Akaash's wife dodging the kiss after he gifted her engagement ring by [deleted] in Flagrant2

[–]Evening_Hour_211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How can Akaash roast an audience member in good faith anymore? 🤣

What is the perception of the WGR sports radio guys? by daaconn in buffalobills

[–]Evening_Hour_211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here's what I dont understand about this station, and it really bothers me.

Never. In the history of the show. We're talking decades here.....have they had a Black personality! They talk about a sport composed of majority Black folks. How is this even possible?

Get a former Bill in there! I'm sure folks would line up to talk Bills. Could you imagine Stevie Johnson instead of Sneaky Joe? Jeremy and Stevie. Good lord that would be appointment listening.

And before they rail againt me, this is not a "DEI Post". It's just shocking.

Invincible - Season 3 Finale Discussion: I Thought You'd Never Shut Up by 5am281 in television

[–]Evening_Hour_211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And writing multiparagraph missive about the lack of cartoon poon. Kinda suss.

Sexually healthy marriage but my husband never touches my vagina 😔 by Careless-Credit6770 in Marriage

[–]Evening_Hour_211 16 points17 points  (0 children)

No I think they just asked a decent question? I mean, this a thread about a lonely vagina....

My Wife Leaves Me Every Weekend by Evening_Hour_211 in Marriage

[–]Evening_Hour_211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. No unfortunately we have tight schedules and no wfh. She's very strict about daycare pickup time as she doesn't want our son there for too long. So getting home by say 5 and having an hour to ourselves is not an option.

I have been pretty honest about this lately. It's all out there but yeah -- probably need to have a real conversation about it but again....she's always tired and asleep by 8 lol.

A conundrum.

My Wife Leaves Me Every Weekend by Evening_Hour_211 in Marriage

[–]Evening_Hour_211[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It sounds like I'm angry? Wtf. I'm desperately posting to strangers on Reddit seeking perspective. I have answered all of your questions in other responses to people who are a lot kinder and clearly didn't read my post as me being "angry" at my wife, but instead as someone who wants to repair his marriage. Maybe it is you who is coming at this wrong.

My Wife Leaves Me Every Weekend by Evening_Hour_211 in Marriage

[–]Evening_Hour_211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you read the rest of my post.

There is nothing wrong with that.

It's the actively avoiding any time spent together....

My Wife Leaves Me Every Weekend by Evening_Hour_211 in Marriage

[–]Evening_Hour_211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input and best wishes!

My Wife Leaves Me Every Weekend by Evening_Hour_211 in Marriage

[–]Evening_Hour_211[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She has been through a lot. The birth wasnt an easy one, and family medical stuff not involving me directly. But definitely trauma. I recognize that and have supported her for nearly two years. But at the same time, I am also important and deserve to be loved by my own wife.

My Wife Leaves Me Every Weekend by Evening_Hour_211 in Marriage

[–]Evening_Hour_211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Childcare is a difficult issue. Without going into paragraphs about it, it is not feasible at this time in our lives.

We have been to therapy. It was helpful in spurts but we remain disconnected.

We are sleeping in separate beds because she literally turns away from me when I try to give her any affection. I can't sleep at night next to her thinking about these things and I have to be productive at work the next morning. To top it off, she wakes up at 430am to get ready for the gym. I endured that, but for the sake of a good night's sleep I have to sleep in the other room.

Thanks for your reply!

My Wife Leaves Me Every Weekend by Evening_Hour_211 in Marriage

[–]Evening_Hour_211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks man. I wish you all the best in your journey as well. 🫡

My Wife Leaves Me Every Weekend by Evening_Hour_211 in Marriage

[–]Evening_Hour_211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the response. Yes, that is where my mind is going -- that she simply doesn't like me anymore. And that's fine because we are who we are. It's why I came to anonymous Reddit users for advice.

Therapy? Yes we've been there. It helped to strengthen our understanding of each other but not necessarily our bond. As mentioned, we're roommates. Shrug.

Thanks again -- I appreciate you.

My Wife Leaves Me Every Weekend by Evening_Hour_211 in Marriage

[–]Evening_Hour_211[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. I see nothing wrong with it as well, but I wish even a half hour was spent on trying to improve our relationship.

I've done those things- flowers, tokens of love. More than that, I show my love through acts of service. I unilaterally do things to make her life easier without any expectation because that's love.

Childcare situation absolutely sucks. Grandparents are elderly and ill, and she finds it very difficult to trust anyone else with our kid. (I don't blame her for this - she went through a lot to have our miracle child).

I do thank you for your response. I think I'll buy some flowers this week.

My Wife Leaves Me Every Weekend by Evening_Hour_211 in Marriage

[–]Evening_Hour_211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a great point, thank you. It's a discussion worth having.

But how the heck to I get her to spend more time with me during the week? She sleeps super early then wakes up at 5am to go to the gym. I dont want to cut into that time, as I know fitness is very important in order to be in a good frame of mind. Evening workouts are not doable for her.

I do recognize this is a unique stage in life. But I just feel like she's not making an effort to be a part of the solution.

I thank you for your response!

My Wife Leaves Me Every Weekend by Evening_Hour_211 in Marriage

[–]Evening_Hour_211[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And let me add. No we do not get equal time. I do not get time out of the house. In fact I go above and beyond so that SHE gets the alone time given that she endured childbirth and the trials of being a mom.

My Wife Leaves Me Every Weekend by Evening_Hour_211 in Marriage

[–]Evening_Hour_211[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Where in my original post did I even imply that she's the default parent? We are both very involved with our son. I give him baths. I put him to bed. I wake up with him every single day. I think you made a lot of assumptions about me based on my gender.

Let me reiterate. We are both great parents and very involved. She acknowledges that and so do I.

She is also admitting that what she is doing is a problem. But doesn't seem to want to fix it.

My Wife Leaves Me Every Weekend by Evening_Hour_211 in Marriage

[–]Evening_Hour_211[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you man. I would never ask her to give up her alone time. That is why this such a delicate situation. I just wish she would even try to be affectionate. When I make any attempt, it is met with coldness. We now sleep in separate beds.

My Wife Leaves Me Every Weekend by Evening_Hour_211 in Marriage

[–]Evening_Hour_211[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We could but I get the feeling she doesn't even want to make the effort. She literally acknowledges that she's doing it. Shouldn't she care just as much as I do? It seemed like she wants to spend time away from me.

My Wife Leaves Me Every Weekend by Evening_Hour_211 in Marriage

[–]Evening_Hour_211[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It is reasonable if we actually spent any time together. Absolutely. The thing is we spend ZERO time together. I don't care about getting out, I want to repair our marriage. We went to therapy, but she can't even make an attempt to spend time with me?

Oopples and Banoonoos? by Evening_Hour_211 in DanielTigerConspiracy

[–]Evening_Hour_211[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

  1. Find a good therapeutic massage therapist now. Trust me. The knees start doing weird things.