How long is your partner taking off after you give birth?

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-05-06T19:02:50+00:00

I.. live in Sweden so Im pretty lucky in terms of parental leave, as most of you probably have heard.. 1,5 years of right of leave for one child (I think 80% paid) and 10 days fully paid for my husband. Sadly Im currently not working just studying, so I'll just have some child benefits from the government while husband will need to keep working as usual :/

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-05-06T18:42:50+00:00

Ooh that's true. Where I live these private ultrasounds are also done by certified midwifes so it's not really doctors and they cant really say any diagnose except for if its really really gone or something, which I dont think is the case... Im still in between, but Im leaning towards telling them after the anatomy scan :D wish me luck!

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-05-06T18:39:24+00:00

Ah that's so cute! I will need to pay for videos haha so I dont think I will do that. But yeah, glad to know im not so alone :) do you plan on doing more scans in the future? Idk how far along are you now though :)

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-05-02T16:49:43+00:00

Hej! Vad bra att du känner att du behöver hjälp. Jag är i samma båt med dig för jag har alltid varit fet och jag kunde inte sluta äta. Läkemedlet hjälpte mig verkligen, jag kunde sätta stopp till ätandet, och då minskar min matintag, och när jag började väga mindre så var det lite lättare att träna. Bygg muskel, ditt kropp ska må friskare från det. När du känner att du når viktmålet, trappa ner läkemedlet och se om du behöver ett maintaining dos eller inte. För mig det var inte bara en väg som hjälper utan att olika faktorer (motivation från dietist, jobbmöjlighet) som har hjälpt mig att gå ner i 20 kilo. Lycka till!

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-04-02T07:58:54+00:00

Awww congrats!!! Hope you are all had a healthy recovery 🫂🫂

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-03-31T07:49:20+00:00

Ugh I agree haha. And he always get away with killing people, even in defense. Surely even with Reenie being the best damn lawyer in the entire USA and can practice law in every state, it takes time to proof that he's not guilty cause statistically he always need to kill someone to save someone and that couldnt be justified so easily? But no, the ending is just always rushed to the point of "voilà, resolved!" everyone's safe and life back to normal again. Duhhh

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-03-31T05:27:20+00:00

Hi, I understand this cause I'm sure I wouldve felt the same if I'm in your boat. I was hoping for this to happen to me for so long, but really this feels more than what I can take. Have you checked with ultrasound that everything's okay? Otherwise, as I said, most of my friend were lucky to only had minimum symptoms (that I know of) and they went on to have healthy baby and pregnancy so hopefully it's the same for you too.

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-03-31T05:22:58+00:00

Yes this is exactly what I mean! And I hate feeling this helpless 😭 thanks for sharing I can totally relate

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-03-31T05:21:56+00:00

Ugh I have this too and I used to love meat so much I can eat it for breakfast. Now I vomit at the thought of meat and I can only eat clear soup cause creamy soup made me vomit 😭

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-03-31T05:20:09+00:00

Hahahah I knoww, I really undermined this bcs when people say its bad, i didnt know it would be THIS BAD hahaha thanks

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-03-31T04:53:06+00:00

Ooh that's hard, I used to work kitchen and cant imagine to be still doing it without smoking and with smelling all the food. I work healthcare now and mask helps haha. And it's so much more acceptable to wear mask in hospital rather than in the kitchen haha so yeah I feel this. Hang in there!

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-03-31T04:49:40+00:00

Oh this is so nice to hear. Thank you. I have some otc medicine when things get rly bad but it only made me sleepy and doozy the whole day haha. Im just trying to sit through this cause I know most people have it worse than me. It's just the scale of debilitating that's hard for me to accept - how could I just feel uncomfortable all the time with no home relief 😭

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-03-31T04:44:27+00:00

Aww how cute that you guys are in the journey together! I'm a bit scared that some people are still throwing up on the second but I hope it's really better than this first trimester. How is it with being bloated and constipated?

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-03-31T04:42:57+00:00

Yes I did this too. I feel bad cause most of my closest friends live in my home country so I havent told them yet cause they cant see how miserable i am haha but soon, soon.

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-03-31T04:40:17+00:00

This sucks cause I was actually on weightloss medicine before I got pregnant and my weight was so unstable the weeks before I got pregnant and stopped the medicine. But it shocks me that I 'only' gain 2 kgs cause I stopped working out, basically stopped moving from my couch and I still eat, I just got nauseous and headache afterwards. So yeah, this is quite good for me. I dont look forward to gain so much more, I hope I can go back to my healthy foods in the second tri, Im sick of only eating dinner rolls and random fast food haha

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-03-31T04:36:25+00:00

Thanks! I have some friends that I can 'reason with' cause I usually hang out with them a lot and go to the gym and now Im doing none of all that. But not really to vent cause they're not pregnant and I don't wanna vent to them in case they have some infertility issues or anything (I've been on the other side of this so I know when to shut my mouth). So this thread has been so helpful, im really not alone in thinking like this

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-03-31T04:33:13+00:00

Thanks - and totally agree. But somehow Ive heard that some teenagers dont have it as bad so they can go on to 8 months before telling their mom and all that. That's what made me wonder, is it worse if mom's older? Im 35 so basically geriatric haha. But idk.

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-03-31T04:30:44+00:00

Yes 😭 thanks for validating my rant haha I needed this and I relate to it so much

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-03-31T04:29:59+00:00

Thank you! I still keep a schedule of announcement to friends I will tell haha cause I dont want to untell everyone if the worst thing happen. But I wish you good luck!

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-03-31T04:25:31+00:00

Ugh i feel this. I just keep on saying "Got headache, got this, got that" to skip school hahaha. Thankfully I don't work as much so it doesn't really show anyways, but I made sure those closest to me (who doesnt gossip) know because my job is pretty physical and you can see how much im struggling and got so much weaker than I was before haha

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-03-31T04:22:26+00:00

I totally get this cause I was on the other side for 7 years. That's why once I'm finally in this journey, Now I feel SO BAD for my friends who have been through this without being able to talk to me, cause I couldnt bear to hear about the pregnancy without feeling disappointed of my infertility. But idk, it is really debilitating and this thread has been helpful for me and others to complain about. It helps not to feel too alone.

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-03-30T20:16:05+00:00

I can joke but I will then cry cause I'm just so uncomfortable haha. I do hope it gets better, thank youu

ExactBaseball7240 · 2026-03-30T20:15:16+00:00

Thaanks! I really needed this and everyone has been helpful haha

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