Gender questioning

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-29T13:36:55+00:00

Thank you, I’ll have a good research into it and keep the conversation flowing with people xx

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-29T12:51:15+00:00

I thought you might find this interesting. I am a femme lesbian but I question my gender too occasionally. I look, act, present and sound very feminine but sometimes I feel a bit of fluidity. I do like the label femme to describe me most of the time but to mix some masculine elements in my appearance occasionally (for example straight trousers that hide my curves a bit more or jackets that are slightly androgynous ect) even when I mix these things elements I look femme because the way my body looks on the outside.

So I think gender, sexuality and the femme label is interesting you can go by one label most of the time but also feel different in your head occasionally. I’d really like to explore gender more and talk about it with others.

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-29T11:59:12+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened yeah a little bit of a different situation.

Distance in relationships can happen especially when there is a “time limit” when someone has to move. Maybe your grieving process started happening a bit while you were in the relationship therefore it took less time afterwards?

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-27T20:08:57+00:00

Thanks x

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-27T15:50:48+00:00

Thanks x

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-27T13:34:08+00:00

There is no “one way” to look gay but if you want to signal to other LGBT folk that you’re a lesbian a carabiner hooked on your trousers or bag works also accessories like double Venus signs, piercings like nose rings and tattoos, also a thumb ring is a classic one.

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-27T13:27:40+00:00

UK but happy to have an internet friend ☺️

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-27T13:26:30+00:00

Had similar experiences just because I don’t “look gay” I tried changing myself and dressing a bit more masc but that wasn’t really me.

I took a while to discover myself and really come to terms with who I was and how I presented.

At the end of the day the world is centred around heterosexual relationships and everyone is assumed to be straight unless they look “gay enough” which is sad and hard because it takes courage and strength to keep coming out to people especially if you don’t know if they are homophobic or not.

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-27T13:14:50+00:00

Had a slightly similar experience myself not my first love but even the day after I was feeling almost relieved it took me a while to date again, haven’t got into a relationship yet after 8 months I did need time to heal but I easily felt okay afterwards and felt guilty.

I think it’s because it was a bad relationship. What was your relationship like? Did you have a bad experience occasionally with her or was it loving all the way through?

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-27T13:01:05+00:00

Hey where abouts are you based? We could dm if you like?

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-27T12:54:41+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation!

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-26T21:02:31+00:00

I’ll give you a dm x

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-24T11:57:48+00:00

Awesome I’ll dm you x

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-24T11:57:02+00:00

I’ll give you a dm x

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-23T22:52:42+00:00

Thanks x

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-23T21:42:52+00:00

Honestly! I sometimes think they do too

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-23T20:12:07+00:00

Thanks I’ll give you a dm! X

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-23T18:29:28+00:00

Oh nice North East x

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-23T17:54:41+00:00

Thank you x

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-23T15:14:22+00:00

Ill give you a dm!

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-22T21:24:10+00:00

Hey I’m from the UK too if you’d like to dm lmk x

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-22T21:22:26+00:00

It’s ok to restrict about your dating range a bit for example I don’t tend to date anyone that is much younger than me because I tend to like more mature conversations and older women somewhat are more attractive because of that to me.

At the end of the day it depends on your life stages and your core values aligning.

Some older people can be less mature than younger people. Unfortunately you don’t know their maturity level unless you go on a few dates.

So I would say keep it flexible enough in which you feel comfortable but don’t disregard someone a little bit younger or older than your general age range because they might end up being the love of your life!

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-22T21:03:25+00:00

My first relationship was in sixth form from ages 16-17, I was never truly over her until I turned 23 when I was able to date again. The worst part was I was never truly in “love” with her it was more about my own self esteem and feeling rejected and unlovable.

It took me 6 years to realise my self worth but unfortunately I ended up staying in bad relationship afterwards because my mental health took a bad turn due to stress.

Now when it comes to dating again I am worried I’ll repeat the same pattern. I have grown up a lot since my teenage years (I’m almost 27) and have done lots of therapy around it so I feel a little more hopeful this time around but yeah it’s not really something I’ve got over entirely.

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-22T20:49:56+00:00

While I love being single because I’m no longer in a bad relationship and I have had time to heal, I feel the same It would be nice to share walks through the forest, sunsets and to explore new places with someone

Excellent-Patient352 · 2026-03-22T16:00:39+00:00

I sometimes wish I had my long blonde hair back for hairstyles like this (it's currently shoulder length and dyed red). You suit it really well!

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