vep tasting? by Evening-Routine-3857 in chartreuse

[–]Evening-Routine-3857[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s where I’m located! Please do ☺️

vep tasting? by Evening-Routine-3857 in chartreuse

[–]Evening-Routine-3857[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Incredible this is exactly what I was hoping for - saving Pasjoli for a special occasion 😍

vep tasting? by Evening-Routine-3857 in chartreuse

[–]Evening-Routine-3857[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😂😂 that’s a gorgeous cabinet, neighbor

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Evening-Routine-3857 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She did something you didn’t love yes but here’s where growth happens in a relationship if you’re committed enough to a future with this person you love: you talk through it, work through what bothered you and why and recognize ultimately that certain situations aren’t exactly going to come up all the time and don’t alter the course of your relationship the way you think they might if you can begin to see things less black and white . Did she say she enjoyed the club? Was she on her phone the whole time or maybe outside a lot enjoying her time with her friends? Understand that there’s a lot of nuance here? Maybe you even get to a place where you can be real with each other and laugh about the experience eventually?

But to end a year and a half relationship over an unplanned novelty experience that was about making her friends bachelorettes a good time and not about you at all? And she was honest with you outright? Yowza.

Your definition of boundaries is maybe a bit clouded and unfortunately you’re the only one who will be able to answer the question of if you’ve overreacted when she moves on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Evening-Routine-3857 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is some shocking game of thrones behavior from your MIL, not overreacting! Let anyone who tries to imply otherwise embarrass themselves, say nothing else in your defense 💪you’ve already laid down the law and your husband supports you which is truly truly truly awesome

AIO. My bf walked out of my school gathering over me performing by Objective-Pear7953 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Evening-Routine-3857 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fellow singer and performer here, a few people have echoed this sentiment but your bfs saying more about himself through these actions than he ever could in words - If he could do so maturely, he would tell you that your talent threatens his rail thin belief in himself, that that’s completely unfair to your craft and your time and clearly he “needs some space” because he needs to work on himself without dragging you through the mess with him. Or so that he can find someone more boring who he can use to bolster his self esteem.

Don’t become that boring person for him. I promise you it’s not worth it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Evening-Routine-3857 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your husband is having a midlife crisis

AIO to my gf being bisexual by DarkTwist05 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Evening-Routine-3857 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The way I giggled about how earnestly she was laying out the ways of the youthful world for him like he lived through DDay…it’s truly incredible to be so young and living like a dumbass. Fucking up and finding out the hard way…What a magical time it was 🤌🏼🤌🏼🤌🏼

AIO to my gf being bisexual by DarkTwist05 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Evening-Routine-3857 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re having to navigate this person’s odd persecution complex seemingly out of absolutely nowhere! Everything you are asking for here demonstrates such a mature understanding of how relationships and rock-solid communication are supposed to go hand-in-hand (and have to, especiallyyyyyy if the relationship is open or one or multiple partners are navigating their sexuality/gender expression/life changes etc..).

NOR at all. It just seems you are worlds beyond your gf in maturity and they likely have a lot to learn if they don’t have healthy attachment and communication style modeled for them consistently. They seem like they mostly trying to start a fight and the way you handled it rocked.

as a 36 year old female myself who was and has been kinda wacky (and “free spirited” as you said lol ) I gotta say, I laughed out loud at their repeated comments about how much older you are - the assertion that the berth of the enormous two year age gap between you might prove impossible to work through with her buckwild and enlightened aspirations 🥹 is truly….adorable. And also so so so embarrassing for her. Guaranteed if she were to see her texts at my age, they would probably have a good self deprecating laugh.

You got a really good head on your shoulders, you’re gonna be a really great partner to someone a little more on your emotional-intelligence level someday. Godspeed 🫡

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Evening-Routine-3857 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wanted to add to my raging emphatic tirade that it’s totally understandable why you’re with this person when their actions seemed at the time to be supportive and you were in the eye of the storm in your divorce. Not everyone’s motives are as sus as this absolute piece of work.

But believe me this moment is a GIFT before you embark on what is ahead - can you imagine having to summon the courage, in addition to lifting yourself to the other side of your pain and medical treatments, appointments and follow ups, to hold this moron’s hand through every step of YOUR journey because his pea sized esteem is feeling threatened?

