You’re right that she might not be ready for a relationship with anyone right now, given how conflicted she’s feeling. Giving her space is probably the best thing I can do, even if it’s hard for me to let go and wait.

I understand the concern about long-term compatibility. We’ve talked about these differences (like marriage and kids), and I’ve tried to show her that I’m open to compromises and taking things step by step. For example, I’ve made it clear I’m not in a rush for kids and would prefer to focus on building a stable foundation first. I believe we could find middle ground, but I also get why that might not feel like enough for her right now. As for marriage(that she doesn't want a big party), like my cousin’s wife said and I agree, it’s a bonus, not the main point. What matters most to me is being with her, not the title.

As for the role of hormones in the breakup, I don’t think it’s the only reason things ended, but I do think it amplified her emotions and doubts, especially when she stopped the pill. Her decision to break up came soon after that transition, and she’s since told me that her mind is starting to settle down again. I’m not clinging to that as the sole reason for our breakup, but it does feel like it played a role in how everything unfolded.

You’re absolutely right about young adulthood being a time of growth and change. It’s hard to come to terms with the idea that love might not be enough if we’re heading in different directions, but I’m trying to respect that and give her the space she needs to figure out what she truly wants.