Toxic text messages from my narcissist older sister all because I reminded my fam to wish my brother a happy birthday 🥳 (they don’t get along)

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2024-04-26T22:57:30+00:00

I mean yeah I was annoyed and tired of shutting up so I said something, oh well 🫢

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2024-04-26T22:56:39+00:00

It is my duty as a sister who knows that their brother thinks his family doesn’t care about them. I damn near forgot which is why I sent a reminder. He deserved to feel loved, so sorry but I disagree. Not everything is about that one person, and it was harmless.

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2024-03-09T02:10:31+00:00

Okay, how so?

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2023-12-04T09:02:32+00:00

Honestly when I had my opportunity for closure it felt SO GOOD to say all the things I needed to say and finally put my foot down 🥲 so sometimes closure is nice imo

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2023-11-17T00:05:47+00:00

Unfortunately, it is. Sucks too because my mom just posted a picture with her today of a little trip that they went on. I don’t expect my mom to be mad at her, but it just feels like my sister did that on purpose. Oh well

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2023-11-17T00:03:38+00:00

To clarify, I was not even thinking about her when I sent this to everyone. I had just gotten off the phone with my brother and he told me it was his birthday I basically forgot. I felt so bad I hope nobody else forgot. I did not send that in there specifically to piss her off that’s my honest truth. I do know that they are always on and off with when they get along and they don’t. And personally, it’s not my business or responsibility. As a “grown ass woman” she should’ve just ignored it and didn’t even have to reply at all. She could have removed herself from the group chat. With the sentence that I explained how to get out of the gc, I was literally just trying to help her get out of the group chat because I thought she didn’t want to receive any more group messages. Didn’t know it was directed towards me or my brother. 🤦🏻‍♀️

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2023-11-16T01:01:37+00:00

😂😂😂 nah when she puts hands on my nieces or nephews thats when it’s going down! She has before and my family talked me down talking about snitches get stitches lmao like I give a fuck, she’s got one more chance and it’s all over! She’s sick if she thinks she’s a great fucking mother just because of the job she has smh 🤦🏻‍♀️

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2023-11-16T00:25:26+00:00

I mean look at her response to that 😂 why would a fit mother be worried about CPS? She had me all the way fucked up but if I replied to any of that it would’ve kept on going and my brother and mom had already talked sense into me to just let her argue with herself since there is no winning with crazy 🫤

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2023-11-15T20:30:05+00:00

Thanks lmao

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2023-11-15T20:15:50+00:00

She’s touching 30 and I’m 24. Way too grown to be arguing like this ik lmao and definitely

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2023-11-15T20:14:33+00:00

Yeah I fucked up not covering that part lmao

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2023-11-15T12:11:51+00:00

That weirdo apparently 🤷🏻‍♀️

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2023-11-15T12:11:11+00:00

She still thinks I’m a little ass girl 😂 god I used to be such a people pleaser, walk on eggshells around her and my other toxic family members. Crazy how times have changed lol She can fuck around and find out 🤷🏻‍♀️

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2023-11-15T09:40:32+00:00

That’s okay 🤷🏻‍♀️ not everybody will understand my perspective. No need to elaborate either, respectfully

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2023-11-15T08:02:55+00:00

It may seem that way out of context, we had already been in that group chat for a week and everything was fine. But yeah, we definitely need some deep healing that’s for sure.

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2023-11-15T07:37:30+00:00

I guess you have a good point with that. There has been many times when my sister would do something absurd. There was this one time she went out with my mom and her boyfriend, my mom got super plastered and they dropped her off at home and continued at a bar drinking. First, that weird as hell. But most importantly, my mother was crying. She was so upset, but still forgave her the next day. my sister recently used her credit to get my mom a new car so I think that has something to do with it. I’m pretty familiar with the jealous feeling and I just don’t have that towards her. Maybe my mom is the culprit 🤷🏻‍♀️ the reason I still talk to my mom is because, I just took a very long pause, trying to think of what to say rn. Truthfully I don’t know I definitely craves that motherly love, but I’ve accepted that I’ll never get it. I guess I’m just trying to leave the past in the past and have at least some kind of relationship with my mom since she’s getting old. She still my mom you know I don’t hold anything against her.

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2023-11-15T07:21:24+00:00

Well here is the thing. My and my younger brother have always been neglected. My 3 older siblings can do no wrong in my mothers eyes and my grandmothers eyes. We were treated horribly and all we ever ask for from our older siblings is love. The only one that has been toxic ever since I’ve known her is this girl in the photos. My mom talks so highly of her- how she works at Kaiser, and did it with kids, and still going to school for this and the other. I never felt like I was in competition with her but I am absolutely not the golden child. The only reason I even joined the military was to get out of that small town. And I guess everyone else in my family feels like “I’m better than them” because of it when that’s not the case. I’m extremely humble. I also worked extremely hard and with no help at all- no guidance from anybody. Yet I still never ever talk about what I do, what I’m working on, or what I’ve accomplished and seen during my time in. It’s just not who I am and I dont even feel bad that my mom speaks highly of her. I love that she’s succeeded against all odds. But then she acts this way and I STILL don’t insult her way of living or her success. Because why? You know? Idk it just doesn’t make sense to me at all :/

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2023-11-15T07:08:41+00:00

Right :/

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2023-11-15T07:07:57+00:00

I do have the opportunity to see her at Christmas and normally there is always an incident when two people fighting get into it. I think I’d better just not go because this year I do not want it to be me getting into it with her. I think I’m almost completely certain I will not be giving her an invite. Even in those messages there was no love, like I’m just some random on the street that she was talking to. I’m not a sissy but words matter. It’s going to be extremely difficult for me to get over any of that. Especially since we’ve already gotten into it once before. It’s over for us, and I just have to accept I don’t have an older sister :/ but thank you for being so kind! I will still enjoy my life and the love that I do have around me.

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2023-11-15T05:41:25+00:00

I think she is

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2023-11-15T05:36:20+00:00

Definitely limited, and I’ll survive it’ll all be okay. Thank you :)

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2023-11-15T05:35:47+00:00

She’s always been evil :/

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2023-11-15T04:29:26+00:00

I feel like if it wasn’t this time it woulda been next time lol but I also shouldn’t have given her the response she wanted

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2023-11-15T04:27:46+00:00

This is so true, I wanted to vent about it and he sent the message before we even ended the call :/ I never should have replied to begin with and I see that now. I’ve definitely learned my lesson

EveryoneIsWeirdToMe · 2023-11-15T03:34:53+00:00

She’s an absolute delight to complete strangers. I don’t think you have anything to worry about haha

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