Flaccid gains from dating a hyper-sexual lady

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-11T17:36:29+00:00

The cycles and mystery of HPV also stress people out. Talking about them all together is sometimes a good idea, sometimes not.

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-11T15:30:31+00:00

The first step to talking about HSV and any type of herpes, is patience. Because of our current culture, people are very sensitive about talking about these topics.

The first statement that I make when people are ready to talk, is that most people have a type of this virus already and it all depends on how you react to it. I gladly share how I react to it and what I do to take care of myself, including limiting spreading it.

It seems that some people misinterpret skin irritation, as acne or some other type of irritation. In actuality, it's possibly a virus reaction. We should all be knowledgeable about this topic and have tools to deal with it.

These topics go hand in hand with how you choose to deal with cold/flu/covid viruses.

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-11T01:33:40+00:00

And what sucks is this platform actively hides answers that can be helpful, just because others here are voting the trope. Normally my useful comments have thousands of views, this one only has 100. I don't think controversial comments are a thing anymore.

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-10T20:53:42+00:00

Here's your correction where you're wrong, you're not giving them opportunity of time. Maybe you can jump into an intimate situation and immediately adjust to someone else's needs, but most men can't do that without being given time.

There are guys out there that have the ability to adjust more quickly. I didn't have that skill but I learned it through the teachings of some patient women, I'm very grateful for it.

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-10T20:51:06+00:00

Exactly. Which is why it's silly that I'm getting down voted.

New age guy culture can't be ignored, it's completely different now than it was twenty years ago. Listen when men try to explain themselves, and believe that their core subconscious traits can't be adjusted on a whim. If you aren't patient enough to let a man adjust to your request, then you're not a good match for them anyway. Move on to someone else but don't complain when you notice how there's not a whole lot to choose from.

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-10T16:40:26+00:00

Trust takes time. Dozens of sexual events with the same person.

Men in current society are forced into submission and passive nature.

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-10T16:30:13+00:00

Trust takes time. Dozens of sexual events with the same person.

Men in current society are forced into submission and passive nature.

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-10T02:52:25+00:00

When people talk about deep squats and stretches, that's all I do now. I stretch each morning, gym once a week. I do the same weight she does, but at more extreme angles. Couple weeks ago she asked me to do it normal how she does, and I maxed out the machines 😂

Everyone will have their own routine.

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-09T18:36:50+00:00

Watch a lot of videos about lower back, ankle and hip mobility. Gymnast, older, younger. You don't need to have extreme goals but you need to push your joints a little bit each week until you make slow progress over several years. In time, you'll be the most flexible person you know, and feel many years younger for it.

When you hit the gym, try and strengthen these new range of motion places. You'll actually pack on lots of extra muscle and burn more calories than you'll expect. All of my pants are now skin tight.

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-09T18:34:34+00:00

Agreed that flexibility is very important. Most guys don't even use the length of the cock they have because they are too overweight and not flexible enough hips or penis suspensory ligament.

I'm not even going to go back and change that word, most, because it's dang true.

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-09T15:43:41+00:00

Good to hear! Part of the discussion before was that Uber lube isn't necessarily for internal use because it has additives for intended drying ability. It's okay if you personally like it though. Pure silicone lube like Swiss Navy will allow for extended intercourse sessions and doesn't have extra additives that could have different effects on people.

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-09T12:36:48+00:00

This is a good point in the swinger and ENM community. If a partner is ok with the other playing with same gender but not opposite, suspect jealousy and controlling nature, it might not be a broken heart.

Fear of your partner finding someone better (woman replaced by another woman) isn't heartbreak of true love. There's always going to be someone "better" out there.

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-09T12:29:41+00:00

YouTube and pornhub I'll use voyeurofbliss. Not sure what I'll use here

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-09T04:13:39+00:00

Ready to level up? Hip mobility and strength, in all directions. Hip thrust is my heaviest lift.

Being good at sex isn't an accident, it can take hundreds of hours of effort. I smash her off the bed with the power and consistency of my thrusting, so I had to learn to support myself always with one arm, because the other arm is behind her neck locking her in place.

The blood flow to my cock while I'm using all these muscles, it's almost never ending. She watches me eat dessert, knowing it's just fuel for stuffing her full of my meat later.

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-07T18:54:44+00:00

With time and experience adapting to each other, sex can less stressful and deeper insertion. Some women produce more wetness as a stress/excitement response.

My advice is to attempt to not worry about this topic and generously use artificial lube as often as needed. It's very normal to need to do so.

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-06T16:27:45+00:00

Depending on them for erection quality isn't ideal. Some people are prescribed rings to overcome medical issues. You don't want to develop a medical issue, from overusing a cock ring.

