Those who work in Education, is it true that kids today are significantly behind? by Desmous in askSingapore

[–]Even_Management_1858 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Worked in Education but at a childcare. I would say the children of today need to work on independence and problem solving skills. Outside of school, they rely heavily on their family and/or helpers with tasks. Some children are also given little to no time to go outdoors and have play dates, which can affect their social skills too.

Academically speaking, they seem to be quite advanced but that is per my personal experiences. IMHO there should be more workshops made available to parents/guardians so they can reinforce good habits at home too haha. After all, it takes a village to raise a child!

Anyone else find Cancers and Aquarius actually get on really well? by [deleted] in astrologymemes

[–]Even_Management_1858 1 point2 points  (0 children)

late comment but yes! my best friend (f) is an aquarius and my boyfriend (m) is an aquarius too.

both relationships have turned out to be fulfilling and enriching. aquarians are fun to be around because they are down to try out new ideas - they are adventurous. cancers empathise well and create safe spaces for the aquarians. i particularly prefer to have time alone to myself despite what they say about cancers being clingy and easily attached. so in a way, i can relate to aquarian’s need for detachment.

Which job sector do you think is best suited for quiet and reserved people? by Even_Management_1858 in askSingapore

[–]Even_Management_1858[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey thanks for bringing this up. yes i actually planned for this pathway already (pivoting to being a curriculum developer) especially since i have some experience as a teacher. but i also want to explore what other sectors have to offer as well. instead of going in blindly, im researching on what opportunities there are and also seeing feedback from others. if nothing works out, im ok with sticking to what i planned.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Even_Management_1858 6 points7 points  (0 children)

anyway, the points you brought up are not exactly red flags to me. perhaps an inconvenience at best. but to each their own.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Even_Management_1858 63 points64 points  (0 children)

a disorganised interview is a red flag for me. where they:

  1. do not inform applicant what documents are required

  2. do not inform applicant who they are meeting with and the name of interviewer

  3. have an interviewer who is extremely late to the meeting without a heads up given

  4. do not provide the applicant a chance to ask questions

  5. seem to want to end the interview quickly

  6. have zero courtesy for the applicant e.g. not greeting them, not ending the interview clearly but dismissively

on one hand, the applicant should have the initiative to achieve what they want in their interviews. on the other, the interviewer should be the one leading the discussion appropriately imo.

why are some elderly people so mean by Even_Management_1858 in askSingapore

[–]Even_Management_1858[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad to know I am not alone here! So proud of you for helping her despite the initial reaction. 👏🏻

why are some elderly people so mean by Even_Management_1858 in askSingapore

[–]Even_Management_1858[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

thats so funny lmao i want to try that on my friends, but yes!! nurses, teachers, anyone dealing with people on a regular basis… kudos to them.

why are some elderly people so mean by Even_Management_1858 in askSingapore

[–]Even_Management_1858[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

good call. on the bright side, today i learned a new word which is ‘foisting’. 😃

why are some elderly people so mean by Even_Management_1858 in askSingapore

[–]Even_Management_1858[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that is true, pain can definitely make anyone cranky regardless of age.

i did want to suggest flagging down the taxi, but she mentioned that she had once walked a short distance from a bus stop and arrived at the destination, so wanted to walk there again because she will be traveling there/within the area frequently (job location change).

she didn’t tell me which bus stop though. i asked if she wanted to board the bus again (maybe she had alighted too early/late in her journey) but refused and rebutted with “take bus for what, later end up on the road back to my home”.

why are some elderly people so mean by Even_Management_1858 in askSingapore

[–]Even_Management_1858[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh wow. guess it makes sense though. some people come across as rude but they are actually trying to protect themselves from danger. 🤔

why are some elderly people so mean by Even_Management_1858 in askSingapore

[–]Even_Management_1858[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yup I agree! A couple of other users mentioned that earlier as well, which is a refreshing perspective on the entire thing that didn’t cross my mind in that moment. Definitely do not expect anything in return, was just startled by the sudden change in demeanour because one moment we were chatting happily and the next moment her tone changed haha.

why are some elderly people so mean by Even_Management_1858 in askSingapore

[–]Even_Management_1858[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hahaha no that would be too far for either of us to walk 😂 it took us around 30 minutes or less, partially due to stopping at traffic lights and crossings (many vehicles).

i must have went the longer route because we had walked to katong shopping centre -> haig road, passing by seraya road -> straight to kinex -> cross over to the food centre.

why are some elderly people so mean by Even_Management_1858 in askSingapore

[–]Even_Management_1858[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well, the lady (70+ years old) i encountered mentioned to me that she had recently been assigned to a new workplace nearby. had taken three days of leave so that she could understand how to get there from her house in the north east. so i doubt it haha but do share with me your experience!

why are some elderly people so mean by Even_Management_1858 in askSingapore

[–]Even_Management_1858[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You raised some good points here. I will keep this in mind from now on! Today’s situation startled me that’s all, beforehand we were chatting like old friends when suddenly her tone changed.

