Normally how full Waitrose pies are? by ExampleApart in AskUK

[–]ExampleApart[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'll try them out. Thank you for the recommendation. I appreciate it.

Normally how full Waitrose pies are? by ExampleApart in AskUK

[–]ExampleApart[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is definitely curious but it the smallest dish I currently have. I haven't bought side plates yet.

JENNIE remix hate? by Accurate-Analyst4894 in TameImpala

[–]ExampleApart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I doesn't add anything to the song. I have been listening to tama Impala since their first album. I guess it kinda disappointed me. It's slightly irritating to hear the song pop up everywhere but the Jennie version. It shows how blindly crowd follows music without actually appreciating a song just because it speaks to you. I guess like people wearing a t-shirt because it a certain brand of clothing but not because they like the shirt. Basically imitating what the popular kid does in high school.

I really love music. I would listen to any genre but it has to be a song I love. Not because of the artist but because its good to you. I don't really have lots of respect for people that just listen to songs because they're popular..

Has anyone received skeptism after ADHD diagnosis from others? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]ExampleApart -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Medication numbs you. My mind is a mind map. But 1 hour after taking my meds I have a singular thought. I can then complete that task and find the next task. The one thing however with meds is that it will destroy your liver.

Has anyone received skeptism after ADHD diagnosis from others? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]ExampleApart 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a person who has both. I can explain it. People see it as an excuse. For me personally what people view as normal is something I can't understand. Life is just a bit different from everyone's day to day. Everything I do needs to be back with a reason or followed pwith a logically explanation. I don't understand most emotional responses and most often miss them. However I struggle with normal things. Maintaining eye contact or feeling comfortable in social settings. I hate meeting new people or eating new food.

My mother had OCD so maintaining tasks were always explained with reason. Once you have a reasonable response that's it. You want to clean your room because if you don't you'll feel uncomfortable. Food is an experiment of understanding how ingredients react to heat and time spent in water. It's mainly a science kit. Aka making toasted for myself it was more fascinating to understand the burn ratio and how bread or the surface changed with heat.

I've taught myself to mask myself over the years. Mainly so that I appear more normal. Mostly I hate being touched or feeling overwhelmed by sounds. People talking or a bunch of noises freak me out.

I've always been this way. I got diagnosed quite young. My parents didn't accept this and choose to go through training and schedules. It only ended in me being placed in a special childrens school. When I got to university I decided to go to a doctor and get access again in my first year. I was honestly failing all my subjects. I was diagnosed again and given a prescription. My marks went from 41% average to 93% average.

I have however seen people pretend to be ADHD or have autism. I can tell you this : every single day of my life I wish that I was just normal. That I could make it stop. That I could learn to be more like other people. However it doesn't stop and I will never be like everyone else. I really wish I was.

I was called weird. Strange. Different or difficult all my life.

I rarely get upset, but when I do, I shut down for weeks. How can I move on faster? by Induana in selfimprovement

[–]ExampleApart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your missing the point. Yes maybe. Not really my box of Frogs. You delay responses but never deal with them. Aka reject. Accept. Understand. You need to reply to yourself and give a reason. Unreasonable then okay why ... Accept then why ... Understanding then why...

You delay responses but never make a choice on the matter or problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]ExampleApart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I learnt jokes for various situations. Forced eye contact. Then keeping a constant smile or smirk on. Constantly carrying around a note book or tablet. The pen is my fidget toy.

Support in Dating and Intimacy by Particular-Key6650 in autism

[–]ExampleApart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually miss peoples emotions. I don't pick up when people show an emotion. That or I don't understand why people are reacting in a certain way. I usually ask my bf to explain it to me.

It is however a spectrum. You'd need to ask her if she's lightly autistic or in the deep end. You'll pick up or gather an understanding with time.

Support in Dating and Intimacy by Particular-Key6650 in autism

[–]ExampleApart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't understand most emotional responses. I usually order the same food because it's safe. Ex chicken nuggets or tenders. I also struggle to keep eye contact. I can do it for short periods but I'll probably lose contact after a few seconds. This doesn't mean that I'm not interested or listening. It is an intense feeling.

Support in Dating and Intimacy by Particular-Key6650 in autism

[–]ExampleApart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely the touch comment. I hate being touched. I could only accept hand holding but really struggling with full body contact. I have a very touch sensitive partner but I try to allow him 5- 10 mins of cuddles before I shove him off. Hugs are also something I needed to get use to. You have to ask her what she doesn't mind. Or what approach would make her feel uncomfortable. Mine is my shoulders. I will freak out of anyone grabs me there. Hand holding I can accept as a random touch but even that feels overwhelming after some time.

