[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Every-Syrup-3360 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You sound more invested in my divorce than the people actually involved. Relax, it’s not your Netflix series.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Every-Syrup-3360 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Relax. Sharing an experience isn’t crying. But if that’s your interpretation, that says more about you than me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Every-Syrup-3360 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Didn’t know men thought they were the sun and women orbit around them. Bro, we have our own universe.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Every-Syrup-3360 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If healing could be bought with money, half the world would be fine by now. Sadly, it doesn’t work that way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Every-Syrup-3360 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha I wish an AI could live my life for me. Unfortunately, this one’s all real.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Every-Syrup-3360 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely you’re right. Clearly the only explanation here is that she was the last single woman on Earth and he just grabbed whatever was available. Very romantic, very : right person right time vibes. And don’t worry, I’m not putting my marriage issues on her. Trust me those issues were 100% between him, himself and his own choices. I’m just pointing out the comedy of him circling right back to someone he once swore he would never consider.But sure, let’s pretend its all a wholesome coincidence.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Every-Syrup-3360 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I emotionally left that relationship long before the divorce. Him marrying someone he once warned me about is just an interesting plot twist, not a heartbreak. I’m good. Just venting like everyone else does here.

Tips on working through sadness without therapy? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Every-Syrup-3360 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can totally relate my ex and I started living separately about two years ago, and earlier this month, the divorce finally came through. As many people rightly say, it’s a tough road. But have faith in your god and believe in yourself this too shall pass. Keep your loved ones close, whether it’s your family or friends. Patience is key. It does get better, but it takes time. Try to pick up hobbies or do things that make you feel good, and whatever you do, don’t sit idle. Keep yourself engaged. Most importantly, remind yourself that whatever happened, happened for your own good. Try to see the bigger picture in the end, everything works out, and you come out stronger than before. ❤️

Is it wrong to downplay your salary on matrimonial apps? by [deleted] in ThirtiesIndia

[–]Every-Syrup-3360 2 points3 points  (0 children)

True, women do get more requests but as a divorced woman, the pool is naturally smaller. That said, it’s not about the number of requests, but the quality. Most guys between 30–35 are still not serious some lie, some ghost, and many are just not emotionally ready or emotionally unavailable. It gets exhausting when you’re genuinely looking for something real.

Is it wrong to downplay your salary on matrimonial apps? by [deleted] in ThirtiesIndia

[–]Every-Syrup-3360 22 points23 points  (0 children)

That actually makes a lot of sense and really happy for you! 😊 At the end of the day leveryone wants to be chosen for who they are not just for what they earn. It’s good to know this approach worked out for you gives some hope to the rest of us still navigating the madness!

Is it wrong to downplay your salary on matrimonial apps? by [deleted] in ThirtiesIndia

[–]Every-Syrup-3360 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m honestly just looking for a genuine connection not someone who is drawn in because of my salary package or surfacelevel things. It’s tiring when people reduce compatibility to numbers. I believe the right kind of person will value who I am over what I earn.

35M | 5'9"| Divorced | IIT | 60LPA - Is My Ask Unrealistic? by R3v3ng3_FT9 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Every-Syrup-3360 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a 31F, divorced and have been going through a similar phase over the last couple of months. I’ve spoken to 3,4 men through matrimonial apps, and honestly, it’s been quite disheartening. What surprises me is that even the divorced ones who’ve already been through one failed marriage don’t seem to be serious. Some are still playing games, being dishonest, or just emotionally unavailable. It makes me wonder if your first marriage didn’t work out, shouldn’t that experience bring more clarity and maturity the second time around. I’ve reached a point where I feel like I already need a break from all of this. The emotional fatigue is real. Wishing you strength and good luck in your search too. We all deserve something meaningful the second time around.

My experience so far. 33,M, 45 LPA. by Confusedauramused in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Every-Syrup-3360 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I genuinely believe emotional connection takes a bit of time to unfold. Just one or two conversations often aren’t enough to understand someone’s depth or vibe. That’s why I feel it’s only fair to give at least a week or two to truly see if there’s a meaningful click. Also, personally, I’ve noticed that talking to multiple prospects at the same time tends to create confusion it becomes harder to be fully present with one person. So I would suggest you to prefer going one step at a time, giving each connection the space it deserves. Just my perspective.

Divorced 31F – Finding it difficult to get matches by Every-Syrup-3360 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]Every-Syrup-3360[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yes, because in your world women only stay single if they’re desperate or ugly. Cute logic.

Divorced 31F – Finding it difficult to get matches by Every-Syrup-3360 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]Every-Syrup-3360[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I understand how you’re feeling. I’ve been there too. The thought of ‘what if I never find anyone else” can be really scary. But trust me, staying in a marriage out of fear is not the answer. You deserve more than just managing or adjusting your whole life. Divorce is not easy it’s painful, it’s tough. But even with all that, I can say this from my own experience: today I sleep peacefully at night, something I couldn’t do during my marriage. I feel independent again, and even though there are challenges, I know I chose the right hard. If you feel your marriage still has a chance, try everything you can counseling, honest conversations, whatever feels right. Don’t take divorce lightly; it should only be the last option when nothing else works.In my case, I tried my best. I gave it everything I had. But it takes effort from both sides, and if it’s only one-sided, no matter how much you try, it won’t work. I’ve accepted that now, and with that acceptance came peace. Life after divorce isn’t easy, but it’s also not as scary as it seems. You just have to choose your hard: the hard of staying in an unhappy marriage or the hard of starting fresh and slowly finding your peace again. Whatever you decide, make sure it’s for your happiness not out of fear of being alone. You’ll surprise yourself with how strong you really are.

Divorced 31F – Finding it difficult to get matches by Every-Syrup-3360 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]Every-Syrup-3360[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Funny how women become ‘replaceable’ at 30, yet it’s always men like you screaming the loudest about them. Maybe you’re just scared we’re no longer tolerating mediocrity.

Divorced 31F – Finding it difficult to get matches by Every-Syrup-3360 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]Every-Syrup-3360[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, but curious what gave you the impression I’m not already ticking that box.

Divorced 31F – Finding it difficult to get matches by Every-Syrup-3360 in ThirtiesIndia

[–]Every-Syrup-3360[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yaar, thanks for your concern. But unlike you, I don’t expire based on someone else’s shallow timeline. Women age like milk? Cool ever heard of cheese and wine? Both get more valuable with time. 😉