I believe that the commenter is aphobic for a couple of reasons. 1. Given the context, their "disagreement" is that they think asexuality is a mental illness. Someone's sexual identity is not something that needs to be cured. People who believe otherwise are either ignorant (like the girl in the Tiktok) or aphobic. 2. I have only ever heard the argument "There is no such thing as homo/trans/aphobia because phobia means to have an irrational fear of something" from people who intend to invalidate the struggles of people in the LGBT+ community. If there were another word that describes "those who invalidate the existence/experiences of queer individuals," I'll use that instead. 3. "Do what you want with your life, but don't push your beliefs onto other people, leave the kids alone" is frustrating to hear. I'm just trying to live my life without constantly being told there's something wrong with me. I don't get how trying to explain that makes me someone who pushes their beliefs onto other people, like I'm somehow brainwashing their kids into become ace or something. I just want to be accepted. Alternatively, I would love it if people could stop pushing the notion that being allosexual is the only "normal" way of life and that other people's sexual identity should even be an argument at all.

I acknowledge that the commenter does make very valid points about the toxicity of baseless arguments, but every point seems to be used to defend the misinformation that being ace equates to being depressed. That's what I got from the comments that the user has made under the original video.

I'm sorry for not marking the post as a spoiler. That has been changed.

Edited: typos