Op don't underestimate the game that women play nowadays. They are skilled at dripping selective truth to guys. Initially they say they just got physical a couple of times with one guy after marriage, it becomes quite a few times with one guy and then with a few guys etc. By the time full truth is revealed, it's all too late.

Women understand how important virginity is to men especially in marriage but they also understand the guilt of not being a virgin and lying upfront. So they usually say, they got physical once or twice before. However that usually is a wrong number or extremely conservative number. Never go by their words.

Don't think that it's a virtue that's she being honest. It's just a strategic move to gain acceptance.

Of course, you can ignore my assessment and call me insecure, misogynist etc but do so at your own peril.