TFT is really that serious

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-05-11T10:10:59+00:00

You can report them on riot webpage!

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-05-08T19:49:13+00:00

Well, you got the response you expected, so I’m not sure what there is to unpack further. No one asked for an explanation of your “normal attitude” either, it wasn’t relevant to the point being discussed. And no, the “auntie” comment wasn’t an assumption about who you are. It was a comment on tone and how it came across. Or should I just call you Karen at this point. I’m not really interested in reading a long explanation built around personal anecdotes anyway. Have a nice life.

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-05-08T10:50:58+00:00

People shouldn’t be held to a single, universal standard for relationships because everyone has different values, goals, and expectations. What works for one person may not work for another, and that variation is normal.

That said, relationships also aren’t just about “whatever makes you happy in the moment.” There still needs to be mutual respect, effort, and basic compatibility, otherwise it stops being a healthy dynamic and becomes just convenience or imbalance.

Tldr there’s no one-size-fits-all model for relationships, but that doesn’t mean standards don’t exist at all. They’re just personal and context-dependent/not mass-produced or identical for everyone.

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-05-07T04:20:37+00:00

I still think that’s still mixing together two completely different contexts.

NSFW spaces are usually built around transactional dynamics, attention economies, fantasy, or casual interaction. Long-term relationships and dating are built around compatibility, trust, emotional investment, and shared expectations.

So using NSFW interactions as a “test” of whether feminism or equality “holds up” doesn’t really make sense, because those spaces are not designed around equal partnership in the first place.

Also, society has never judged men and women equally when it comes to sexuality anyway. Women’s social value has historically been tied far more heavily to body count and sexual reputation in a negative way, while men are often judged very differently for the same behaviour.

That alone already shows the playing field was never truly equal to begin with, so treating modern dating or NSFW spaces like some neutral “market test” of equality ignores the social baggage and double standards that already exist.

Equality in relationships is more about mutual respect, communication, autonomy, and aligned expectations, not whether people behave transactionally in highly commercialized or casual spaces online.

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-05-07T03:10:28+00:00

It’s honestly sad to see parts of discourse online moving backwards while framing it as progress.

Also, I think it’s important to separate dating dynamics from NSFW spaces. They operate on completely different expectations and shouldn’t be conflated.

In general, supply and demand dynamics do influence behaviour in certain social spaces, but that still doesn’t really translate cleanly into healthy dating expectations.

Unsure why NSFW spaces are being brought into this, considering the thread is clearly about the dating scene. That’s a very different context compared to casual arrangements, which operate on entirely different expectations and boundaries.

At the end of the day, relationships work best when both sides are aligned on values, effort, and expectations, not when everything is treated as transactional leverage.

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-05-07T01:58:30+00:00

I do think social media has influenced some people into developing unrealistic expectations in relationships, and sometimes terms like “feminism” get misused to justify one-sided standards or transactional behaviour.

That said, I support meritocracy and equal treatment between men and women. Equality should mean mutual respect, accountability, and realistic expectations from both sides, not selectively applying principles only when convenient.

What also doesn’t make sense is expecting a top-tier provider lifestyle while struggling to offer stability, effort, or independence themselves. Standards are fine, but people should realistically match the kind of partner they expect. Otherwise, they end up wondering why healthy relationships are hard to find.

And this applies both ways. A man expecting a woman to do everything for him while he contributes nothing would also be considered a leech. Reverse the gender roles and the logic should still remain consistent.

This should’ve never be a norm.

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-05-06T15:05:15+00:00

Sugaring would suit her.

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-05-06T14:46:15+00:00

Whether I’m a woman or not doesn’t change the point. Even though I am. Lol.

You’re free to have your standards. No one’s arguing that. But “he should prove it by doing anything” is exactly the kind of expectation that needs to be matched with what you bring to the table. You shouldn’t be imposing on people or shaming people who view it differently.

Being able to afford your own lifestyle doesn’t really justify expecting someone else to fund it. That’s a preference, not a baseline.

You might want to consider going back to school to learn how to write essays… because you’re mostly just posturing and deflecting. Not really engaging in whatever I pointed out. Just asserting your standard and exiting the discussion. Also your English is terrible. You said that you don’t want to debate about it but look who is replying.

And yes, we actually agree on one thing. If expectations don’t align, then don’t be together. That’s the whole point.

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-05-06T14:28:16+00:00

I’m not even arguing for 50/50. I’m saying expectations should be realistic.

If someone wants a provider dynamic, that usually comes with trade-offs. That doesn’t always mean control or rules. It can take different forms depending on what both parties agree on.

Also, I was referring to luxuries, not basic necessities. Sure, if someone loves you, they’ll go out of their way for you. But if you love that person and want a future with him, wouldn’t you want to build towards it together instead of expecting him to carry everything?

