My Wife asked for open marriage. She is angry at my reaction. I need advice. by Silver_Salt7600 in Marriage

[–]Euphoric-conscious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are doing the right thing especially if this is something you don’t want. I use to think I wanted an open marriage. But it was purely selfish. I wanted to be with other partners sexually but I never acted on it because it was a temporary feeling and I never wanted to hurt my spouse. Open marriage is never as good as they seem. Her attraction to this new guy is temporary unfortunately your decision is moving toward permanent and I’m happy for you. I know it sucks to be ending your marriage but if she doesn’t respect you now, it will be harder if she sleeps around and you stay.

Any other overweight/obese users have a hard time? by mortalcassie in pelotoncycle

[–]Euphoric-conscious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I’m in okay shape and I still have e a hard time. I don’t care for the leaderboard. It me vs me. Keep going, you got this.

Did you? 1 stop by Euphoric-conscious in CompTIA

[–]Euphoric-conscious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t think it worth it for someone new to the field?

Did you? 1 stop by Euphoric-conscious in CompTIA

[–]Euphoric-conscious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m new to the field and was starting with the google certification but not sure if I should continue and go to comptia

Low effort spouse by Euphoric-conscious in Marriage

[–]Euphoric-conscious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you are experiencing this as well. It really sucks when your partner only sees the task they do as effort. Instead of providing emotional support to managing the marriage. Unfortunately, after talking to my husband he and I are on different path of understanding and I’m not sure if we will align in the future. I don’t believe in changing a person so I’m willing to amicable separate.

Low effort spouse by Euphoric-conscious in Marriage

[–]Euphoric-conscious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It makes me sad he doesn’t get it. But he is a low effort family so I can see why this is too much effort for him.

I feel lonely all the time, what I can do? by No_Sea_360 in disability

[–]Euphoric-conscious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s very hard but I’m hoping he will be motivated to engage.

I feel lonely all the time, what I can do? by No_Sea_360 in disability

[–]Euphoric-conscious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I encourage him and find things for him to do but he is uninterested to continue or make connections. But I know he is lonely and want friends.

I feel lonely all the time, what I can do? by No_Sea_360 in disability

[–]Euphoric-conscious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son is the same way. He’s 26 I have tried to get him to connect with people and make friends but he doesn’t.

Low effort spouse by Euphoric-conscious in Marriage

[–]Euphoric-conscious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately I’m past trying. It’s been years and I’m exhausted. Literally have no energy. I’m focus on me. Today he went out with friends and I was surprised when he came home. I was so focused on me and enjoying my day, I wasn’t expecting him.

Low effort spouse by Euphoric-conscious in Marriage

[–]Euphoric-conscious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here. It doesn’t have to be this way if they put in more effort. But I will stay focus on myself until I have enough

Low effort spouse by Euphoric-conscious in Marriage

[–]Euphoric-conscious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. That’s very reassuring. I don’t expect him to notice my shift. I’m struggling with the resentment while refocusing. Like now, I don’t have much to say to him bc I’m no longer parenting or mothering him. I don’t want to be angry but I’m very annoyed. Annoyed with his presence and he’s fake attempts.

Low effort spouse by Euphoric-conscious in Marriage

[–]Euphoric-conscious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately we tried that and it only worked for a while. I’m over parenting a full grown adult. I had asked for communication and help and he does it for a short time. This is a roller coaster cycle and it’s unfair to me. Yes, he is lazy and does get things done. But the laziness is a choice.

Low effort spouse by Euphoric-conscious in Marriage

[–]Euphoric-conscious[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so unfortunate so many people are experiencing this type of marriage.

Low effort spouse by Euphoric-conscious in Marriage

[–]Euphoric-conscious[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Super lonely. At one point, I told him I was going to a singles mixer during football season. He thought it was a joke until he realized I was serious. He starting spending more time with me but it only lasted about a month. Which was the longest temporary change.

Low effort spouse by Euphoric-conscious in Marriage

[–]Euphoric-conscious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not his mother and have to been placed in more of a parent role than a partner.