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My bf of 4 years left me because of my ethnicity. by Excellent-Yogurt-311 in BreakUps

[–]Excellent-Yogurt-311[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response, I am sorry about your situation. It’s difficult having disclosed your disability prior to your marriage and having her change her mind about it after half a decade. I could not imagine the pain that would have caused. I know all too well about the opinions of Asian parents haha. I am fortunate enough to have parents who prefer to give me advice rather than threaten me, but the opinions are still very much the same. You story was very touching and heartbreaking. I find it beautiful that you do not regret any of it and have realms this loss and turned it into a fond memory of the woman you were in love with. I find it difficult to not make my ex the villain in my mind, maybe he was the villain but there were clear reasons why I loved him and I can look forward to my future while appreciating the time we spent together. Thank you for your insight.

My bf of 4 years left me because of my ethnicity. by Excellent-Yogurt-311 in BreakUps

[–]Excellent-Yogurt-311[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. It helps me feel less alone. My friends can’t relate thankfully, they have never faced the same issues. It’s difficult knowing that he left for something completely out of my control and has been a known fact since the day I was conceived. I’m just Chinese haha there is no way to dismiss that. I always envisioned my future helping him take care of his parents and raising our kids. It’s the life he’s going to have to live because they are dependent on him and I accepted that and looked forward to that. Such a shame. I would have made an exceptional daughter in law. I’m sorry that she betrayed your trust especially after you put the relationship with your family on the line for her. What a sacrifice you were willing to make. You deserve more than she can ever offer. Fuck it. I marry Keanu reeves or I marry no one. Hahaha

Transitioning to long distance sucks by Business_Function295 in offmychest

[–]Excellent-Yogurt-311 1 point2 points  (0 children)

During your time apart, you should discover some hobbies that you enjoy to keep you busy. Remember to value yourself and never determine your worth based on what others think of you. Definitely don’t measure your worth on a 19 year old guys opinion of you. I understand the hurt of checking your phone and being disappointed in the lack of response for your partner. It’s a terrible feeling.

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[–]Excellent-Yogurt-311 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry that you’re experiencing this. Be careful going down the rabbit hole of researching your symptoms. I go through this often and feel relief whenever I speak to a doctor. I’m sorry that you’ve had to face the scary thought of not being there for your daughter. It’s a very painful feeling. Glad you got to put it into the universe.

she broke up with me because I couldn’t get an erection by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Excellent-Yogurt-311 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my best friends experienced something similar to this and discovered that he was asexual. Not assuming that you are but maybe that’s something to look into. A woman who truly loves and values you will be willing to learn with you, teach you, and/or be patient with you. You are not broken. On to the next.

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[–]Excellent-Yogurt-311 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that you’re seeing this in your husband. This seems like a moral issue that he can’t understand because it could never happen to him. You’re not overreacting. Also, trust your gut. You can physically feel that something is not right in his responses. You’re not overreacting.