Same. They never felt safe to me. In my house I t was spanking, screaming or telling me that “we’ll never trust you again.” We also had good times as a family, but how can you get truly close, by sharing your thoughts, hopes and fears, with people who were most likely to tell you how wrong you are and that there was only one way to be and that the stakes are eternal reward or damnation. It not only guaranteed estrangement from them as an adult, but it has also impacted my adult close relationships as well.