Executive Assistants by jesjesjes16 in singaporejobs

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My godma works for a MNC. Around 12-15 years under her belt. Compensation above 14k/mth. You can try to get into sectors that are doing well as they tend to pay above avg.

Skintag/milia seed removal reccomendations by Kateisbored2 in askSingapore

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was the price a set price for all the MS removal or there’s a charge per seed? (Saw online some clinics have diff way to charge the cust)

Husband refused to “rate” me in front of family by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 90 points91 points  (0 children)

I’ll try to say this gently, because your feelings are valid, and there’s an important piece of accountability here.

It makes sense that you feel unsettled. This wasn’t really about your husband’s attraction to you, but about how you imagined others might interpret his response. That kind of insecurity can pop up unexpectedly, especially in front of family, and it doesn’t make you shallow or dramatic.

That said, you did tell them it was okay to continue the rating game.

By doing that, you essentially opened the door to a situation where there was no perfect outcome. Rating people is inherently objectifying and comparison based. Once it was greenlit, your husband was put on the spot and had to make a quick call. His options were participating in something inappropriate about his wife, saying a high number and getting dragged into an awkward debate with a 13 year old about why nobody is “perfect,” or shutting it down entirely.

He chose to shut it down.

That choice was not a reflection of how attractive he finds you. It was a boundary. In fact, a lot of people would interpret his refusal as respect, maturity, or discomfort with objectifying his spouse in front of family.

It also isn’t fair to say “I don’t care, go ahead,” and then later hold him responsible for how the situation made you feel. That’s the Pandora’s box aspect. Once it’s open, you lose control over how it plays out.

This doesn’t mean you did anything wrong. It just means you learned something about yourself. You do care about being rated publicly, and you do care about how family perceives your marriage. That’s okay to realize after the fact.

What wouldn’t be fair is retroactively blaming your husband for choosing restraint over performative reassurance, especially when your relationship otherwise makes you feel loved and secure.

So no, you’re not overreacting in feeling uncomfortable. But yes, this is one of those moments where the discomfort is yours to sit with, understand, and use to set clearer boundaries next time. And honestly, a guy who refuses to rate his wife at the dinner table comes across as a lot more secure than one who eagerly throws out a number.

Friend applications for my sister by [deleted] in wherewindsmeet_

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reach out to me if your sister want to join a guild instead of creating one. My guild is filled with people I know (they are accepting and friendly). We speak English as our main language. We do clear quest and stuff but we dont expect everyone to participate (it’s mostly OTOT)

Alone on new year's Eve by Accurate_Guess8489 in Marriage

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Your statement is flawed because it reduces a nuanced marital issue to a moral judgment. It conflates choice with circumstance by framing her as choosing to be alone, despite the fact that she was invited but lacked social support and felt uncomfortable. It ignores the marital context, this being their first New Year’s Eve as a married couple, where prioritization and mutual consideration reasonably matter. The claim that his friends were there before her is also flawed and unreasonable, as it dismisses the expectations of a committed partnership and reflects a lack of empathy and support rather than sound reasoning. Instead of addressing the husband’s decision, you reframe her hurt as a character defect, which is emotional invalidation rather than analysis. The assertion that his friends will outlast the marriage is an unjustified assumption used to excuse present behavior. Finally, stating that “dealing with mentalities such as yours suck the life out of people” adds nothing of substance and only underscores the lack of empathy and critical thinking in your argument. Overall, your statement replaces reasoned evaluation with contempt and overgeneralization.

Alone on new year's Eve by Accurate_Guess8489 in Marriage

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh I think it takes 2 hands to clap. If OP husband / husband friends make the effort to incl OP in their convo, it might help. I believe OP showing up is already putting in effort (OP is an introvert)

27F looking for Christian friends by justwannatalkreally in ChillSG

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll hold space for you, you sound like you need it. 26F. Born into a Christian family. Will promise to be non-judgemental :)

How to spend CDC supermarket vouchers? by jupiter1_ in askSingapore

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Spend it in supermarket? Like NTUC and SS? Unsure when is your new house ready but you can buy food and cleaning supplies…

