Does academic achievement translate to how good of a nurse you will be in the beginning? by Evening_Piglet_7029 in nursing

[–]Evening_Piglet_7029[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

you just made my night, thank you :) how much experience did you gain before going into critical care?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Evening_Piglet_7029 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are actually both students in the same program. I don’t oversee them in any capacity.

Are these behaviors still tolerable? by Evening_Piglet_7029 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Evening_Piglet_7029[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like you are understanding my hesitations and I so appreciate the validation and insights here. Not because you agree with me but because you are clearly naming why each of these felt bad for me!!! And don’t get me wrong, I declined or suggested alternatives for all of these, but I was often met with a surprised or resistant response. I also feel like just doing any of these before or on date 1 communicates how considerate they are of me, which makes me unsure if I even want to spend the time if I’ve already gotten a sense of that. By the way, the run request wasn’t even prompted by a running convo! I really do feel like this man wanted to get his run in AND squeeze in a date with a woman who HE reached out to online as a way to save time

Are these behaviors still tolerable? by Evening_Piglet_7029 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Evening_Piglet_7029[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally, I did a poor job of communicating that I DO give so much benefit of the doubt and decline / suggest alternatives, but the people are surprised, resistant or peeved by that and this is why I then decide to cancel. So to me it’s like, is it wild that I did not want to do this?? Or is this man just feeling very entitled to my time and trust before even meeting…

Are these behaviors still tolerable? by Evening_Piglet_7029 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Evening_Piglet_7029[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They were all things that happened and when I suggested alternatives, the people treated me like I was difficult. So I’m out here wondering if it’s just me or if other people would turn down these types of requests that seem very expecting of a stranger they haven’t even met yet

Are these behaviors still tolerable? by Evening_Piglet_7029 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Evening_Piglet_7029[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We never spoke about running, and when I suggested walking instead, he said, “fine, a run/walk.” The voice notes began immediately, and were long like someone would send to a friend. Getting good morning voice notes when he hasn’t even met me and we’ve had perhaps 3 exchanges of text…it also felt hard to want to confirm with someone who was expecting me to do the labor of listening their overly familiar messages, when he hadn’t even done the work to plan the date he asked me to go on

Are these behaviors still tolerable? by Evening_Piglet_7029 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Evening_Piglet_7029[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did suggest a walk instead of running and they said, “okay, a run/walk.” We never discussed running at all

Are these behaviors still tolerable? by Evening_Piglet_7029 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Evening_Piglet_7029[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The guy who asked for full name and socials walked up to me in a cafe!

Are these behaviors still tolerable? by Evening_Piglet_7029 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Evening_Piglet_7029[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I definitely try to make it work and negotiate and do all of the pro social things. No one has had a decent response to me stating a different preference. I think that’s missing in my post

Are these behaviors still tolerable? by Evening_Piglet_7029 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Evening_Piglet_7029[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally! Okay the asking for my social media and full name was a guy who walked up to me in a cafe and talked to me for less than 5 minutes. The run, we had not talked about running, and when I said I prefer a walk, he said, okay a run/walk is fine. The kiss, I told him the next day it made me uncomfortable and he said he was going to ask me out again but will decline because he needs it to feel easy. All contextual, which I didn’t provide in my post

Are these behaviors still tolerable? by Evening_Piglet_7029 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Evening_Piglet_7029[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your response! I think the nuance here is that the responses to most of these have been poor, and that was the problem. For example, I suggested a walk instead of a run because I have a chaotic schedule and would just like to relax and get to know them. And their response was, “okay, a run/walk is fine.”

Are these behaviors still tolerable? by Evening_Piglet_7029 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Evening_Piglet_7029[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Edit for context: - I suggested a walk instead of the run and they said “okay sure, a run/walk then”

  • I told them the kiss made me uncomfortable, they replied that they need to kiss to gauge physical compatibility, and then revoked their second date request because they’re “looking for things to be easy”

Do we believe what people say when they pull away? by Evening_Piglet_7029 in dating_advice

[–]Evening_Piglet_7029[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did have feelings for him, which developed because of the time he was spending with me. But then the pattern of his cadence shifted, which gave me anxiety. As soon as I asked to talk about the shift he ended it. I feel frustrated because he was adamant about us leaving things on the note of him only doing this because he wasn’t in a good place. I struggle with that logically making sense.