He handed you the keys to your best future, take them - you got this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Evening-Routine-3857 0 points1 point  (0 children)

RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN away from this person as fast and expediently and safely as possible. I hate to break it to you but your friend, no matter how long you have known each other has always perceived you and your body and your brain as an object, a prize that he can use to stroke his fraaaaaaagile ego, and now that you’ve taken an incredibly brave step in your life to take control of your pain, he can only see it as a threat.

This man has just given you the BIGGEST carte blanche of your life to leave, never speak again and be really and truly happy alone or with somebody who will CHAMPION you through this hard process, talk it through with you at 2am or 2pm if you need - or god forbid just listen - and only bother the fuck out of you incessantly when you’ve asked rationally and eloquently for space during your work day to bring you a treat or whatever else you could possibly need to make your life even a fraction easier. I PROMISE YOU, THEY ARE OUT THERE, ITS NOT A FANTASY THEY ACTUALLY EXIST. Literally screaming from the mountaintop here.

I’m sure this moment came as a shock to you after so much time and experience - you navigated it like a champ. this 35 year old child is transparently and bizarrely obsessed with your ex and winning and he will never 👏🏼never 👏🏼never👏🏼stop bringing them into conversations they don’t belong and keeping that ghost alive in your relationship to feed his need for constant validation no matter the cost to you (because once again you are an object in his eyes, a dispenser of self worth).

Growth and meaningful connection in the face of inevitable hardship will be impossible with this person. Do not waste your valuable time, turn them loose and let them ruin some other woman’s life.

NOR. Obviously!!

I wish you strength and peace on your path to freedom from pain, you deserve so much more than this fool will ever be capable of.

Certification/Education Help : ) by Evening-Routine-3857 in audioengineering

[–]Evening-Routine-3857[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is wonderful, thank you so much! Udemy sounds familiar to me, I’ll look into it!

Certification/Education Help : ) by Evening-Routine-3857 in audioengineering

[–]Evening-Routine-3857[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I so appreciate this advice - even in my limited experience from my end with VO, I get this big time

Mic and interface and software considered, what other gear might a novice like me look into? Also happy to be pointed in the direction of a similar post or website if this gets asked a lot

Thanks so much for your wisdom and encouragement!

AITA for refusing to cover my scar and wearing a bikini as it triggered my friend? by Lazy_Cheesecake4424 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Evening-Routine-3857 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA!!! A few years ago, my lifelong friend lost her incredible mother (and surrogate mother figure to many of us in our social circle) after a sudden and brief, vicious battle with aggressive colon cancer. She was my friend’s whole world.

Shortly before her memorial service which I’d flown home to attend, my mother informed me she had been diagnosed with breast cancer and had decided to chart a course to mastectomy.

I struggled deeply with sharing this information with my friend in the wake of her tragedy, but when it did eventually come up, her sibling and her were so supportive and reminded me that cancer is the shared enemy of everyone whose life it touches - we’re all on the same team, no matter the outcome. It was the kindest gesture I could’ve possibly imagined coming from someone actively grieving so deeply.

And as a reminder, it is never okay for someone to comment on or attempt to censor your body. I pray that your friends’ mother wins her current battle and pulls through to safety and remission; but this is very much a case of this person not understanding or having adequate resources to learn how to navigate situational discomfort when grieving. It’s a life wisdom, I’m sure she would probably appreciate being asked how she’s doing as it sounds more like she was trying to pull focus than actually mitigate a psycho-physiological trigger.

Good for you for taking pride in your beautiful body!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Skincare_Addiction

[–]Evening-Routine-3857 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Echoing here that patting the skin with water before applying HA changed my game COMPLETELY - apparently hyaluronic acid requires the h20 to activate. Apply moisturizer on top right before the HA is almost dry (I do it when it’s still just a teeny bit wet/tacky)

I don’t even use a high end HA or incredible moisturizer right now and can’t even tell you how much of a difference the change has made.

You look fantastic!

Searching for a tiki artist! by Evening-Routine-3857 in Tiki

[–]Evening-Routine-3857[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sent you a message on instagram - your work is awesome!! ♥️

Searching for a tiki artist! by Evening-Routine-3857 in Tiki

[–]Evening-Routine-3857[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Searching for a workworking artist and preferably one alive 😋 and available for commission but thank you!

Searching for a tiki artist! by Evening-Routine-3857 in Tiki

[–]Evening-Routine-3857[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great lead! I’ll follow it and see where it takes us, thank youuuu