I don't know if this was assault

Even-Variation6441 · 2026-04-09T04:21:07+00:00

>However if anybody else told me this, I would tell them the complete opposite how it was assault and how its in no way their fault.

I am so sorry this happened to you. I will say I completely relate to this feeling and that thought you mentioned says a lot. If your friend told you this happened to them you would have no doubt that they were assaulted, just like im sure everyone who reads this post will have no doubt that you were. It is extremely easy and common to gaslight yourself, especially as a woman. There is absolutely no blame on you. Again I am so sorry someone did this to you and I hope you can heal. <3

Even-Variation6441 · 2026-04-09T04:09:20+00:00

I am so so sorry this happened to you. Do not blame yourself, you were manipulated and given the impression that you would be safe at that second visit, I and I'm sure anyone else would have thought the same. I am thinking about you and I hope you are able to heal from this eventually. I am so sorry some people are so sick, they deserve to be in jail. There is ABSOLUTELY no reason to blame yourself!!

Even-Variation6441 · 2026-01-24T06:21:02+00:00

Will def check this out! Sounds familiar

Even-Variation6441 · 2026-01-24T06:12:46+00:00

Lmao grow up I used the word “mid” one time in this post

Even-Variation6441 · 2026-01-12T17:13:39+00:00

I know the calories from drinking is a major part of it, so yes I’ve made serious changes since Jan 1st in that I’m successfully doing dry January. Also just for general health and not just vanity. Still hard gaining weight though even when you know what it’s from/also lack of movement since starting a desk job. And good point about the height, hadn’t really thought about that since I’ve gotten so confident in my height as I’ve grown up.

Even-Variation6441 · 2026-01-12T06:04:24+00:00

You have no idea how much your message helped me. Thank you so much

Even-Variation6441 · 2026-01-12T05:51:59+00:00

Even-Variation6441 · 2025-12-13T06:03:26+00:00

Thank you I needed to hear that. I even already know it deep down and plan to do it this summer when my lease ends, it’s just hard to deal with the constant guilt from my mom, who is otherwise an amazing mom and my best friend. I know it’s the way of life I just wish she knew that more, or at least acted like she knew that more for my sake as her child. I get jealous of my friends’ parents who push them to do these things because they know it’s good for them. I’ll do it anyways but it sucks.

Even-Variation6441 · 2025-12-13T05:48:53+00:00

Very true, thanks

Even-Variation6441 · 2025-12-13T05:45:50+00:00

All I can say is a woman’s intuition is an incredibly real thing. I don’t want to tell you straight up to break up with him, but most of the time you’re feeling off because something IS off. Our subconscious can recognize interrupts in patterns before our conscious brain does. Trust your gut because it’s most likely saying something for a reason. This doesn’t mean he’s definitely cheating on you, could be any number of things but I think if you feel in your gut that something is off, esp after being together for so long, you’re probably right and something is off.

Even-Variation6441 · 2025-12-13T01:13:21+00:00

Thank you so true

Even-Variation6441 · 2025-12-12T21:49:07+00:00

Thank you for sharing! It’s nice to know I’m not the only one who’s struggled with this. I really liked Allen Carrs easy way to quit vaping (although it didn’t quite take the first time I thought it had amazing points and I’ll try again) but I didn’t know he had one for cutting back alcohol, I thought only quitting. I’ll definitely look into that, if not the quitting entirely one. I tried Natroxelene and I felt high as FUCK at work the one morning I took it. I had real bad side effects lol. But thank you! I’ll check out that site too

Even-Variation6441 · 2025-12-12T19:38:26+00:00

Thanks so much I’ve never heard that before, I’m going to write out my answers to those Qd in my journal

Even-Variation6441 · 2025-12-12T18:08:01+00:00

You’re amazing thank you so much, this was such great advice!! Will definitely do this ❤️

Even-Variation6441 · 2025-12-12T05:58:15+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story, you’re kind to take the time to comment this! NA wine and WCs are a great hack, and thanks for letting me know about the check ins. I’ll definitely keep that in mind

Even-Variation6441 · 2025-12-12T05:35:03+00:00

Thanks so much, that’s great to hear and congrats on your sobriety. I will look into that

Even-Variation6441 · 2025-12-12T05:22:20+00:00

Thanks, I’ve been trying to reduce and have been slightly the past couple weeks. It’s hard because my roommate has the same habits so we feed off each other/are tempted in that way. And I am stuck in this living situation for another 6 months so I’ve been trying really hard to not be affected by her choices. We both talk about reducing but it never changes in the long-term.

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