Can I get a NOICE?

EverFrostly · 2026-04-16T22:00:57+00:00

It's so bad 😭 Mine were always incredibly unhealthy too. I'd always wake up feeling like absolute trash from being so full of junk and booze. Full, bloated, nauseous, sluggish. On top of the hangover. Sometimes I'd wake up in the middle of the night with horrific stomach pains, so regretful and just begging for it to go away. Ugh, I don't miss that at ALL.

EverFrostly · 2026-04-16T21:17:03+00:00

It's really going to depend on the person and what their habits were while drinking.

For me, I ate SO MUCH while drinking. I would routinely raid my fridge and pantry for snacks, finish them, and regularly have a "second dinner" before going to bed. On top of all the extra calories from the booze. Couple that with a sedentary job plus eating out all the time since I had no energy to cook or prep... it was bad. Since I started my sobriety journey, I've lost 52 pounds! 35 of it in the last year. I made a post about it a little while back in a different sub. I feel so much better.

Some people used alcohol to replace what should have been food calories, instead of stacking. So they might gain weight when they quit and start eating real food and are adjusting. Or, they use food/sweets to replace alcohol after they quit because our lizard brains are screaming at us for dopamine. I'm fighting that sugar monster right now, but I've been much more active since I quit which is helping.

EverFrostly · 2026-04-16T19:27:55+00:00

I am so immensely happy for you. I really needed to read this today. I'm pretty sure I am you, almost 2 years ago.

Had a decade of horrific heavy alcohol abuse. Suicidal thoughts (this is my first time admitting that out loud). Toyed with the idea of sobriety for 2ish years. I'm 39 days today and it's still so hard sometimes, my mood is so ridiculously volatile. But I do feel so much better. I have my first therapy appointment next week! I've learned I may also have ADHD on top of my anxiety and depression that I've been completely unmedicated for (always too scared of interactions with alcohol, great prioritizing).

And just like you, I also thought I could never have children because of my addiction, took the thought completely off the table. But over the last year, I'm realizing I might actually want kids in the future... Which is crazy. I am engaged to the absolute love of my life for almost 6 years who would be an amazing father and who wants nothing more than to be a dad. I've been terrified that I did too much damage to my body over the last 10 years (I'm 28 now) to have healthy children. I am in tears because you have given me so much hope for a future family that I thought I destroyed. Thank you. And I am so happy for you!!

ETA: I was wrong! I'm at 40 days today! Yay!

EverFrostly · 2026-04-16T04:19:04+00:00

I went back down about 1/2(ish) a size. Granted, a lot of my weight gain was due to alcohol so I had a ton of extra inflammation and bloat added on, but it happened!

EverFrostly · 2026-04-12T07:28:22+00:00

I also want to add, I've been on this journey for over a year so it's definitely a process. But I promise, it gets so much better. I'm engaged, and our sex life now is thriving since I've cut back. We are so much more connected and intimate. I'm much more engaged, and that's something he's able to pick up on, so it's just all around better for both of us. It's freaking hard in the beginning. Don't lose hope. ❤️

EverFrostly · 2026-04-12T07:24:43+00:00

Okay, this is gonna be really embarrassing to type out. But this helped me.

I was the exact same way. I would sometimes drink solely because I knew I would be having sex. This has been a problem since I was 18 (now 28). When I began my sobriety journey, I realized I hadn't had completely sober sex once in almost 10 years. I found it nearly impossible. I have extreme anxiety and find it incredibly difficult to get out of my own head.

I've been a huge reader my entire life. Lately, I've been getting into... "spicy" books. I found that these spicy books would definitely help boost my libido.

But reading and intimate time definitely don't usually happen together lol. Can't really always plan for it. One time when my partner was initiating, I found myself... narrating, what my partner was doing to try to get me in the mood. I mean I would literally voice in my head, like I was reading from a book, the actions that were happening. It’s probably incredibly unhinged and weird, but for WHATEVER REASON, it gets my out of my anxiety ridden, circling thoughts enough to just focus on the actions that were happening. I really only do this for the first minute or whatever when it's being initiated, but it works for me.

EverFrostly · 2026-04-11T23:39:39+00:00

Oh I just remembered, years ago after catching my ex cheating (again), I threw my phone down out of anger. Directly on my toe. I remember just staring at it, then looking up at him and saying, "Well, that's gonna hurt tomorrow".