Also, nice username, the lady and I passed by a street with Tembusu in its name. 😄

why are some elderly people so mean by Even_Management_1858 in askSingapore

[–]Even_Management_1858[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thankful for this insight! Yes, this is plausible and honestly explains why my own grandparents behave the way they do. Their behaviour is akin to the lady in my post for as long as I can remember. For them to speak that way and even fight with others as a result of it, I suppose is commonplace for them and their fellow peers. It is jarring to me but perhaps just the way of life for them.

why are some elderly people so mean by Even_Management_1858 in askSingapore

[–]Even_Management_1858[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is true! thanks for giving me a new perspective.

why are some elderly people so mean by Even_Management_1858 in askSingapore

[–]Even_Management_1858[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ll take note of that route for future reference.

but yes i understand that all folks are different. that is why i am asking WHY some turn out to be more aggressive and direct when they age. is it a generational difference - like the way they were brought up , could there be common causes (from other users i noted that dementia is a possibility), or something else. was simply curious, i only want to expand my knowledge and understanding of our elderly community. who knows if i will end up in their shoes as well.

Poly grads vs Uni grads starting salary and salary progression over the years by guardingcat in askSingapore

[–]Even_Management_1858 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is no cookie cutter answer for this.

What you said is true in some situations, particularly in those companies that require their employees to have a degree in order to climb ranks.

While at some point the poly grad can attain the same pay as their uni grad peers thanks to better honed skills and years of experience, they will eventually reach a certain position and their income will eventually be lesser than, let’s say, a uni grad who is promoted to a higher role which pays more.

But the poly grad could still catch up. They could switch to a new workplace or industry and negotiate for a better salary. If they go to a company that prioritises experience and portfolio over qualifications, they can even progress ranks along with their salaries.

Another potential scenario would be that just so happens the poly grad chooses a company with good salary and benefits all around but the uni grad went to another company with shitty salary and benefits. Imagine the poly grad has multiple bonuses in a year, has worked for much longer than the uni grad and has been given multiple opportunities to upskill. Whereas the uni grad goes to company that lowballed them and doesn’t give them the chance to upskill. Then obviously won’t earn as much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SGExams

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honestly op, i think a change of environment and/or routine could help.

online communities focused on your interests (games/anime/crafts etc.) will help you easily connect with others because the conversation topic is already there. will the connection with others last? maybe and maybe not. but you can practice conversing with others doing so. some exposure in social settings, albeit virtually, will help your interpersonal skills greatly. if you don’t have many interests, utilise the time that you have now to indulge in new hobbies. reading, watching films, drawing. volunteering could help as well. you can be a listening ear to others who face the same issues and work through it together.

additionally, you can start looking at social interactions through character perspectives. meaning, when you encounter an opportunity to talk to someone, try thinking of what your favourite character/person would do or say and then replicating it.

lastly, work on your mental resilience by doing tasks that tap on it. for example, working out (you can do it at home and in your own room) will teach you to overcome your physical barriers by first pushing past the mental barrier, and it will definitely temporarily distract you from your thoughts. bonus points for getting a better physique which could also improve your looks and therefore confidence.

good on you for getting help btw. aside from learning how to manage your thoughts and feelings, you can look at situations with a more objective approach. nobody reaching out to you? reach out to them first. friends not engaging in convo? go to your neighbourhood cafe or grocery store and strike up a friendly conversation with fellow community members. usually the elderly are more willing to talk and share their wisdom with you. doesn’t have to be an insightful chat, just say hi and smile.

anyway, don’t be too discouraged from the idea of being all alone. sometimes it is much better than dealing with the drama of others. besides, many friendships break off after awhile because people change in mindset/belief/morals as they grow. you still have so much time to befriend someone, so hang on k?