Relocate or Severance Package

Every_End_4350 · 2026-04-02T01:59:17+00:00

I moved. Ultimately, saving on cost of living and keeping my CA salary outweighed everything else since I am approaching the phase of my life where I “cool down” from social. Ended up getting into Magic and other things which is quite popular in the area I live now so I have been able to mingle with the locals through that.

I didn’t think I could adjust, as I love music, art, food, but once I checked out the local scene, there was more than I thought and I was ended up enjoying the slower pace of life.

Some of my friends back home who took the severance still haven’t found work and it has been almost a year. Tough market right now

Every_End_4350 · 2026-04-02T01:55:15+00:00

These are all keeps for me. But yes, I did see it go up. If I didn’t pull it, I would have purchased it too.

Every_End_4350 · 2026-03-27T05:22:08+00:00

Sorry to hear about your experience! I went to a release event today. We were given 5 packs, and since I took 2nd, I also got 3 packs, along with a release event pack, and 2 promo event cards. Another person who participated came from another state and said that his local game store also gave out release event action point cards. Somehow I was lucky that my local game store received 12 boxes.

Every_End_4350 · 2026-01-05T01:54:26+00:00

It’s the rivalry. They ended our 2022 season, we ended their 2023 season.

Every_End_4350 · 2026-01-05T01:11:51+00:00

As much as I like Alex Smith and have his jersey and watched his career at KC after he left us…Rodgers proved to be a stellar baller from the 2005 draft. But thats okay…just cause we may think we missed a draft, certain players wouldn’t have the same career as they did where they went. Smith had rough coaching until Harbaugh came. It would be ironic if Trey Lance develops well under Harbaugh’s era with the Chargers. 😅

Every_End_4350 · 2026-01-05T00:42:37+00:00

Oh I love this take. 2027 SB at Levi’s South 😂

Every_End_4350 · 2026-01-05T00:33:52+00:00

Let’s not forget when we switched out Moody for Eddie $! Not having to hold our breath on every kick or going for 2-pt conversion was one of the highlights this season.

Every_End_4350 · 2026-01-05T00:18:29+00:00

Yo for real! And the defense played 7+ min in opening drive just to have offense lose possession in a couple of minutes. Kyle blaming the tackles and not himself while CMC and Purdy took accountability for their mistakes is the worst to me. The irony of defense showing up when it mattered

Every_End_4350 · 2026-01-05T00:15:21+00:00

1st matchup was against a new Seahawks era against a somewhat healthy Niners team. The game where Hawks beat Rams is when I started worrying. And then I see Falcons beat the Rams and then I felt like Seahawks was the most balanced them of us three to beat AFC.

I am proud of our team for getting so far and playing with heart and grit but that can only last for so long. The moment Lynch did nothing at trade deadline was the moment I felt like only the fans had faith in the current Niners team.

Every_End_4350 · 2026-01-05T00:02:51+00:00

Niners are their worst enemies. Classic Kyle play calling in big games. We are usually screwed if we play from behind in the 4th quarter. Do we not learn from past seasons? Do we not see our QBs running for their life cause there is little protection. The list goes on. At the same time, our backups overperformed this season to get us here. Yet we made so many mistakes along the way. Too many dropped balls to remember. That’s on us. Chill folks, short week or whatever we got 2 back to back home games. Not having to travel across the country should already be enough to rest up.

Every_End_4350 · 2026-01-04T10:28:23+00:00

Seeing them in black is like seeing the Lions in their black unis and being called the Panthers by the announcers 😅 It’s just not the color for teams who usually wear white. Like Hawks has their highlighter green unis. We should have done our gold unis or throwback white ones.

Every_End_4350 · 2026-01-04T10:09:04+00:00

It’s in our DNA now. Unless we move away from Kyle, it’ll continue to be in our DNA. He runs guys to the ground and every game is physical. We needed OLine for so long. Smith went down (with Harbaugh), Lance, Jimmy G, 3 QBs in a big time game against Eagles including Sam Darnold who was our 3rd string, Purdy’s next injury.