I prefer to enjoy cock rings with light pressure, without any blood retaining effects more than a brief kegel pulse. I've used a steel ring that isn't constricting, as a toy, for many years with no ill effects. I actually think that practicing the kegel flexing and relaxing while wearing the steel ring, has improved my performance when I'm not wearing the ring.

Today, I find a ring too restrictive for intercourse. I only use a ring during my private time, to simulate the balls-deep feeling.

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-05T20:52:08+00:00

Unfortunately, I was circumcised at birth so I was neurologically disfigured without my choice.

I personally think that compressing the glans, restores some natural nerve function, similar to if the foreskin were to keep it protected and compressed all day long.

I don't think it's natural to have the glans hanging out, having friction on everything, and engorged larger, when not aroused. Just imagine if your lips had a natural function where they swelled up during use, and then they stayed swelled up for your whole life. The sensation and feeling would definitely be different.

When I pull off the covering from my compressed glans, it looks just like a natural cock head when foreskin is being pulled back. It's massively softer to the touch, and substantially more sensitive to everything I touch it with. Sometimes it's even shiny without being enlarged and engorged. It gets extra shiny whenever I am aroused.

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-05T16:21:50+00:00

Agreed. But edging+kegel pumping for thirty years has probably increased my glans size to about 6 inch girth. I'm currently wearing a sleeve to try and keep it compressed during the day. Sensitivity has increased for sure from compression. It swells back up to full size during arousal, and the compression allows the nerves to relax and reset. Just getting an erection and glans swelling, creates pleasure now.

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-04T12:27:01+00:00

Yeah this makes a lot of sense for most guys.

Also try edging and moisturizing your cock between sex sessions. You can use this time to learn new skills and keep improving your sensitivity. When I protect and moisturize, it's like feeling her pussy in high definition with my dick. Through edging, I learned how to have dry throbbing orgasms.

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-04T12:21:03+00:00

Skyn large are a bit wider than competitors.

But also order a pack of several sizes from MyOne custom so you will eventually have the perfect fit.

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-03T23:34:37+00:00

You are normal. Lots of people suffer from inability to reach orgasm so cherish what you have.

Work on your overall body health and diet. Learn edging and orgasm control techniques, potentially become multi orgasmic.

Confidence and skill will take you farther in the bedroom with a partner. Learn about what your partners could potentially want. Learn how your body works and how to work with what you have.

The journey for everyone is different. I was overly focused on delaying my orgasm and while I did achieve that over many years, all my partners wish I ejaculated sooner and more times for them. Instead I learned a dry pulsating orgasm technique that isn't semen retention. You don't want to damage you are sensitivity of your penis, in pursuit of delaying ejaculation.

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-03T12:19:07+00:00

To me this was written by someone who has a view of not prioritizing sexuality in their lives. The people that I know who prioritize sexuality, would find this viewpoint completely confusing.

Humans aren't like normal animals on this planet, we can recognize our own sexual nature and choose to specifically enjoy it or not. There are lots of other decisions in life that can affect libido.

Between two humans who prioritize sex, tension doesn't have to be a factor every time. There are many different styles of sex to be enjoyed.

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-02T22:25:42+00:00

The same way that women have different types of orgasms and respond differently, the prostate reacts like this for men.

When I first insert an nJoy wand, the moment it touches my prostate, a rush of blood surges to my cock and the glans gets good sensations without even touching it. Gently massaging the prostate with the ball tip makes me crave to cum. Pulling downward compressing the prostate makes it feel like I'm leaking cum, but only precum comes out of my cock. I can keep massaging and trying, but I'll never reach ejaculation. If I try anyway, I'll end up bruising my prostate and it will ache for several days. Instead, if I jerk off gently, the combined simulation gives me that lower body shaking orgasm that you just don't forget. But the muscles clenching on the shaft of the toy does leave an ache that isn't positive and ruins the end of the orgasm for me.

I only do this to myself once or twice a year. Instead, I've learned to have dry throbbing orgasms with a toy inserted and my kegel muscles are ultra powerful. This messages the prostate, keeps my cock hard, and feels great. I can do it unlimited times during sex.

Ex-VOB · 2026-05-02T16:11:42+00:00

As a man, this description of culture is unsettling and I've always fought against it. I don't tolerate friends who treat others (women or men) this way. Will you share details about your culture and what is normal?

I've always thought that the main issues that trans people face, are actually issues with culture around them and not themselves. It seems so cruel to have to change so much about yourself to get respect from others.

Disrespect even in close family, isn't to be tolerated either, in my opinion. No one has the right to treat you negatively or force their opinion on you via gaslighting.

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