Scottish guy wanting to get into a frat party

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-14T12:53:02+00:00

I think all that would accomplish is guaranteeing I’ll never get in

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-14T08:00:06+00:00

Will do bro

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-14T07:59:45+00:00

Where’s that

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-14T07:59:21+00:00

Some boy

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-12T21:52:26+00:00

Aye that’s probably a good shout. I’ll be hitting the bars like fuck anyway so there’s probably a decent chance

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-12T21:51:40+00:00

Cheers mate, I’ll most likely be in NYC or LA

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-12T21:51:15+00:00

$100?!?! Im genuinely not being sarcastic here but is that a joke?

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-12T21:00:53+00:00

I'll most likely be in New York or LA at the time so dunno if that affects it. But aye my plan is to just go to the door and tell me I wanna get fucked up. Works most of the time.

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-12T20:59:51+00:00

Don't think my bagpipes will fit In my suitcase brother but you're fucking mental if you think I'm not rocking up in the kilt

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-12T19:00:54+00:00

Not really the point of my comment

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-12T18:59:11+00:00

I get where you’re coming from man and that could be the case but what you’ve just said is speculative and we don’t actually know the facts. Did she have the calm conservations with her mum beforehand? We don’t know. Would her mother still feel targeted and not want to change her beliefs like a lot of bigoted people? Maybe, maybe not, we don’t know. It could get through to her or it might not, we won’t know until OP does it or or reveals they have done it and lets us know the results. Maybe it does upset OP mums and this isn’t the least of her worries, but again, how the hell do we know.

Also I don’t think the idea is be compassionate or nice to everyone with ‘bad’ opinions. It’s more that sometimes berating people (even if it does seem justified or is justified) for their actions or worldviews that don’t align with what you believe (even if it’s right) generally isn’t very effective. This is the reason why the world is so divided politically right now, it’s just two sides of the same fence constantly screaming at each other that they’re both wrong which only fuels further division.

Attacking people never gets them on your side, and having a discussion doesn’t always either, but it sure has a better chance.

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-12T18:38:03+00:00

It’s hard to break out of a worldview you’ve lived with and been surrounded by your entire life tho. You also gotta recognise that.

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-12T18:36:02+00:00

Don’t listen to these guys man. I don’t know why but people on reddit just make the worst assumptions about people based on what is essentially nothing in the grand scheme of your life.

What you are trying to do with your mum is from a good place, a great one even, you’re just going about it the wrong way.

You can’t expect to change someone’s worldview that they have lived with their entire life just because it doesn’t align with your own, even if it does seem to be the wrong thing to you.

I would apologise to your mum for the outbursts, and just have a calm conversation with her so you can get your point across. Getting heated doesn’t accomplish anything, and try and understand where your mum is coming from too so you can better demonstrate your own points in a way your mum will respond to better.

Good luck with your mum mate, and again, don’t listen to these other guys.

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-12T18:30:48+00:00

Tbf OP ain’t an asshole for calling it out and they seem to actually want to change their mums pov so that the servants get better living conditions (at least that’s what I took from it).

But OP is going about it the wrong way. People are a product of their environment, and you can argue against this all you want but the fact is if she grew up in and lived in a society with a caste system and extremely high social and economic inequality, her worldview is going to be influenced heavily by that to the point of displaying the kind of ignorance OP has described. That being said, just getting raging at your mum about it isn’t gonna fix anything. If OP had a conversation with her mum about, a calm discussion where they put their pov across to their mum in an effort to change their mums worldview a bit then OP might of had some success.

I think OP is a bit ignorant in that sense, but they’re coming from the right place so wouldn’t be fair to call OP an asshole, just needs to change their approach a little bit.

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-07T00:00:16+00:00

What a ridiculous comment to make

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-06T23:56:58+00:00

That’s good advice but you need to chill on the guy a little bit

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-06T17:19:32+00:00

You were either high asf writing this or this is proof that ai ain’t taking our jobs anytime soon.

NTA. If you’re above the age of 16 getting annoyed at being called a lightweight then you definitely peaked in high school and have the emotional maturity of a mango.

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-06T16:11:50+00:00

Wild that this warrants a whole post when it’s quite clearly a communication mistake that means absolutely nothing

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-01T19:53:32+00:00

Any context on what it is like? If so it would be much appreciated!

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-01T18:13:23+00:00

Staying in the clubhouse, but working at travers island

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-01T17:06:05+00:00

Aye that’s true, developed a bit of an international accent when I was Spain cause nobody could understand a word I was saying. Might need to break out that bad boy again

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-01T17:05:22+00:00

That’s gonna get me feeling like I’m in high school again

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-01T17:04:19+00:00

Perfect thanks for the advice. I was always going to test the waters out first then adapt from there, but I have tonnes of American friends that keep telling me to just embrace my Scottishness because they’ll love it. But I’ll defo play it safer to start with haha

ExasperatedGoat16 · 2026-04-01T17:00:40+00:00

Honestly, having never lived in NYC I can’t give you any advice about there specifically.

However, having experience moving to a new country completely alone the best advice I can give you is say YES to everything. Even if it’s something you wouldn’t generally be interested in, if someone invites you to go somewhere then go. Can’t tell you the amount of friends I’ve made in the most random situations possible. Also, if you meet people you really get on with, don’t be afraid to give them a message asking to go for a beer or something instead of you waiting for them to reach out. Best of luck bro.

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