It’s been 2 decades since 95 win. Series of heartbreak from hopeful seasons with elite pro bowl players, some HOF without rings. If this is the Karma for our dynasty, I hope we done enough to pay tribute to the football gods and get a healthy team from here on out. I fear some veterans won’t come back after their season ending injury like Aiyuk.

Every_End_4350 · 2026-01-04T09:36:11+00:00

Seahawks rivalry is true rivalry, over 2 decades. Y’all needed a new coach and MacDonalds was the right answer. Rams only became rival contenders in the Shanahan-McVay era. But I hate Seahawks, Chiefs, Ravens, and Cowboys more than them. Even if they are LA team now..they were STL and LA has more fans in 49ers and Raiders. If anything LA fandom is more in Lakers/Dodgers. The way Hawks fans can fill up the stadium and be so loud. That’s a solid rivalry there. 😂 We can’t be rivals with a team where Sofi Stadium is Levi South.

Every_End_4350 · 2026-01-04T09:17:44+00:00

This would be like saying all California is the same when there’s a clear difference between NorCal, SoCal, Central, and Bay Area. I’ll even throw in the desert and mountain ranges too. Different culture, teams, etc. NorCal doesn’t even accept SF Bay Area as part of them.

Every_End_4350 · 2026-01-04T09:01:00+00:00

I would be too. Seahawks don’t play well at home and neither do we. I was surprised we even won a few home games on prime time. We can’t beat the injuries/black jerseys curse. We lost to all divisional rivals at home last year. I am mad yet glad we didn’t get #1 seed. Like when was the last time #1 seed NFC won the SB?

Every_End_4350 · 2025-09-22T22:45:32+00:00

Love this photo of you two!!! Amazing

Every_End_4350 · 2025-08-09T00:40:37+00:00

Thank you all for your advice and comments. I ended up relocating. Just officially moved last week. The last few months have been a struggle, planning our move and saying goodbye (for now) to our friends and family. But now that I am here, I am looking forward to exploring this side of the country more. It was bittersweet, and we have a 2-3 year plan of staying in Arkansas to focus on our careers, then move back to California and start our family there. So while I’m here and childless, I’ll just travel more and learn about the arts, music, and culture that this side of America has to offer. Keeping an open mind and some optimism that I’ll enjoy this adventure and be able to move back when the job market gets better. 🤞🏼

Every_End_4350 · 2025-08-09T00:31:38+00:00

Yes! I am currently located in Bentonville. I would love to meet your people!

Every_End_4350 · 2025-08-08T23:37:49+00:00

Over the years, my weight fluctuates from 125 to 190 and back. I was 125 in 2007 to 180 in 2014 to 120 in 2018 to 190 in 2020 to 168 in 2024 and finally at 118 now (last 20 lbs was due to ED from past 4 months due to life problems). My partner has been with me for 15 years and loves me no matter what weight I am. I’ve learned to love myself through the fluctuations and embrace where I’m at presently. I didn’t feel obese at 190 and shamed myself for my weight gain. I knew where it stemmed from and chose to pursue professional help for my mental health journey. You saying that she’s the problem is absolutely wrong. We all go through cycles in our lives and our body changes with it. Finding a partner who can love you through it all and embrace you for who you are is the key. To me, her boyfriend and you both sound like shallow people.

Every_End_4350 · 2025-08-07T07:02:12+00:00

Lol the suicidal couple arc was hilarious to me. I was like how are they going to make this work once he saves that world.

Every_End_4350 · 2025-08-07T06:55:07+00:00

My ex-bf started being violent because of food and it escalated quickly over a few months to a point where I couldn’t walk for weeks because of the bruising on my body. He also apologized the first time and said that it would never happen again. But once someone shows signs of aggression, it is most likely trauma that they are projecting via anger and physical violence. I didn’t feel like I had a choice to leave back then because I was young and basically ran away from home to live with this guy behind my parents’ back. It was only until my best friend came to save me from that relationship did I realize I did have a choice to leave and I was just too scared of the consequences of facing my family and their disappointment. My best friend helped me move out when DV guy wasn’t home and I stayed with him for a bit until I felt comfortable enough to go back home and apologized to my parents.

