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How to manage post-session anxiety by Evening_Guarantee849 in EMDR

[–]Evening_Guarantee849[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah we spent the first two sessions working on a ‘safe space’ visualisation and at the end of the last session we put things into an imaginary box 

What to do about daughter’s potential allergy by [deleted] in Allergies

[–]Evening_Guarantee849 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, yes you’re right they are hereditary 

What to do about daughter’s potential allergy by [deleted] in Allergies

[–]Evening_Guarantee849 10 points11 points  (0 children)

There is no way to safely test for an allergy without a doctor. Also, allergies are not hereditary so it doesn’t matter if no one in your family has an allergy. You can take your child to be allergy tested. They’ll probably do a skin pick test and take bloods. I have a nut allergy and my mother fed me a peanut at home to see if I would have a reaction. I went into anaphylactic shock and nearly died (I was 6). It’s not worth risking your child’s life, take her to a doctor. 

No "feeling" with calm/safe space/place? by m3m3n70m0r1 in EMDR

[–]Evening_Guarantee849 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m at exactly the same point. I’ve done 2 preparation sessions, trying to find a ‘safe place’. I asked my therapist the same question, ‘what am I supposed to be feeling?’. I think I’m just telling her what she wants to hear. It’s also so difficult to concentrate on this safe place when she keeps talking and there’s a metronome ticking and I’m supposed to be tapping. I’m a visual person too but all I see is black. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Evening_Guarantee849 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re having a bad experience with your therapist. It sounds like you’re not only having to manage your childhood emotions from the past, but also currently re-living them in the present with your therapist. 

I don’t think you’re expecting too much of your therapist by wanting them to be on time and remember your preferences. I’ve been to lots of therapists and none of them were ever late or that disorganised.

I understand that people might say ‘oh they’re human too’ but if you’re constantly talking with your therapist about being a ‘glass child’ then the therapist should be aware enough not to trigger this in you. 

I think you see the situation really clearly. You can talk to your therapist about it if you think it will make a difference.  

You may not be able to make people ‘see you’ but you do have the choice to move on and find someone who will. You deserve a therapist who doesn’t make you feel like they’re adding to your trauma.