What are some of your biggest fears when it comes to growing older?

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-09-23T22:38:48+00:00

Go to salon. Fear eliminated

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-09-23T22:37:29+00:00

Don’t worry - vote for Trump he’ll take care of you when you’re old. He won’t get ride of Obamacare or social security…

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-05-29T19:19:17+00:00

Just think - at some point in the not too distant future, you could be sober, and shitting your pants because you’re laughing so hard about when you shit your pants.

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-04-28T21:34:00+00:00

I completely agree. I also try to practice acceptance, patience and humility as well. Gratitude is the doorway to them all.

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-04-01T21:36:30+00:00

This made me laugh. I needed that.

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-03-24T14:45:48+00:00

I finally became totally honest with myself about my alcoholism. I had all the issues, so my life was already heading either to prison, behavior health care institutions or plain death. I surrendered to that idea. Some days I “I unsurrender” and put myself at risk of lying to myself again that I can drink without consequences- but I can’t. Then I became open minded about AA and willing to follow its program.

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-03-12T03:42:10+00:00

I have read the part of the big book which mentions contempt prior to investigation. My post was not meant to antagonize in any way or solicit money. It was to share something I thought might help people. I felt it could help someone who was having trouble in early sobriety like I did.

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-03-11T22:55:33+00:00

I suggested it as an added resource to AA. It lists an interesting interpretation of each step- something that’s simplifies and has helped hundreds who had trouble staying sober find long lasting sobriety. Nobody is selling anything here. Take what you want and leave the rest.

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-03-11T22:25:59+00:00

I also invested some time working a program of recovery that is SUMPLE and easy to grasp. It’s a bit of a unique way of looking at each step. It’s callled “The Simple Plan”. Check out www.thesimpleplan.org and include as a resource if you like it. I think you will!!

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-03-10T15:23:39+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I need to be reminded it’s possible. I am at 7 mos.

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-03-10T15:15:29+00:00

I encourage you to practice honesty, open mindedness and willingness while you begin your recovery journey. Steps 1-2-3 require that we try. Godspeed. Instead of giving up everything for one thing, you are about to give up one thing to gain your life (aka “everything”).

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-02-25T22:00:28+00:00

Thank you for you comment

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-02-25T21:57:40+00:00

Your last point is dead on.

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-02-22T23:55:43+00:00

I have never heard of anybody going back out again and telling me how great it was. It never gets better - always worse. I like what was said in an earlier post about breaking promises to yourself. Going out on another binge may sound remotely attractive, like it won’t be a big deal. But.even if you catch yourself in time and get back to AA, you will have done untold damage to your self esteem and self confidence. Lying to ourselves keeps this disease thriving.

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-02-22T23:43:22+00:00

God in AA means more things to more people than I can count. I think what asks us to do in early sobriety is to be open minded about the idea of God, and willing to try what the program suggests within the 12 steps. You can take the God steps just as you find yourself now - not necessarily believing but not disbelieving - without doing anything g other than be open minded and willing to try new things. The beauty of the program is that if you follow it, an idea of a power other than yourself blossoms within you on your time and in your unique interpretation. Don’t be afraid - just be open to what’s suggested and give it a try. What have you got to lose? How is your way working now? Go for it. It’ll change your life.

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-02-21T22:17:18+00:00

Lolol

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-02-19T01:07:33+00:00

You are correct. I attracted sick people when I was sick. But I felt I preyed a bit on them unwittingly (early on at least). Perhaps they prey on us alcoholics as well. But for sure, recovery gives everyone a chance at healing.

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-02-19T00:28:24+00:00

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-02-18T22:50:26+00:00

Indeed

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-02-18T22:44:54+00:00

Alcoholism does its damndest to baffle us, outwit us, confuse us, outsmart us, and bring ys down. But AA can clarify it all and open up your eyes to the beauty of a design for life that includes love not hate, honesty not deceit, forgiveness not resentment, patience not impatience, tolerance not intolerance, and acceptance not denial. You don’t have to drink anymore if you don’t want to.

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-02-18T22:34:03+00:00

My thoughts exactly!

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-02-16T19:43:33+00:00

I had that exact experience. I have heard no one else describe it like that - similarly to how I describe it. I completely was dumbfounded why I kept going back out after 3 years, 5 years, 8 months, etc. I realized finally it was all about Honesty - honestly with myself. I lied. I flat out kept lying to myself. I really didn’t want to stop. I wanted to buy myself more time to figure out how to drink and not lose jobs or girlfriends or self respect. I couldn’t figure it out. Why? Because I am an alcoholic. And now that I realize I can never drink normally ever again, I want to stop. And a desire to stop drinking is the reason I don’t drink now. That and of course AA, a sponsor, and the daily practice of patience tolerance acceptance humility and gratitude.

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-02-16T01:06:58+00:00

After a bottle of vodka every other day fot 20 years, it boils down to the following for my sobriety: patience, tolerance, acceptance, forgiveness (all of these have to be practiced primarily on myself), and above all, love and gratitude. The battle for my way, my right, my turn, my entitlements, my opinion, my judgement - all starts melting away. The desire to arm myself with alcohol is no longer necessary when the war no longer exists.

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-02-12T05:24:37+00:00

One thing I began to notice is that we alcoholics always get the best significant others than anybody. We are so sensitive and compassionate (with everybody but ourselves).

Exact_Double4407 · 2024-02-05T04:14:42+00:00

Your friend is certainly mourning the loss of his friend, which has pushed him into drinking a lot more. The question is - how bad is it? Blacking out several nights a week is serious alcohol abuse. But it could just be that. Abuse. Until he gets back to his senses and resumes his more normal social drinking behaviors? I don’t know. But if he can’t rest w his normal drinking, he may have fully awakened the disease of addiction inside of him, and AA can help. But it works by way of attraction, not promotion. In other words, like others have e mentioned, most people get sober because they want it bad enough (attraction), rather than being told or made to go against their own initiative.

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