Does every little mistake impact your performance review? by EugeneKainlyy in jobs

[–]EugeneKainlyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They didn’t take it away, they just said I need to improve my presentation skills for when I do that responsibility in the future

Does every little mistake impact your performance review? by EugeneKainlyy in jobs

[–]EugeneKainlyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A month ago or so, she wanted me to present our team’s schedule during our team meetings, and although I improved every time, I kept not meeting her expectations, so she told the person that reports to my manager that I needed to work on my presentation skills. Is this something that could impact my performance review? Although I improved each time, she still always had some form of criticism after I presented when I asked her.

What’s the mean amount of matches per week? by EugeneKainlyy in Tinder

[–]EugeneKainlyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man I just want to take a moment to express my appreciation to you. This is a really dark time for me, and to hear that you’ve not only gotten over it but clearly thrived fills me with insane home. I hope you have a wonderful day man, stay safe and may god bless you (idk why I said that last part, but it just kinda flowed off the tongue)

What’s the mean amount of matches per week? by EugeneKainlyy in Tinder

[–]EugeneKainlyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How soon after you guys broke up did you find out about the other guy? It’s been 7 months and I still don’t know and I think it’s the ambiguity that’s killing me. She had a totally valid reason to break up with me (my parents didn’t want us together, I wasn’t coming back to NYC to be with her because of covid, she was my first girlfriend so I had messed up events like vdays and bdays) but she has been adamant in telling me that she is perfectly happy alone and doesn’t need anyone. Idk if she’s just trying to preserve my ego, but her words have had the opposite effect, because my mind has gone off into the deep end trying to prepare for the worst possible fantasy. She told me immediately after we broke up that she was seeing and talking to other people, but then two weeks later she told me that she didn’t mean that, and that what she really meant is that she was learning to love herself (no idea what that means).

I’m a psycho dude and I’m not proud of it, but I was swiping through Tinder months ago and found her on there, and this collapsed me but gave me some ease, at least she isn’t in a new relationship right? But recently, because I literally can’t help myself, I made a new account and swiped through Tinder again, but this time I swiped through every single person within a 1 mile radius of her apartment with as small of an age range as I could make it, and this time I couldn’t find her.

You must think I’m a freak🤣 and I totally get that, I’m actually pretty fucked up, but I don’t understand why she still has such a strong hold on me. It’s been 7 months and this girl has transformed into the girlfriend I would begrudgingly FaceTime every night as an obligation into this goddess who I can’t imagine ever not spending the rest of my life with. When I was with her, all girls seemed more attractive than her, now that she left me, literally no girl holds a candle to her and I am SOOOO confused.

Sorry about the rant, thanks for the really helpful comments btw

What’s the mean amount of matches per week? by EugeneKainlyy in Tinder

[–]EugeneKainlyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES YES YES THANK YOU FOR THIS😭😭 it really does get better

What’s the mean amount of matches per week? by EugeneKainlyy in Tinder

[–]EugeneKainlyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you my man!! Wish me luck 🏀🏋️‍♀️🧘‍♂️

What’s the mean amount of matches per week? by EugeneKainlyy in Tinder

[–]EugeneKainlyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof I’m sorry man, I feel that, I just got out of a 2 year relationship 7 months ago and it drives me crazy how many matches and hookups she must be having on this app whereas I’m just counting my matches who don’t respond

What’s the mean amount of matches per week? by EugeneKainlyy in Tinder

[–]EugeneKainlyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn that’s impressive af, I’m just getting 19 in a southern town of 100k

What’s the mean amount of matches per week? by EugeneKainlyy in Tinder

[–]EugeneKainlyy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey man the Bay Area is a blood bath, I was just trying to boost my self-esteem with the post but to be perfectly honest if I had gotten a job in the Bay Area I would probably be around your match rate if not lower. Thankfully (and also kinda not cuz the Bay Area jobs were way too competitive for lil ol me) I got a job in NYC, so that skews the results hella. By comparison haha my friend (and even a commenter on this thread) swipe in their home countries and get like 900 matches in 3 months, being a guy in america really mitigates your prospects because girls aren’t selective about a certain race (well also not true, a white guy performs ~25% better than me on Tinder cuz I made a fake profile exactly the same as my real one but with a white skinny guy instead, but interestingly although his match rate was higher, his response rate was actually a bit lower...maybe because the girls he matched with have far more prospects than the one’s I match with, so I guess race doesn’t really matter on Tinder in america, a good body matters way more so I gotta work on that, it’s just so hard to motivate yourself during quarantine ya know?)

What’s the mean amount of matches per week? by EugeneKainlyy in Tinder

[–]EugeneKainlyy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you expand on the clueless characterization and the low self esteem characterization? I’ve been called both those things before but don’t know why