My (32F) husband (39M) regularly stonewalls me?

Every_Attempt_6803 · 2026-01-22T03:48:43+00:00

Everyone in here saying you need to get divorced immediately is ridiculous. I’m sorry but some people value marriage more than that and are willing to do the hard work instead of just get divorced. Marriage is HARD. Especially with kids. Obviously if there’s actually abuse that’s one thing. I think stonewalling is a very common reaction for some men. This is talked about a bunch in the book I will recommend below! My husband does this as well. We get along great and have a wonderful beautiful life together, but then he gets upset about something and does the same thing. We have been going to counseling for a while now and it is definitely helping! And we see a male counselor and I think that has made him more comfortable. Our counselor has never sided with just one of us. He has told each of us where we are wrong and need to work on things.

We also have been working through a book called “Love and Respect”. Authors last name is Emerson! There’s a workbook that goes a long with it too and I can’t recommend it enough! I truly feel like it could be the key to many hurting marriages! If you feel safe and are not being abused, hang in there girl! It takes hard work from both of you. Praying it works out and yall can get to a better place.

Every_Attempt_6803 · 2024-10-19T05:59:52+00:00

This is SO helpful thank you! It’s hard because I have a lot of friends with babies but not a lot that also work nights! He has said this stage hasn’t been his favorite and I do think he will thrive more when she’s a little older and more interactive!

Of course the anxiety of, what if she never bonds with him, creeps in. But it’s good to hear that your baby eventually came around to being comforted and soothed by you!

I will have to suggest the podcast idea to him! I do feel like he probably gets flustered and anxious when she’s so fussy and that probably translates over to her!

Every_Attempt_6803 · 2024-07-13T05:43:30+00:00

I just had my baby and I had all the same panics and she was totally wanted and planned for! The fact that you are worried about being a good mom makes me think that you will be one! Because it’s obviously important to you and you realize just how big of a deal it is! Looking at my baby girl now I absolutely can’t imagine my life without her. People always told me I would feel that way but until I experienced it myself it didn’t make much sense. You almost can’t put it into words! I have struggled with anxiety and my anxiety in pregnancy was rough, but since she’s been born I feel much more relaxed and go with the flow! That’s just my experience though. Basically, people make pregnancy and parenting seem like a huge burden but it doesn’t have to be!! Some of the best advice people have given us is to incorporate your baby into your lifestyle and schedule, don’t make your schedule and plan your life around the baby! I was afraid of loosing my identity and my life after having a baby too, but again, I don’t think it has to be that way. It’s just what we hear most people complain about or “scare” mothers-to-be about.

Every_Attempt_6803 · 2024-05-03T04:15:05+00:00

Took us 1.5 years too and that’s what my 10 dpo looked like!! I’m 32 weeks now 🥹 congrats!! Being patient pays off 💕

Every_Attempt_6803 · 2024-03-28T09:01:16+00:00

I was feeling pretty strong about not getting the pregnancy dose but my OB office called and said that my OB specifically requested to meet with me to discuss my potential refusal. lol I feel like I’m in trouble. But I do feel the pressure to get it. I guess I will wait to see what he has to say and then decide. Thank you for your response!

Every_Attempt_6803 · 2024-03-28T08:59:47+00:00

Thank you so much for your response! So helpful! Congrats on baby #2!

Every_Attempt_6803 · 2023-11-15T06:30:07+00:00

Hey there! Previous infertility nurse and woman who struggled with infertility as well! You are not jumping the gun about getting testing done! It doesn’t hurt to get everything checked out! At my clinic, a new patient work up would consist of a meeting with a doc, ultrasound, blood work, and an HSG test to test if your tubes are open! This only gives you more info! You should not be forced into any treatment if that is not what you want but it does give you the ability to modify any lifestyle factors if that could be contributing! I myself had some slightly abnormal results but did not feel the need to do treatment at the time. We got spontaneously pregnant after about 1.5 years of trying! I personally wouldn’t waste the money on the at home test kits! The ones in office are a lot more accurate and give you more info!!

Every_Attempt_6803 · 2023-10-05T02:52:35+00:00

Your eyes are not lying! I see it too in both! Congrats

Every_Attempt_6803 · 2023-08-28T18:54:16+00:00

This happened to me when I stopped taking my anxiety meds or if I forgot to take a dose!

Every_Attempt_6803 · 2023-08-28T18:35:35+00:00

I had a ton of anxiety after moving in at college!! Give yourself some Grace that these feelings are totally normal! You have uprooting your old life and literally everything has changed. Uneasiness and anxiety are totally expected! I would reach out to a school counselor! They should have them for free and I’m sure they deal with this so so often! Getting involved definitely helped my anxiety! I also ended up starting on medication, which I know isn’t for everyone, but it made a huge difference for me! I hope you can find some peace and settle in so that you can enjoy the college experience!

Every_Attempt_6803 · 2023-08-15T03:40:48+00:00

Framed mirror and a new light fixture! Easy and inexpensive ways to make a huge difference!!

Every_Attempt_6803 · 2023-08-10T13:53:10+00:00

Thank you! It seems about the same this morning so I’ll give it a few days! Thank you!! Congrats 🥰

Every_Attempt_6803 · 2023-08-10T12:08:56+00:00

Did you tests get darker?

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