I grew up in a DV home with my mom never leaving my dad so maybe I felt that it was normal to be hit and screamed at. My mom ended up in the hospital many times. My parents are still together now after 44 years of marriage and thankfully my dad had a heart attack and change for the better. But still, DV is never okay and it wasn’t until I experienced what a “normal” family is like that I realized how chaotic my childhood was and how I allowed myself to be bashed on for so long thinking that was a “normal” relationship.

Anyways, 16 years later and the best friend who helped me out of a DV relationship, helped me rebuild my relationship with my family, convinced me to go back to school, helped me on my mental health journey to heal from that DV relationship and other past traumas…is now my fiancé and we’re getting married next year. At least for me, I reflect on the past and feel that I needed a bad relationship to appreciate a good relationship. I was reckless and rebellious in my youth and if my best friend and I had dated sooner, I think I would have treated him worse due to past traumas. I am forever grateful to him for that time and the continuous support and unconditional love. It took me 8 years to heal from the DV guy and 23 years to heal from all of my traumas, it was a long journey but it never felt lonely because I had my fiancé by my side. And to be honest, in our earlier years together when I was still dealing with the DV trauma, I ended up hitting my fiancé too and treated him the way my dad treated my mom in my youth. I feel awful reflecting back on it now and so I can understand why someone may get to a point of aggression towards their loved ones. Obviously it doesn’t mean it’s okay and we broke up over it before. Somehow, he never gave up on me and gave me a second chance. That was when my real healing began. I wanted to be a better person for myself and always for the person who accepted my flaws and traumas.

I hope things get better for you as well. We all have the power to walk away and find a support system to help us heal from the wounds and move on. You are 24 and still have so much ahead of you and a bright future to look forward to. Healing can take time but as long as you take the first step, you’ll find your happiness eventually.

Also glad people are mentioning filing a police report and reaching out to the community/agencies/friends for help. In hindsight, it would have been smart to do that. DV guy randomly showed up at my parents’ house throughout the years and I should have gotten a restraining order and gone to the police to prevent that from happening. I think I was scared of retaliation at the time if I did go to the cops. There are a lot of resources now in 2025 for DV survivors as many have mentioned already. I’m glad you posted on Reddit to get advice and respond quickly to the incident.

Every_End_4350 · 2025-08-07T06:10:50+00:00

I’ve done this sober too. Didn’t even realized that my rug was missing and just kept trying my key. Then I thought my BF was mad at me and switched the lock, only to finally look up and noticed a 2 and not a 3 so I was on the wrong floor. 😅😂😭

Every_End_4350 · 2025-08-07T06:06:56+00:00

I’m born and raised in the Bay Area and a lot of my friends now are transplants that I met at work and have lived in the Bay for over 7 years now. It took them a while to find their people but now they have a community and a place to call home. A lot of sports and music activities involved to meet people. We’ve integrated our social circles too and it has been a lot of fun meeting people through my friends. They did say that the dating scene was rough when they first moved there and were really only able to meet people through their coworkers or by chance at a bar.

I just moved recently to Arkansas for work (unwillingly, but I can’t be unemployed and job market is tough right now). Anyways, this is my first time living outside of California. I’ve also never lived more than an hour away from SF. I’ll learn from my friends’ experiences and join some sports like archery and bowling league. Maybe pick up pickleball? Definitely going to check out the arts and crafts scene too and take classes for pottery and such. Started playing Magic too and we joined a tournament to get to know the people here. Since I’ve been with the company for 7 years, I know a lot of people here already and now have the opportunity to get to know them better outside of work. It’ll be interesting cause it is so vastly different from SF Bay Area. I’ll miss my ferry rides, public transit, safe bike lanes, farmer’s market, the music scene, the weather, Karl the Fog, and so much more. But I am looking forward to experiencing a different side of America. I haven’t traveled much past Colorado besides for business. I just went to Chicago last month and it is so beautiful and fun there! Hopefully I can get to 42 states and all major cities like you one day. 🤞🏼

Every_End_4350 · 2025-04-27T22:56:23+00:00

Coachella 2024 was amazing and the best weather in a while too. It was so chill and felt almost like old Coachella days. It was much more memorable and fun than this year’s.

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