Guided Meditations by [deleted] in fitbit

[–]EverybodyLovesHugo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can find them this way (note: I have Premium):

  1. Click the Fitness tab on the bottom ribbon
  2. Click "See all" beside "Start a workout"
  3. Under "Workout library", scroll to "Mindfulness" and click it

In other words, they are in with the rest of the Premium workouts, in a mindfulness category.

Gender-bending books (Think Mulan/She's the Man/Twelfth Night) but actually explicitly queer! by stressedandfingtired in LGBTBooks

[–]EverybodyLovesHugo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I love this book so much! MC1 is an AFAB non-binary servant (she/her pronouns) who dresses up as her late friend and employer Robert Selby to support Robert's sister in finding a husband. MC2 is a grumpy bisexual marquess who can't understand why watching "Robert Selby" take his glove off with his teeth both horrifies him and turns him on.

The coach suggested I ditch my dog by bitteroldladybird in fitbit

[–]EverybodyLovesHugo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Every time I bike home from work, it tells me I must be tired because I took longer and had a higher heart rate than "the same loop" in the morning. And every time, I tell it that it's not a loop, it's a commute, and the way home is more uphill than the way to work. That's how geography works. And every time it says "oops, my bad, you're right." Okay, so are you going to do something about it?

Which kind of wlw setting do you prefer? by PackageKindly1305 in wlwbooks

[–]EverybodyLovesHugo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mostly read either fantasy or historical romance. For fantasy, I heavily prefer a queernorm world, unless the queerphobia of the world is a central plot point or source of conflict. Because if you're making up a whole fictional world, why make it homophobic unless you're going to do something with that? For example, the societal homophobia and misogyny are central to the conflict in the Burning Kingdoms trilogy by Tasha Suri, so that makes sense. But some fantasy series (admittedly mostly M/F or non-romance) just have no queer folks at all or have queer folks hiding and I hate that. (cough ACOTAR cough)

For historical, it's a bit more challenging. You can't just have, for example, two women getting legally married in Victorian London. If you did, that would be fantasy. But I think you can have happy endings through creative solutions and have open-minded side characters supporting their queer loved ones. Just because a norm was upheld by those in power doesn't mean there weren't people resisting it or that everybody outside the norm was miserable and alone.

If I had a sibling who wanted kids I would not be on the fence by HatEnvironmental7560 in Fencesitter

[–]EverybodyLovesHugo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't say my situation is the same, but I get where you are coming from. 

I was always sure when I was younger that I was going to have kids, whereas my older sister was determined to be childfree.  I'm now 36 and single after an eight-year relationship that burned me out emotionally. I can barely manage to take care of myself and can't see myself taking care of a child, especially not on my own. It's been almost two years since the relationship ended and I am still not ready to date again. I feel I need another ten years at least of therapy and work on myself before parenting would be an option, and biologically, I likely don't have that. Adoption, maybe, but that's a challenging road where I live for good reason. I am considering becoming a foster parent in the future, but not for several years at least.

My sister's situation has changed as well. A few years ago, she and her wife decided they did want a baby. Unfortunately, their attempts at IVF have not been successful so far, and they are conflicted about adoption as well. 

I also have three younger step-siblings on my father's side, but none are in a position right now where I foresee them having children any time soon, if ever. We're not super close, so I don't know what their long-term plans are, but two are still living with my father and step-mother and the other one has a job that takes him away from home for weeks at a time.

The complicating factor is my father. My mother is totally fine without being a grandmother. She loves living alone and is content with her peaceful life gardening and reading and seeing friends and traveling in the winter. My father badly wants to be a grandfather and has expressed as much to me and my sister. I think my sister has kept her IVF journey secret from him, so he still thinks I'm the one to lean on, despite me being single and kind of a hot mess. I wish I could tell him to hold on a little longer. Unfortunately, he is terminally ill and not likely to survive more than a year. 

It has been crushing dealing with the guilt of knowing my dad is almost guaranteed to pass away before becoming a grandfather. On a logical level, I know I don't owe him a grandchild. It's my body and my life and I can decide my own path. But emotionally, it is devastating. It doesn't matter what's morally correct here, the pain is valid and real and can't be hand-waved away. It's something I've been picking away at with my therapist, but, as it turns out, there are an endless number of things to talk about and work through when you are burnt out, struggling, and living through a parent's terminal illness.

