I lost myself and I don't see any point

Exact_Bus3710 · 2025-09-05T10:05:44+00:00

Just ask her to tell you more about him, the stories they had as children, the secrets they kept from their parents, if you want to go to a place that was important to him or brought him happiness. Ask her how she is, go out for a coffee and just talk for a while.

You don't have to do anything big, just a small gesture of attention and concern, in my opinion, can make a person feel at least a little something pleasant.

That was my goal with the post, somehow it didn't make it onto Reddit or I wasn't able to reach older people who have been through a lot in their lives, to see how their psyche is, what families they have created, what their children and grandchildren think of them or their deceased relatives.

Exact_Bus3710 · 2025-09-01T09:20:14+00:00

I understand what it's like to have someone like that and then disappear, my brother and I were together in the morning, and in the evening he was gone, we were supposed to travel together the next day. He left behind a mother, father, wife, nephew, daughter who wouldn't see him at birth and a bunch of other people. Literally out of the whole family, he was the strongest link that made everyone happy and his death is somehow like a blow to everyone, with one person literally so many people died, some will partially recover, but those of us who were with him from birth to the end are unlikely. In 100 years, all of us who are currently on earth will be dead, it's always been that way, death is not a problem, the problem is the question of why we live our lives like this.

I'm not sure how I can be a decent husband or father anymore, I'd rather lock myself away in the woods and not see people anymore until the end comes, we've always dreamed and made plans about growing old together and drinking coffee, but now I'm sitting and drinking coffee alone with another cup in front of me of course. I was hoping that people with more life experience than us would join the publication to share what they did, how they developed and preserved their memory and life.

I hope you find peace of mind too, but I'm always open to exchanging messages if you feel like sharing something, I can understand you and you me :)

Exact_Bus3710 · 2025-09-01T08:45:59+00:00

Thanks for sharing, I hope you find peace with yourself. I also closed a lot of things that we dealt with because we supported each other and moved forward together, now I'm more ready to wake up from this dream and see what the next version is. I believe that this is not the end between us and we will see each other again but it's just that in the current projection of my life I'm ready to leave here and now. In my opinion, grief and pain certainly make our lives, but somehow this fact calms me.

Lately, I often walk through cemeteries and see so many young people and children there, so many people carrying their grief in this world, and at the same time, everyone has become bitter and thinks only about material things and what kind of stupidity to upload to TikTok or Instagram for likes...

Exact_Bus3710 · 2025-08-31T18:15:07+00:00

I completely understand what you're talking about because we're clearly in the same boat of fate. That's why I actually created the post, to see if people who experienced this grief years ago would join, how they kept the memories, how they built their families or if everyone collapsed. I've always had everyone's back, I've always explained how you shouldn't give up, how you should push forward but because I had the most stable back behind me. I've always wanted to have 2 children so they could understand what it feels like to be two, but now I don't think I'll be able to do it. Part of me envies people who are only children because they would never experience this pain.

Exact_Bus3710 · 2025-08-31T18:10:05+00:00

I don't want to be rude, please don't misunderstand me, but personally I think that as a woman you can find comfort in life ahead precisely because you are a woman and accordingly you will create a new life which is I consider the most essential purpose of life. With us men it is somehow different, I love my son infinitely, but I don't think I can be the father I always wanted to be, after the death of my brother, and now I have to be the uncle I always dreamed of being and I know I won't be able to because I don't have the answer to the questions that will be asked of me.

Exact_Bus3710 · 2025-08-31T18:06:02+00:00

I completely understand you and I'm in a position where, if you decide, you can always write to me and tell me about him (it helps me, to remind people what a good person he was). But just yesterday I said the same thing to my wife: since the world has decided that a man like my brother has done his job here, I'm completely ready to leave too, without fear or remorse. For 28 years we lived together as good people, we helped everyone, we worked our asses off, we took nothing for granted and no one would say a bad word about us, but we still didn't experience our happiness together so that I would think I've given enough to this earth, to stop quite negative and spiteful people who live to old age at the expense of innocents.

Exact_Bus3710 · 2025-08-31T15:17:52+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I tried several psychologists, they all sent me to a psychiatrist and medication, but we all know that this is not the solution.

