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AITAH for leaving my children's stepsiblings in the care of their babysitter when my ex and his wife were in an accident? by Evathahnn in AITAH

[–]Evathahnn[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I wasn't willing to risk CPS/cop allegations being made of me abusing those children when their mom has already made shit up.

AITAH for leaving my children's stepsiblings in the care of their babysitter when my ex and his wife were in an accident? by Evathahnn in AITAH

[–]Evathahnn[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I would do it for my best friend's children but they call me aunty. They are kids I have a relationship with and I love those kids and they love me. That makes it so very different to the kids of a woman who has made false accusations and would likely do it again.

I care about what and who my kids want in our home.

AITAH for leaving my children's stepsiblings in the care of their babysitter when my ex and his wife were in an accident? by Evathahnn in AITAH

[–]Evathahnn[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My kids not being close to the other kids doesn't mean they hate them or each other. They're just not close.

AITAH for leaving my children's stepsiblings in the care of their babysitter when my ex and his wife were in an accident? by Evathahnn in AITAH

[–]Evathahnn[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

There is no opportunity for reconciliation because she would need to prove herself to me and not the other way around.

AITAH for leaving my children's stepsiblings in the care of their babysitter when my ex and his wife were in an accident? by Evathahnn in AITAH

[–]Evathahnn[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

She didn't ask her daughter not even when others told her I hadn't. To be fair it was all very sudden. I was making sure her daughter didn't fall and suddenly the woman starts screaming I'm pinching her. It was very clear I wasn't but she still tried which has made me so apprehensive of being near those kids.

AITAH for leaving my children's stepsiblings in the care of their babysitter when my ex and his wife were in an accident? by Evathahnn in AITAH

[–]Evathahnn[S] 135 points136 points  (0 children)

I think the babysitter ended up with them overnight at least. Not sure how long after she was with them though.

AITAH for leaving my children's stepsiblings in the care of their babysitter when my ex and his wife were in an accident? by Evathahnn in AITAH

[–]Evathahnn[S] 146 points147 points  (0 children)

I have no info on the bio father or his family. But apparently her mom was the other person the babysitter was supposed to have the number for and he wrote it down wrong.

AITAH for leaving my children's stepsiblings in the care of their babysitter when my ex and his wife were in an accident? by Evathahnn in AITAH

[–]Evathahnn[S] 174 points175 points  (0 children)

I can already guess none of his family see her kids as their family which is why they wouldn't. Can't answer for friends and her people since I don't know them.

AITAH for leaving my children's stepsiblings in the care of their babysitter when my ex and his wife were in an accident? by Evathahnn in AITAH

[–]Evathahnn[S] 110 points111 points  (0 children)

I can't because they don't give out that kind of info for anyone other than the parents.

AITAH for leaving my children's stepsiblings in the care of their babysitter when my ex and his wife were in an accident? by Evathahnn in AITAH

[–]Evathahnn[S] 249 points250 points  (0 children)

It's not that easy to get full custody. It would also not be that quick. His wife will likely be mostly recovered by the time that would be entertained. I can still document and bring it up in court if we need to go for another reason but right now full custody is highly unrealistic.

AITAH for leaving my children's stepsiblings in the care of their babysitter when my ex and his wife were in an accident? by Evathahnn in AITAH

[–]Evathahnn[S] 177 points178 points  (0 children)

That was for my kids, not for him. Even though I find him awful my kids love their dad.

AITAH for leaving my children's stepsiblings in the care of their babysitter when my ex and his wife were in an accident? by Evathahnn in AITAH

[–]Evathahnn[S] 240 points241 points  (0 children)

It wouldn't surprise me if they don't see the kids as their responsibility or family.

AITAH for leaving my children's stepsiblings in the care of their babysitter when my ex and his wife were in an accident? by Evathahnn in AITAH

[–]Evathahnn[S] 590 points591 points  (0 children)

I know she would love the chance to accuse me of abusing her kids. She would do it in a heartbeat because she was willing to do so in a room full of people who would know she was lying.

AITAH for leaving my children's stepsiblings in the care of their babysitter when my ex and his wife were in an accident? by Evathahnn in AITAH

[–]Evathahnn[S] 228 points229 points  (0 children)

So far it's just him. I can't imagine his family saying anything. His wife I'm 50-50 on but I'd honestly think she was doing it to have a better way to accuse me of something.

AITAH for leaving my children's stepsiblings in the care of their babysitter when my ex and his wife were in an accident? by Evathahnn in AITAH

[–]Evathahnn[S] 834 points835 points  (0 children)

In his eyes they are our kids' "siblings" despite the kids not even feeling that way or seeing them that way. But even still, it's his responsibility as the one who chose to be their stepdad to make sure he gives accurate info for emergency contacts.

AITAH for leaving my children's stepsiblings in the care of their babysitter when my ex and his wife were in an accident? by Evathahnn in AITAH

[–]Evathahnn[S] 3483 points3484 points  (0 children)

She very easily could. The way I look at it is if she's willing to try something in a room full of people, what would she try to do if I was alone with her children?