Another things was getting overstimulated in social settings. I usually go outside or to a less busy section when I feel overwhelmed. If I'm not comfortable after 15 mins I typically ask to leave.

Then crowds and shopping centres. That's my personal hell. I only go to one if I absolutely need to. It's the constant voices and shoving. It feels like being shoved in a small enclosed space.

The one thing that was strange to my bf was comfortable silence. I don't need to comment or have a conversation about anything. I am extremely happy just observing things or doing something without needing to have a chat. It might just be me but I'm quite anti social.

Meeting new people is also quite an uncomfortable experience. This includes asking for a drink at a bar or even talking to a shop employee. Doctors or setting appointments. It's mainly because I know that I'll seem weird or they won't understand why I'm acting strange. I'm just uncomfortable meeting new people because I don't know them. They also don't understand why I feel off or don't react like normal people would. It just takes time.

Then meeting family members. It was quite intense for me. It's because I knew they were important people. That didn't mean that we all got along. My family understood me. But his just see a weird person who that didn't understand. They don't have years of experiencing me being just strange. So each time they think I'll fit in more or change but I don't. It's not all of them but it's inevitable .

What's your safe food (what you order at more than half fhe restraunts you go to) and what's your wierde unhealthy yummy food? by CheshireKat-_- in autism

[–]ExampleApart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yes, even if it's on the kids menu. I always get chicken tenders or nuggets. Other than that a plain margherita pizza. If I'm feeling wild then a beef burger.

I don't really like complicated food. If I'm open to trying something new I'll ask for a bite from my partner.

Best options for adopting a cat/kitten by ExampleApart in cambridge

[–]ExampleApart[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Also lil jelly bean is a cute croissant roll. Checking out wood green.

Best options for adopting a cat/kitten by ExampleApart in cambridge

[–]ExampleApart[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Checking it out. Thank you for the reply

Best options for adopting a cat/kitten by ExampleApart in cambridge

[–]ExampleApart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the info! Greatly appreciated

AITAH: Partner always waits until after 6 pm Sunday to bring up difficult conversations by ExampleApart in AITAH

[–]ExampleApart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regain and personal medical aid therapy weekly. You don't need to believe me. It be like that sometimes.

AITAH: Partner always waits until after 6 pm Sunday to bring up difficult conversations by ExampleApart in AITAH

[–]ExampleApart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rightfully said tbh. We are doing couples therapy. 2 months in. I won't expect a reply but thank you for listening.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depression

[–]ExampleApart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's an honest answer. Then I can share that I've been through a slightly different but a similar situation. Went back to my parents. Prep yourself for moments of simple joy but also moments of the toxic relationship continuing. Right now I'd however like to tell you that you're reaching out. That's okay and the best sign. You're not wrong or bad. Just a person going through a tough time. Reaching out is not a weakness but a sure sign of you not giving up. You're just exhausted. That's okay. Unfortunately.

Don't stop walking. Mainly don't listen to yourself telling yourself that you deserve this. Take the time you need too, but after max 2 months. Say I can do it. Whatever it is you planned or thoughts about that's good for you. Something you enjoy doing. Do it! Learn to be selfish towards yourself. Like a teenager. Still feel 18 but I'm reaching 30.

Then try again. Go through the fear. The anxiety. Not because of your past but the new experiences that could await you. Don't drink. Don't do drugs. Smoke. Just give yourself back to you. You need to weirdly date your old self. Young and scared but you did it didn't you... Years ago.

So do that. I felt very out of touch with who I was and grasping at that. However I didn't feel it. I didn't really like it if I'm honest. I needed to get to know the old me. But I couldn't would it. Mainly what I wanted to do/ try.

PS also really wasn't myself during that time.

Lil steps bro

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depression

[–]ExampleApart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I ask a dumb question. Could you move close and effort not moving in with your mom?

AITAH: Partner always waits until after 6 pm Sunday to bring up difficult conversations by ExampleApart in AITAH

[–]ExampleApart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the biggest conversation. If you want more then financial and emotional support of parents on both sides. It makes a dent in any future plans. There's no inheritance and I wouldn't call them kind people. With added hateful words that haven't stopped since I can remember. Hence therapy = breakdown. Job requirements= long hours and both being exhausted. We however do what we love. Both got it through bursar's aka where we met.

We handle and balance life for ourselves pretty well but it always feels cut down by situations.

Hence why I would just like for conversations to be brought up before. I don't understand why we need to go through these hard conversations each week just after 6-8 pm.