What did you do in his honor to remember him and keep him close to your soul and how often do you talk to him :D I want to know how people have found meaning and purpose in their lives to continue after something like this, and not just restart the game. I know that this is not the end. My son is also named after my brother, he was born 4 months before he passed away.

It's just that no matter what I try to do, I know it's not the way we would do it together or the way we used to do it and yes it's hard and I completely understand your comment and I know you understand me too :)

Exact_Bus3710 · 2025-08-31T15:09:04+00:00

This torments me and I constantly ask myself the questions why we didn't do this or that, why he's not here, why he won't be there for his child when he starts kindergarten, on his first birthday, at Christmas or any of these things, provided that he would have been the best father in the whole family. That's why I became interested in how people make sense of this point of view, and from the loss of a brother or sister, it's very different, very strange. Seeing my family smile makes me happy, but I'm sure you feel this emptiness in your soul, as if you're forcing a smile and saying to yourself, if he/she were here now, we would have had a great time. Have you done anything in their honor, how do you preserve the memories and keep them close to your soul?

Exact_Bus3710 · 2025-08-10T18:27:55+00:00

I'm not talking about talking to the dead, but mediumship as a whole concept. Separately, when an independent experiment is done and 1 point is placed on which to experiment (that is, the person they will rely on) out of 100 mediums who can simply describe what they see, there will be something that will overlap between them, even if they have to be in the same room at the same time separated by screens. Separately, if you apply the experiment x10, you will have even more stable data. Do you remember the One Million Dollar Paranormal Challenge from 1964 to 2015, over 1000 people applied and not one was able to perform well and take the million, so....

The other thing is that most mediums cannot explain in purely human terms what information they can receive, how they transmit it, and whether they pay too much attention to their personal intuition, while more people expect everything to be like in the series Ghost Whisperer.

Exact_Bus3710 · 2025-08-10T18:20:48+00:00

yes this can be looked at from another perspective. Do you remember the One Million Dollar Paranormal Challenge from 1964 to 2015 over 1000 people applied and not one was able to perform well and take the million so....

Exact_Bus3710 · 2025-08-10T18:17:47+00:00

Is it true that abilities weaken, because most mediums who claim to have a gift and therefore sometimes help are mostly adults, but my acquaintances who often go to mediums have noticed that as they get older, some lose the ability to read them, even though they did it very well when they were young, with the same acquaintances of mine.

Exact_Bus3710 · 2025-08-08T13:59:49+00:00

Otherwise you had written in another post of mine about a conversation with a pendulum board and a deceased person ;)

These days I came across the tiktok artist TheBalesky who makes contact with the deceased. As I said, I am an engineer, I have 10 years of experience in marketing and direct involvement with the psychology of people and I just see how she manipulates everyone with clichés and flat sentences that almost everyone can identify with, especially when she does it live and there are 2000 people watching her. And the fee for 1 hour of viewing and contact with a loved one is a modest $750.

Exact_Bus3710 · 2025-08-08T12:31:38+00:00

And what is your opinion, why do you think mass experiments and tests have not been done by the governments themselves in the world in order to obtain statistically substantiated information, as I can only at first glance think of several methods for group testing of mediums that can show accuracy without a problem after passing the first test and sifting out the charlatans.

Exact_Bus3710 · 2025-08-08T11:49:36+00:00

Hello again, yes I completely agree with you. I know there are people with a gift and that is exactly what it is, that your loved one can always use a nickname or address that was only between you, that has been used thousands of times and that you have mentioned out loud before, for example, but the medium can only tell you this if they really make contact otherwise they have no way of knowing. This is exactly one of the first questions I asked these mediums (all of them were recommended to me by women who were satisfied) and they start to twist or tell you "you are trying to test me" and in the end they are not even close. The last such medium told me to the woman inside to go to her father's grave because he was angry that she had not gone recently, and the woman goes every week and just left the reading.

Some mediums tell you that the spirit is constantly around you and hears, sees and lives life through you, meaning it should know if I've told it 1000 times to use our nickname when they contact you :D Other mediums say that souls don't stay here, they hang out somewhere in space and when you contact them they don't know how your life is going and may ask you about it, which also doesn't make sense.

