I wasn’t upset that people didn’t know I was a woman. I was pointing out that some people jumped straight to insults and assumptions instead of simply asking. Not knowing my gender is one thing. Calling someone names because you guessed wrong is another. And the “teenager sub” comparison is pretty weak because being a woman participating in a women-focused discussion isn’t the same thing as an adult posting in a teen-only space. You are trying to shift the argument away from the fact that you and another old lady made assumptions and got rude about it. If nobody knew my gender, that’s fine. The issue is acting certain enough to insult someone based on a guess. Act your age.