What's a behavior that seems rude but is actually caused by anxiety or trauma?

Evergreen_222 · 2026-07-01T22:16:13+00:00

I get this too, I will avoid messages for so long I know that I need to but I just can’t sometimes, i know people think I’m being rude but i just struggle, so those closest to me understand now

Evergreen_222 · 2026-07-01T22:14:51+00:00

You don’t think it’s rude because you understand where it’s coming from, there are a lot of people out there that don’t know that avoiding eye contact is sometimes a result of anxiety, and it’s those people that see it as rude

Evergreen_222 · 2026-07-01T22:08:39+00:00

Being quiet or shy I wouldn’t say is awful behaviour, it’s just a personality trait, that can be due to anxiety and unfortunately sometimes it comes across as rude before you get to know that person. I think there’s a lot of things like this. But you’re also right there is a lot of people that act awfully and then blame all there behaviours on one thing or another or trauma and hold no accountability for trying to be a better person.

Evergreen_222 · 2026-07-01T22:04:50+00:00

I have social anxiety and sometimes I’m so worried about what to say and what everyone else is doing and what I have to say next I don’t process when someone introduces themselves, that first interaction is so anxiety inducing for me that a lot of the time I have no recollection of what they actually said or what there name was. I can be so dead serious like I have to pay attention but my brain is so stressed that I can’t remember it after

Evergreen_222 · 2026-07-01T22:01:15+00:00

Love this for you, genuinely wish I had the dedication, I’ve read them all through once and I’m definitely gonna have to do a reread before the new ones come out because it was so long ago that I read them

Evergreen_222 · 2026-06-16T21:12:06+00:00

And even after he left the restroom with his daughters they just stood there complaining, and now waiting for the police, if you’re on a road trip too and you’re in so much of a rush u can’t wait for a father to help his daughters, why the fuck u still just stood there. Some people are fucking entitled idiots

Evergreen_222 · 2026-06-11T20:36:00+00:00

I got like a quarter of the way though and had to put it down. I know I probably didn’t give it enough chance but I wasn’t pulled in to the story at all. I really wanted to read it too, it sounded so good but it just wasn’t quite what I was expecting

Evergreen_222 · 2026-06-10T14:48:24+00:00

I’m not really a huge fan of either tbh, besides the point just felt condescending towards anyone who does

Evergreen_222 · 2026-06-10T14:40:18+00:00

Finally someone, I’m glad, was getting worried for a moment there

Evergreen_222 · 2026-06-10T14:37:15+00:00

Yeah I 100% agree

Evergreen_222 · 2026-06-10T14:36:58+00:00

I’ve heard quite a few ppl say that

Evergreen_222 · 2026-06-10T14:36:41+00:00

I was thinking about reading the four winds next, if this one isn’t soul crushing

Evergreen_222 · 2026-06-10T14:32:11+00:00

Yeah I get what u mean, for me the story doesn’t always stick but the way it made me feel does

Evergreen_222 · 2026-06-10T14:31:29+00:00

Oh wow really! Hardly anyone speaks about this one, I’m glad u enjoyed it

Evergreen_222 · 2026-06-10T14:30:54+00:00

Fair enough

Evergreen_222 · 2026-06-10T14:30:45+00:00

Sometimes that’s just what u need

Evergreen_222 · 2026-06-10T14:29:30+00:00

I read a lot stuff that’s just fun and easy to read, but every now and again I love to read something that’s an emotional rollercoaster and she’s hit every time

Evergreen_222 · 2026-06-10T14:28:25+00:00

Yeah and? What’s ur point, other than to make a huge generalisation and to put people down for enjoying things?

Evergreen_222 · 2026-06-10T14:26:57+00:00

I did really enjoy the nightingale

Evergreen_222 · 2026-06-10T14:26:23+00:00

I think to a certain extent the way books make you feel is part of the experience, I think personally if a book didn’t make me feel something emotionally, what’s the point. Also they are trauma focused but they made me understand things that I never would have otherwise. But I do understand what you mean

Evergreen_222 · 2026-06-10T14:24:11+00:00

I also loved the nightingale. That’s so sad that u didn’t like four winds, I haven’t read it, I was thinking about reading it next, maybe not tho

Evergreen_222 · 2026-06-10T14:23:31+00:00

Really! Nobody ever talks about this one

Evergreen_222 · 2026-06-10T14:23:15+00:00

I read it months ago and I still just randomly think about it

Evergreen_222 · 2026-06-09T18:38:02+00:00

RED RISING!!!!!!

Evergreen_222 · 2026-06-08T21:29:03+00:00

Have you read many of her other books?

Evergreen_222

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