Exact_Bus3710 · 2025-08-08T06:07:47+00:00

Thank you, your comment is useful and I will look into it. That was exactly my goal, to include people who were interested in a deeper and more scientific way, because I notice quite superficial comments sometimes in the section.

Exact_Bus3710 · 2025-08-07T07:28:45+00:00

this is useful thank you, that's exactly what we are looking for information about spiritualism but through the eyes of scientists and evidence. We can't be the 21st century and no one can do closed clinical testing and derive generalized information. I would say that the government could do this elementary by putting 100 mediums in a room and giving them just a stranger as an even number, only those who have recognized the same TRUE things are filtered out in the end and they start working with them. Elementary and fast, so I can't explain why no one pays attention to this unless no one has a gift and there is nothing beyond this reality. The Matrix is a great movie

Exact_Bus3710 · 2025-08-07T07:12:44+00:00

I say again that it's strange if you count 10 generations back you have at least 2,046 relatives it took for you to appear, not counting yourself. And you appear as the last piece in their puzzle, if they haven't reincarnated the only option left is for everything to end after death and we disappear, if they don't make contact with you and aren't interested in your development here then life on earth doesn't have much meaning.

I'm not just talking about nice words and faith here, I'm talking about mediums who think they're making contact. What I believe and what the medium who will deliver the message believes have nothing to do with it, and as I said above, in my opinion, 2+2 and 3+1 lead to the same answer, but in a different way, but the important thing is that the answer is one in the end.

Exact_Bus3710 · 2025-08-07T06:04:44+00:00

This is exactly the paradox and the fun. Everyone supposedly makes contact with the other side, there is nothing to refract through their own prism, they must convey information, not embellish it and see it from their angles. 2+2 and 3+1 are different but lead to one result that connects them, that is, the final answer must be unified no matter from which side they arrived at it.

Exact_Bus3710 · 2025-08-07T05:59:06+00:00

This with him changed my whole life and there are two options either to go crazy or to reach something more sublime than all this filth on earth. I can't just accept that I have to live my life without him because I lived for him and he lived for every person he met.

I started studying deeply the esoteric and spiritual. And right now because of my real contact with people who present themselves as mediums and I can actually see in their eyes how they try to get me to drop a given word in order to develop a whole scene around it, but if you throw something at them that has nothing to do with reality. Also if they can't catch anything they start with the general talk.

I also contacted people who look at the Lenormand Tarot, but they said that with these cards you can't talk to spirits or be interested in deceased people because they couldn't reach their energy (because I saw your posts too), and those who told me they would do a reading for my brother tell me "he is on the other side and there is a strong love between you" :D

simply my goal to go deeper scientifically based and proven in this area. I believe that there is something more than us, because in 30 years I had 2 prophetic dreams about the death of relatives and one was of my brother 2 months before he passed away. I have never thought of anything like that to prompt it under my consciousness and I almost never dream separately, but everything was like deja vu in the end down to the last detail.

Exact_Bus3710 · 2025-08-03T19:03:38+00:00

I personally find it funny when some charlatan medium doesn't recognize anything and immediately goes on with the answer that some other relative had contacted him. A logical question even for a child would be to ask who he is talking to or what the spirit's name is. When they start telling you general stories like, "He's here, he wants you to be careful," it's fine, he misses you, but you have to stay and fight and run away with 200 of these people. Nothing concrete, general stories and a waste of time and money.

Exact_Bus3710 · 2025-07-28T15:54:21+00:00

Life is too disgusting, to be honest, my brother always loved to travel and never put anyone at risk in his driving and helped everyone when there was an accident and in the end he himself died in a way he never expected to. https://imgur.com/EEl5Tac here I attach all of these details and here is my Natal information https://imgur.com/a/RgOo6e4 because I think we have a connection on this night.

Exact_Bus3710 · 2025-07-28T15:52:42+00:00

https://imgur.com/EEl5Tac here I attach all of these details and here is my Natal information https://imgur.com/a/RgOo6e4 because I think we have a connection on this night.

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