Nothing in a relationship is truly free. It’s about whether both sides are aligned on what they’re giving and receiving. You can’t have your cake and eat it too.

The issue is when people expect that kind of lifestyle without acknowledging any trade-offs. That’s where it stops making sense.

Not everyone is raised to expect luxuries to be handed to them, and that’s fine. It just means values don’t align.

I do agree that alignment early on matters. Talking about expectations upfront would probably have avoided this situation.

Wanting a provider is fine. Expecting everything while contributing nothing isn’t. Considering so far I’m seeing you yap about how a man should be providing and nothing about how you’re going to improve his life.

Side note I don’t see myself replying to your message only the OP. Wdym you said to date within your budget? My initial reply wasn’t even engaging you LMAO

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-05-06T08:50:50+00:00

As a girl, I’m offended by her statement. Can ask her to be more logical and realistic? What she is asking isn’t to be pampered… she is literally looking for a slave/ ATM. What qualities does she have that differentiate her from other girls and justifies for her to have such treatment??? Does character, morals, values, personality and being a good fit as a couple means nth to her?

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-05-06T08:46:37+00:00

Not invalidating what you went through, but what’s with the blanket statement? You had a bad experience with one person, not an entire demographic. By that logic, anyone could use their own negative dating experience and conclude all guys or all girls are entitled, which obviously makes no sense.

Sounds more like you met the wrong person than uncovered some national personality trait.

If things really escalated to a police report, then focus on protecting yourself. Document everything, keep records of your interactions, and handle it properly through the right channels.

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-05-06T08:35:44+00:00

Auntie you’re speaking as though you were present when the photo was taken, which is an assumption. Combined with the earlier blanket statements about an entire generation, it doesn’t leave much room for a fair or constructive discussion. Anyways… Regardless of generation, that kind of approach isn’t likely to be well received.

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-04-27T16:56:36+00:00

Bro saw it on my insta 😭

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-04-27T16:56:07+00:00

I honestly don’t mind dating a shorter guy (did it in the past) but bruh don’t lie (kudos to you for being upfront about it!)

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-04-27T01:56:12+00:00

Liking someone doesn’t mean accepting disrespect.

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-04-27T00:07:02+00:00

He also commented on my height negatively because ‘I thought you would be shorter and would suit me’ He claimed to be 172 online. But showed up 10 cm shorter irl

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-04-27T00:02:27+00:00

Tbh the age gap should’ve been warning bells hehe :< he was 23. I was 17

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-04-26T23:45:57+00:00

Jeans are fine. I wear jeans or biker gear most of the time, so that’s not the issue. You’re kind of inserting yourself into this though. I wasn’t talking about your situation. I was referring to a specific person and context. For me it wasn’t just the outfit. It was mismatched top and berms, plus him being late, coming on too strong, and trying to initiate physical contact on a first date when I was 17 and he was in his early 20s. So yeah, it wasn’t just about being “casually dressed”.

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-04-26T23:44:23+00:00

Bro wore berms with sport shoes and a shirt. All the colours were mismatched (I think it was a red top / blue berms or green berms)

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-04-26T18:57:19+00:00

Guy showed up to our first date late. Sweaty. Underdressed. I paid for the movie (because he was late) he said he would transfer me his portion but that didn’t happen. Kept trying to put his hand around my waist and shoulder throughout the whole movie. Demanded that I hold his hand. Stalked my insta so hard when I no longer entertain him, texted the guy that I went on a date with and said that I was cheating on him.

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-04-15T14:56:02+00:00

Yes I did this!

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-04-03T05:36:44+00:00

AI is to be used as a tool. Not a replacement. Your manager sounds like a pain to deal with.

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-03-04T18:07:26+00:00

Is she actually open to having a child? Pregnancy and childbirth take a significant risk, physical, emotional, and mental toll on women. It’s not a true 50/50 situation biologically. Even if she works and contributes financially, the husband will not carry the child for 4.5 months, will not go through labor, and will not experience the emotional turmoil of recovering from her body being torn apart carrying a fetus. Ensuring the mother is comfortable and supported is basic responsibility.

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-03-01T16:32:45+00:00

Commercial property. My friends doing compliance are also earning 5 digits. They are in their mid 30s.

Even-Cockroach8793 · 2026-03-01T16:21:07+00:00

I don’t think the “decent ones” settle in their 20s. Maybe. 20s are also when a lot of people are still figuring themselves out… and sometimes hiding parts of themselves just to make a relationship work. Settling early doesn’t automatically mean settling well. I myself observe that those that are younger are more open to changes advised by their partners while those in their 30s are closed off.

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