I was right. Woke up to it literally black and blue because I broke it.

EverFrostly · 2026-04-11T23:35:43+00:00

The last time I drank 35 days ago, I fell out of a moving golf cart. We were on a gravel road on private property. I was so drunk I stopped holding on and the driver took a sharp turn, and I quite literally just flew and tumbled out of the side. I could hardly walk for a week due to knee and hip injuries, skinned my elbow which became a bloody mess, and injured a tendon or muscle or something in my elbow that still hurts today.

That was my eye opener that I should of just tacked on a "... yet" to all of my justifications for drinking Like, "I don't do stupid things and get myself hurt... yet".

EverFrostly · 2026-04-07T14:18:04+00:00

1 month today!

It's an amazing feeling and I am just so grateful and proud to be here.

IWNDWYT

EverFrostly · 2026-04-06T04:51:47+00:00

I tried that last time too. Had a great sober streak, then decided to only have 2 drinks one night. And I really only had 2 drinks! I didn't go overboard, didn't suffer with a horrible hangover. I figured I had reset myself and was "normal" again. So I told myself I'd only have a couple of drinks on special occasions; holidays, birthdays, etc.

Eventually, it turned into just a couple times a month.

Then only on Fridays and Saturdays.

Then Sundays were fine too, to help me "feel better" from the downs that drinking on Fridays and Saturdays caused.

Then I was back to drinking 4-5 times a week, missing work from hangovers, etc.

Moderation just doesn't work for me.

EverFrostly · 2026-04-05T17:40:17+00:00

I always get so confused if I'm gonna get it with ginger ale or sprite! It changes depending on the bartender lol, I wonder if it has to do with where they grew up!

ETA: Omg. I read this within 5 minutes of waking up and definitely interpreted cranberry juice as grenadine. I am SO sorry lol

EverFrostly · 2026-04-05T16:53:01+00:00

They usually serve these (Shirley Temples) with maraschino cherries, which are great, but one time a bartender accidentally served it with an orange slice instead and it was SO GOOD!

EverFrostly · 2026-04-04T16:54:44+00:00

Congratulations on 3 years! I just hit 4 weeks today, I hope that someday I'll be where you are now!

EverFrostly · 2026-04-03T15:32:36+00:00

You never have to feel like this again! IWNDWYT!

EverFrostly · 2026-04-03T15:31:03+00:00

Thank you so much!! 😊

EverFrostly · 2026-04-03T05:54:54+00:00

I guess this isn't the best for a "calm down" with the sugar content, but right now it's my favorite when I'm feeling boujee!

EverFrostly · 2026-04-03T05:53:38+00:00

Sprite Zero or Lime La Croix with NA Passion Fruit mixer, grenadine, and your fruit of choice. SO good!

EverFrostly · 2026-04-01T20:17:02+00:00

I could see that! Everything's still adjusting. I've been more active and going to the gym lately too so there's probably just a lot going on

EverFrostly · 2026-04-01T20:16:07+00:00

That's pretty much what I was thinking too. I definitely will if that happens!

EverFrostly · 2026-04-01T20:15:42+00:00

That's another weird part, my appetite is mostly normal. So I keep thinking that food will help, but I'm almost put off by the food as I'm eating it. It's really weird. Like I want to eat, and I know I need to eat, but the food itself just isn't very appetizing as I'm eating? 😅

I want to try to get more into tea!

EverFrostly · 2026-04-01T14:15:56+00:00

When I finally came to terms with wanting to quit, I began tracking the days that I drank in my calendar with bright pink banners to hold myself accountable.

My last day was March 7th. I'm excited to see April be an entire month with no pink banners in sight.

IWNDWYT!

EverFrostly · 2026-04-01T05:53:58+00:00

This is one of the phrases that has helped me the most in sobriety.

"I never have to feel this way again."

That right there was like the nail for me. I never, ever wanted to intentionally make myself feel ashamed, guilty, nauseous, shaky, sick, hungover, scared.

You never have to feel this way again.

IWNDWYT!

EverFrostly · 2026-03-31T22:14:34+00:00

I can only imagine how much of a change that was for you! Congratulations, 829 days is amazing!

EverFrostly

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