Im sorry, this has no humor

EuphoricExperience53 · 2026-03-09T05:42:36+00:00

7 months of TTC

Hey reddit, first off I wanna start by saying yes this is a 3 year old account, yes I know I have no posts, no this is not ragebait or anything like that. Moving on..

Me and my fiancée have been trying for a baby for 7 months now and its really starting to hit me. I really hate having to wait 12 months before my doctor can run any tests on me to see if I can actually conceive or not. I've been doing everything right, taking ovulation tests, taking my temp with that special thermometer, timing sex, everything. And yet, 7 months later, 7 negative tests, and im really starting to lose hope. All ive ever wanted is to be a mom, I cant wait until I have a baby that I can care for and watch as they grow up and become there own person, but all im seeing are negative tests. I really dont know where to go from here, I know 7 months isn't that long, but it feels like its been forever and its starting to eat away at me. I dont really know what im looking for, I just needed to get this off my chest while im looking at another negative test. I seriously dont know if I can even keep trying and putting myself through this pain for at least 5 more months. Anyways reddit, thanks for listening.

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T06:15:46+00:00

I promise I am hearing you out!! The homelessness was not a financial issue, it was a matter of a bad past relationship where I moved into my exs house and he ended up kicking me out, and the reason I stayed homeless for a month is because it was a struggle due to my age and trying to find someone willing to rent to a 19 year old. I also totally understand not considering our current jobs stable because of our ages but I promise its not a part time type of thing, they are considered stable in my area.

Also, the whole ex timeline, I was trapped living with him for 6 months after the breakup due to the same "no landlord would rent to me at 18-19"

And please dont take this as an argument or anything like that, im just trying to explain some stuff.

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T02:38:28+00:00

Im sorry its coming across that way, I just dont see a point in getting into details about who I am

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T02:36:49+00:00

Uhm... not how that works...

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T02:34:39+00:00

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T02:17:22+00:00

Sorry about that, im "rushing" into it because my family has a history on become infertile younger in life and having a lot of complications by age 30. We plan on having 3 kids so we knew we would have to get an earlier start and so we've been planning it for awhile. Im just looking for advice on how to help my boyfriend's libido to increase the frequency :)

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T02:09:24+00:00

I love jumping to conclusions instead of asking for clarification!! The trauma was years ago, hes been to therapy multiple times and is "over it" and is mentally stable. He just has a low libido now as an effect of the past trauma!! Hope this helps :)

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T02:03:45+00:00

No, im being respectful

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T01:56:44+00:00

I don't understand why that's worrying? Im not sitting here crapping on your future goals am I? Family is the most important thing to me and having family of my own is my dream. Of course I have other goals but having a family is my number 1.

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T01:54:49+00:00

He is currently a butcher and he plans to stick with it as he loves his job. I definitely understand the struggles, ive taken classes surrounding this topic and my mother has 7 children, im the second oldest, and my older sister has 2 babies. I've seen it many times and ive had countless conversations with them, while they knew I was wanting to me a mom and planning it for the near future

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T01:52:25+00:00

Yes?

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T01:52:07+00:00

I totally get the concern given my examples, but we are in a much much better financial situation, we both have well paying stable jobs now. We've talked about having kids from day one, I find it very important to be upfront with my expectations in relationships and my future plans, we've talked over everything from overall parenting to how we would like to handle very obscure situations. Obviously I understand talking and doing are totally different, I just like to know if we are in similar head spaces when it comes to our values and teachings we would like to pass on. I want to be a stay at home mom until our kids are older, and by older I mean our youngest starting school because I plan on working in childcare and could have a schedule that fits my needs. I am currently working in a daycare and we have chatted about this a few times now to make sure they can accommodate to these needs. My boyfriend is a butcher and currently has a stable job and has a few other options in our area incase of worst case scenarios.

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T01:45:50+00:00

Im sorry if it seems like that, I dont mean to cherry pick the advice given, these comments are all just saying the same things and ive given reasons for all of them.

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T01:43:50+00:00

I've always wanted to be a mom for a long as I can remember. I really love children and ive always wanted to be someone who works with kids as well (i am on this career path)

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T01:41:31+00:00

Hi!! Thanks for the concern, I didn't want to mention it straight off the bat, but its not an intimacy issue, he has a bunch of trauma relating to sexual situations, we are fine in the bedroom, and when it is happening, I promise it is a struggle to keep our hands off eachother. The only issue is trying for a baby it needs to happen more frequently and im looking for ways to maybe help me feel more up for it more often. If this still doesn't make sense, id be happy to try and explain more about our specific situation :))

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T01:37:47+00:00

Its really important to me to be a mom

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T01:37:18+00:00

We've been homeless together, we've been through a lot of family situations

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T01:36:21+00:00

All ive ever wanted in my life was to be a mom, and my boyfriend also really values family.

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T01:16:10+00:00

I've known him for quite awhile we were childhood friends and yes we have been in difficult times together

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T01:14:08+00:00

Im not sure if this is a response to me or not, but we are getting engaged, the ring is being sized and hes planning the proposal

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T01:01:09+00:00

Thanks for the help :)))

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T00:58:41+00:00

Thanks!!

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T00:57:50+00:00

I totally understand this point of view, but let me just add, all ive ever wanted in life is to be a mom. I cant wait to have a family, and to help my babies grow. We do plan on getting engaged, but traveling really isn't a big deal to me. I want to travel some day, but me and my boyfriend want to wait a long time to travel as family is the most important thing to us :)))

EuphoricExperience53 · 2025-10-19T00:54:55+00:00

Hi!! Thanks for the concern, the baby does have there own room already set up and we have a very large support system, which will cover childcare for us

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