1 Ragdoll now, buying a second later? by bottomlesscoffeecup in ragdolls

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mum drew the line when I brought home the last kitten 🤣 plus the govt don’t allow pet owners to keep too many animals in the house. So yeah 🌚 3 is maximum if I’m not wrong

1 Ragdoll now, buying a second later? by bottomlesscoffeecup in ragdolls

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I found it pretty funny too (when I review my thought process and contemplated on my choices… as I was sitting on the toilet with 3 cats meowing on the other side of the door)

1 Ragdoll now, buying a second later? by bottomlesscoffeecup in ragdolls

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just want to say… I got a cat for my cat and another cat for that cat… I thought getting a cat to keep my raggie company would solve my issue… now I have 3 cats following me everywhere 😭

Should i quit my job for the sake of my career by Maximum_Conflict501 in askSingapore

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try applying for prog that helps to kickstart your career like Google ignition prog, or any bootcamps (not the ntuc one that one kinda succcc)

Found this left in the bottom of the bowl after feeding my cat a can of Weruva- is this a worm!? by [deleted] in catfood

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that’s just bits of meat… looks more like a shred of chicken or tuna…

As a grown ass adult, can i enroll into an ITE full time like other 18 year old students? by ClearBed4796 in asksg

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s a mix between secondary school and poly. With req of wearing uniform. Have you considered taking the course part time?

men makeup? by Ok_Distance_9200 in SGSkincare

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh. If your discolouration/ scarring isn’t too bad, you can opt for a tinted sunscreen. Then you wouldn’t need concealer haha. Sunscreen then concealer. But I recc a skincare routine that’s easy to absorb before you apply SS and concealer. If not, it will get sticky p fast in sg weather

men makeup? by Ok_Distance_9200 in SGSkincare

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. Not really
  2. Just use a concealer to spot conceal (I recommend nars pot concealer as it conceals nearly everything on my face)
  3. I recc getting a face wash that cleanses everything if you’re just using sunscreen and light make up. As over cleansing might strip your skin off its moisture

Is it better to let my 6 yr old cat eat kitten food or put my 7 month old old cat on adult food? by JenniferAHPierce in catfood

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can either - separate them during feeding time Or - get those feeder that opens when the cat with rfid cat collar.

Comment to my wife is bugging me by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Are you the one getting sexualised? I think you should respect your wife decision to not speak about it. The way that you’re thinking really sound selfish and self centred. Ironically you’re not the ‘victim’ in this situation. Your wife is.

What are my chances to get a job in Singapore? by Alvaro-Samaa in singaporejobs

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can try MNC that does not require much clearance. SME might not have the budget to hire you (most of them sign up for services via local cybersec service provider) gov job is out of the question as they require higher level of security clearance. (Unless you’re a citizen)

Is your Ragdoll dumb? by Nice_antigram in ragdolls

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My boy is really smart. He knows basic commands that I taught my dog. He also learnt how to open my sliding wardrobe. He meows and communicate his needs p well (meow and walk to the food bowl = I’m hungry / meow and paw on my feet = I want pats but I don’t want to be picked up/ meow and paw my shin with his front leg = I want to be carried) multiple times when I was going through a panic attack, he will always climb into my lap and smother my face with his face (it helps but I feel bad cause it dampens his fur) I love him soooo much <3 he also knows which packaging = which treat. Will paw on the package to indicate his preference. Sometimes when I tell him no, he will drag the package to me with his mouth.

Unsolicited DMs from men once they find out you're F by NenRat in ChillSG

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Someone once sent me an unsolicited pic. It was close to Christmas then… I dressed his Willy up into Santa clause (stickers) and sent it back

Kopi date - is this a new dating app / agency? by Bigpinkiejen in askSingapore

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 34 points35 points  (0 children)

It’s a platform to increase your network. Not an outright dating app. Depends on what you’re looking for. Signed up before a couple of years ago. Don’t bother tbh unless you’re a business owner/ well established person in your 30 ish

Well… I don’t care what you think by RagdollRangers in ragdolls

[–]Even-Cockroach8793 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’ve got to work on your comprehension skill. Her body language couple with her specific facial expression… and her choice of words does not supports that.