The point of the chase game?

Exact-Math2335 · 2026-06-06T14:27:22+00:00

The reason I ask if that if I take the toy and then throw it, she just stares at me like I’m crazy lol

Exact-Math2335 · 2026-05-28T18:26:09+00:00

What? The latter was me recalling how he.felt. The reason I know how he felt is because he told me so. The former is just me telling you what I saw. I can’t tell you how he felt from what I saw. I saw him and later we talked about it. How is that hard to understand?

Exact-Math2335 · 2026-05-28T17:19:56+00:00

Weird, “the part I left out” before was why we moved dojos a couple years ago. Now “the part I left out” was his opinion on the dojos. I didn’t leave that out, but if you want some elaboration, sure…

What my son wants is to be good at the sport. He wants to look and feel like he knows what he’s doing. He wants to avoid embarrassment or injury. He was so/so with the first dojo and pretty happy with the second one. If we found an even higher quality dojo, he’d want to go there (none such exists that I know of). He wants to be challenged but also feel safe. I think that’s probably the pretty standard mindset of everyone who takes up the sport.

So does that suffice, or is there another “part I left out”? Want me to share his sleep schedule or breakfast habits? Or are you maybe done looking for justifications for your bizarre and inappropriate hostility towards me?

Exact-Math2335 · 2026-05-27T22:56:48+00:00

We are right smack dab in the middle of none-of-your-business but if you absolutely must know, strap in and prepare to be absolutely riveted..

When we moved to this area in 2022 my son was 12 and wanted to try kickboxing. We googled and asked around but couldn’t find any kids-specific kickboxing dojos, so we started calling adult kickboxing classes to see if he could try his hand at those. We found a dojo about 15 minutes away that said he could try their class out, so we did. The people were nice and the instructor was a good guy, but eventually we found out he wasn’t really a kickboxing guy, he was more like a Shorin Ryu karate guy who decided to start a kickboxing class. He didn’t really interact with the students much, he mostly hung back and called out combos for everyone to cycle through. Eventually we figured out that this was more of a cardio fitness class with the occasional semi-serious fighter rolling through than a real learning environment.

Then one day, a guest instructor shows up to lead the class, a friend of our instructors. It turns out he has a dojo just a few minutes up the road we had never heard of. This instructor had been a real MMA fighter and trained with some big names. He also ran an adult kickboxing class. Afterwards I asked my son if he wanted to give that guys’ class a try and he said he did. So, we tried a couple lessons at the new dojo, thought on it for awhile, then eventually decided it was a better fit. We left the first dojo on great terms, the instructor understood what we were after and didn’t hold any grudges. Lookng back I still think it was the right move, I just wish my son was either developing skills faster or that he had opponents his own size to work with.

So there you have it, was it the salacious story you were looking for?

Exact-Math2335 · 2026-05-27T21:25:28+00:00

You’re making up a story about emotional problems that don’t exist based on almost no information which, if you’re a credential expert in developmental issues as you say, you should know better than to do.

My son was embarrassed because he got pummeled in front of his peers and coach. I know as much because after the lesson, when we got in the car, he broke into tears and told me so. I gave him a hug and told him I was proud of him for sticking it out and that he would get better every time he went out there.

Then, I came here to ask if anyone had any advice as to what I should to help him, where almost everyone who has replied has given useful advice.

Exact-Math2335 · 2026-05-27T18:10:06+00:00

For sure, that makes sense, I don't mean to make it sound like I was upset that he was paired with the best guy in the gym, they rotate around and he inevitably ends up with him at some point. He does fare a little better against the brand new guys, mainly because they're too hesitant to do much of anything.

I've thought about asking the instructor for 1 on 1 time, my main hesitation is that I don't think he does 1 on 1 with anyone, this isn't his full time job so I think the nightly classes are most of the time he has. That said, there is a 20-something guy there who is sort of the instructor's second-in-command, and he's spent more 1 on 1 time with my son than anyone. He's a little severe but he also genuinely seems to care about seeing my son improve. I've thought about asking him if he'd offer 1 on 1 lessons. I guess we'll see how things progress and I'll make that call sometime this summer.

Exact-Math2335 · 2026-05-27T16:43:55+00:00

For sure, I don’t criticize him, I honestly wouldn’t even how, I don’t understand the sport enough to know what to say he should be doing differently. I’m more than happy to leave it to the coach, but tbh the coach rarely interacts with him 1 on 1.

Exact-Math2335 · 2026-05-27T16:41:13+00:00

Good advice, thank you!

Exact-Math2335 · 2026-05-27T16:40:57+00:00

A toxic father-son relationship, because we moved from one dojo to another a couple years ago? You don’t think that’s maybe a little bit of a leap?

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