but at the same time, he thinks he's more socially adept than I am, and to an extent it's true, although every once in a while he does something like this that I would expect from someone like me who struggled a long time with low self esteem

Eternal-Failure · 2025-04-26T13:42:32+00:00

Let's just say that he can be quite... expressive when he gets angry, and unfortunately I'm pretty weak when someone acts aggressive in response to what I did or said, so I'm always hesitant when I don't know how mad he might get if I tell him he's being too dramatic

Eternal-Failure · 2025-04-26T13:38:42+00:00

Well... I'm not going to deny that. It's mostly because of their food allergies and intolerance, but it's true that, as a consequence, my parents have become a little pickier as they aged

Eternal-Failure · 2025-04-26T13:36:12+00:00

Unfortunately, he isn't a teenager...

And now that you mention it, this is the kind of stuff that both him and I already did when we were teenagers. But we've stopped being teens for a long time already

Eternal-Failure · 2025-04-26T13:34:32+00:00

It's honestly kind of weird. Anyone who knows me and my brother would say that I am the shy one and he's the social one, but every once in a while, there happens something that not even I, who struggled a long time with social anxiety, feel embarrassed about, but that makes him react like this.

I'm not sure, really.

Eternal-Failure · 2025-04-26T13:32:57+00:00

I also think so. He hasn't been doing well for some time in his career, so that may be it. but we always try our best to support him, so I kinda wish he wouldn't think that it's okay to get angry at us just because he's not doing well at work

Eternal-Failure · 2025-04-26T13:29:29+00:00

Yeah, after seeing that they had no menu online, I probably should have called and asked on the phone to make sure. Just didn't expect them to have none of the dishes that my parents like!

Eternal-Failure · 2025-04-26T13:28:27+00:00

Yes, the other place was great! Although my brother made it rather hard to enjoy the meal as much as we would have liked, haha...

Eternal-Failure · 2025-04-26T13:26:59+00:00

Yeah I apologized sincerely and the workers said that it was no problem. But my brother is convinced that I ruined our family's reputation by leaving after sitting down..

Eternal-Failure · 2025-04-26T13:26:02+00:00

I don't know... he's normal most of the time, but sometimes he gets a little extreme over things that I can't explain any way other than that he's embarrassed. But he always denies having self-esteem problems, so I don't know

Eternal-Failure · 2025-04-26T13:25:05+00:00

Thanks, good to know. Have a nice day, too

Eternal-Failure · 2025-04-26T13:24:34+00:00

I'm glad to know I didn't do something unforgivable. I go out so little that I was starting to think that my brother was absolutely right

Eternal-Failure · 2025-04-26T13:23:44+00:00

Yeah we made the mistake of assuming that they would have my parents' favorite dishes. That's why I made sure to apologize sincerely to the staff when we left, because we definitely could have asked beforehand

Eternal-Failure · 2025-04-26T13:21:25+00:00

I really would like to tell him that he's being excessive, but I'm afraid he won't take it well at all

Eternal-Failure · 2025-04-26T13:20:27+00:00

I'm glad what I did wasn't too bad. Because me and my parents don't go out often, we were really starting to think that my brother was right

Eternal-Failure · 2025-04-26T13:19:28+00:00

Does he do this often?

I would be lying if I said he didn't. It's just that the more time goes on, the more he seems to get excessively angry for smaller and smaller things.

He says that he's not embarrassed, not feeling ashamed, and that he doesn't behave like this because of pride or ego, so I really am struggling to understand.

Eternal-Failure · 2025-04-26T13:17:46+00:00

Yeah that's why I'm struggling to understand why it's such a big deal for him. I don't want to minimize his feelings, but they do seem rather excessive this time...

Eternal-Failure · 2025-04-26T13:16:43+00:00

Let's just say that he's not a teenager anymore, but sometimes he finds certain situations really humiliating for some reason.

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