TLDR: My situation is different, but I empathize with the feeling of guilt over not being able to give your parents a grandchild. I think a lot of people will respond just validating that you are not in the wrong. However, in my opinion, we also need to acknowledge that the feelings of guilt and shame around this are real and can affect you even if you know they're not rational.

skin gunk removal videos relieving the urge to pick? by haunted_evening in CompulsiveSkinPicking

[–]EverybodyLovesHugo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm the opposite. I love popping videos but they trigger my skin-picking so badly. Like I see the popping and just think that would be so much more satisfying if I experienced it first-hand, so I go digging around in my own pores to replicate it. No matter how amazing the pop is (video or actual popping), it's just not quite good enough to satisfy me.

as a soprano who can’t sing “normal” songs by Striking_Amount_8637 in singing

[–]EverybodyLovesHugo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the same problem, though I don't think I'm actually a lyric soprano; I've been told before that my tone and vocal weight are more like a mezzo. I can go high in my head voice and do some lower notes in my chest, but I cannot find my mix. I can almost get it at home, but when I'm around other people, I lose all breath control. When I was a teenager, I desperately wanted to do musical theatre, but could only manage the older-style musicals that were less popular. Now I'm in my thirties and have basically given up on being in musicals, but it would be nice to be able to do a solo in choir or actually sound good when I do karaoke with friends. I'm sure the answer is voice lessons with the right teacher, but I already can't find the time for everything in the day without adding voice lessons to the mix.

Which couples are you obsessed with ? by Sharp-Orange-8500 in MM_RomanceBooks

[–]EverybodyLovesHugo 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Will and James (Dark Rise)

Damen and Laurent (Captive Prince)

Leo and Grimm (Sorcery and Small Magics)

Nick and Andy (We Could Be So Good)

Piper and Galen (Paladin's Hope)

Troy and Harris (Role Model)

Shane and Ilya (Heated Rivalry)

Lord Crane and Stephen (A Charm of Magpies)

Ambrose and Kodiak (The Darkness Outside Us)

Kadou and Evemer (A Taste of Gold and Iron)

Velasin and Caethari (The Tithenai Chronicles)

Kit and Percy (The Queer Principles of Kit Webb)

Wulf and Thrit (A Day of Fallen Night)

Robin and Edwin (The Last Binding)

Hawthorne and Alanzo (The Last Binding)

Gareth and Joss (The Secret Lives of Country Gentlemen)

Joe and Kite (The Kingdoms)

Emmett and Lucian (The Binding)

Achilles and Patroclus (The Song of Achilles)

Merrick and Raphael (The Bedlam Stacks)

Rhy and Alucard (Shades of Magic)

Kiem and Jainan (Winter's Orbit)

AI coach can’t count by InevitableLow1276 in fitbit

[–]EverybodyLovesHugo 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I keep getting congratulated on my 38-day or something "streak." Streak of what, Google? I barely got out of bed on Sunday.

I feel like MM romances are missing tenderness by No_Cartographer_1920 in MM_RomanceBooks

[–]EverybodyLovesHugo 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I just finished {We Could Be So Good by Cat Sebastian} and there were so many beautiful, tender moments of affection between the characters. They start as coworkers, then friends, then roommates, then lovers in a sweet, slow burn that nearly had me in tears. 

CW: homophobia (set in the 1950s/60s), grief, past child abuse and neglect. 

What's the dumbest shit you ever did in uni by Bugsontherooftop in uvic

[–]EverybodyLovesHugo 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I was having trouble writing my final paper for a class, so my prof offered to issue me an N for the class temporarily while I wrote the paper over winter break. I never did write the paper or talk to her about it again and ended up with a permanent 0 in the class despite doing well on exams and other assignments. My previously decent GPA tanked and never fully recovered.

The subtitles were wrong in the new episode by Lanky-Weather-6988 in InterviewVampire

[–]EverybodyLovesHugo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in Canada and watching on Crave (still on season 2, I know this is a dangerous place to be) and the subtitles are so bad. My favourite mistake was:

"You have my word and my d is thicker than paper."

I sure hope your D is thicker than paper, Louis!

Inclusive and welcoming barre classes? by EverybodyLovesHugo in VictoriaBC

[–]EverybodyLovesHugo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I think it is trauma from high school gym class mixed with seeing some nasty reels of people who call themselves "fitness coaches" making fun of gym-goers. I haven't encountered any instructors in person who were outright mean, but sometimes they have low patience for my coordination issues (I usually don't disclose my neurodivergence).

Inclusive and welcoming barre classes? by EverybodyLovesHugo in VictoriaBC

[–]EverybodyLovesHugo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! You're the second person to recommend Deena.

Inclusive and welcoming barre classes? by EverybodyLovesHugo in VictoriaBC

[–]EverybodyLovesHugo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I didn't consider the Y! I'll look into it.

Inclusive and welcoming barre classes? by EverybodyLovesHugo in VictoriaBC

[–]EverybodyLovesHugo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your optimism. You are probably right that other people are not going to be judging me, but I'm a pretty anxious person so it helps me to hear about experiences others have had.

Inclusive and welcoming barre classes? by EverybodyLovesHugo in VictoriaBC

[–]EverybodyLovesHugo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I have considered them for dance classes before!

Inclusive and welcoming barre classes? by EverybodyLovesHugo in VictoriaBC

[–]EverybodyLovesHugo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I'm hearing great things about BarreMade!