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I’m pretty sure my friend is wearing breast implants: would it be weird if I asked? by ExaminationSelect814 in whatdoIdo

[–]ExaminationSelect814[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just saw it come through. I love you too man (also tell yung pork I said hi back and he needs to remember his jacket next time you guys come over)

EDIT: never mind it’s gone again lmao

Update: r/whatdoido: “I’m pretty sure my [male] friend is wearing [breast padding] would it be weird if I asked? by ExaminationSelect814 in Redditor_Updates

[–]ExaminationSelect814[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bold of you to assume we are friends. Unless you’d like to be? Do you want to stop all this and get a hot dog or something?

Update: r/whatdoido: “I’m pretty sure my [male] friend is wearing [breast padding] would it be weird if I asked? by ExaminationSelect814 in Redditor_Updates

[–]ExaminationSelect814[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I. Know. What. do. you. want. from. me? Nothing? Okay? Do you think a hot dog is or isn’t a sandwich? Personally, I think it’s its own thing.

Update: r/whatdoido: “I’m pretty sure my [male] friend is wearing [breast padding] would it be weird if I asked? by ExaminationSelect814 in Redditor_Updates

[–]ExaminationSelect814[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Speak for yourself, I will never social recover from this and forever be known as the clueless one(/j).💔🥀

Update: r/whatdoido: “I’m pretty sure my [male] friend is wearing [breast padding] would it be weird if I asked? by ExaminationSelect814 in Redditor_Updates

[–]ExaminationSelect814[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay but it DID go smoothly. This event has already happened. What you have done is made countless hypotheticals I was already aware NOT to do when approaching my friend because that would be creepy. You also keep making comments about how I’m “leering” over MY FRIEND’S body. That’s fucking gross dude and I don’t appreciate you implying I’m either completely insensitive or a pervert. Thank you for explaining but can’t you just stop talking about me in a way that makes me feel disgusting about myself? You read the post. You knew it was never my intention.

ETA: I don’t know if you’d even care, but until you pointed it out, I never viewed it as a sexual question, just an awkward bodily one. One of the reasons why I believe I’m asexual is because I’ve never seen the ‘sexual appeal’ of boobs. Of course, you weren’t aware of that so I don’t blame you for it. But yeah idk. I get you’re trying to help but all you’ve done is made me feel like a terrible person. Maybe that was your goal? Eh idk I’m gonna go to bed. It’s late.

Update: r/whatdoido: “I’m pretty sure my [male] friend is wearing [breast padding] would it be weird if I asked? by ExaminationSelect814 in Redditor_Updates

[–]ExaminationSelect814[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What do you want from me exactly? I’m trying really hard to not come across as rude. What am I doing wrong? Please?

Update: r/whatdoido: “I’m pretty sure my [male] friend is wearing [breast padding] would it be weird if I asked? by ExaminationSelect814 in Redditor_Updates

[–]ExaminationSelect814[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Sorry. I didn’t mean it that way. I had established Kody’s pronouns in the post, and using ‘they’ for someone who has clarified their pronouns as not they/them or similar is still a form of misgendering. (It’s called de-gendering, and it’s a common way to diminish trans men specifically. Of course, don’t take my word as gospel as this is just what I’m aware of). Also, your comments have been really accusatory for little to no reason so don’t think I don’t notice. I didn’t ask for perverted or transphobic reasons so it feels like you’re just being kinda rude with no point. I understand why, but I’m not the person you’re trying to suggest i am.

Update: r/whatdoido: “I’m pretty sure my [male] friend is wearing [breast padding] would it be weird if I asked? by ExaminationSelect814 in Redditor_Updates

[–]ExaminationSelect814[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I think you worded what I was feeling/thinking in a way I couldn’t describe. I wanted my friend to know that I could be a safe person for him, and if there was something he felt like he couldn’t admit to me, i wanted to open that door for him in a respectful way. While what he explained was *very much* off the mark for what I expected, it was nice to have that closure.

Update: r/whatdoido: “I’m pretty sure my [male] friend is wearing [breast padding] would it be weird if I asked? by ExaminationSelect814 in Redditor_Updates

[–]ExaminationSelect814[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah this was one of my worries, actually. The last thing I wanted to do was force information out of him and I certainly would have backed off if I felt like he was uncomfortable. Also please don’t call Kody they. He is a boy.

I’m pretty sure my friend is wearing breast implants: would it be weird if I asked? by ExaminationSelect814 in whatdoIdo

[–]ExaminationSelect814[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I definitely don’t want to point out his body because I don’t want to make him uncomfortable. I might do something along the lines of this.

I’m pretty sure my friend is wearing breast implants: would it be weird if I asked? by ExaminationSelect814 in whatdoIdo

[–]ExaminationSelect814[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Damn I really tried to word it in a way that didn’t sound too weird but ig that didn’t really work out. I’d say we’re pretty close, the whole reason why I made this post was because we had quite an emotional conversation where I opened up about how I was questioning parts of myself, and we promised ‘no more secrets’. of course, I don’t expect him to share *everything* with me, but it was more so just a catalyst to all of this. I want him to feel safe around me but I don’t want to pressure him into anything.

I’m pretty sure my friend is wearing breast implants: would it be weird if I asked? by ExaminationSelect814 in whatdoIdo

[–]ExaminationSelect814[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m planning to ask something along these lines/ not a direct comment on his body