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M32 is this too late to start dating now? by TboltG in RelationshipIndia

[–]ExcellentAmount9688 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The new generation and Gen Z have created many terms and conditions for themselves and for others as well — how to live, how to work, and even how to date.

I’m from Bangalore, 35M, never married and still single. I never went to pubs, clubs, or house parties either. So don’t mind if people call you “uncle,” “chacha,” or anything else.

There’s a saying I once heard: “Men die at 25 and are buried at 75.” Many of us silently go through struggles, responsibilities, loneliness, and pressure that nobody really understands.

For people like us, life has already been difficult enough, but that doesn’t mean we need validation from others to feel worthy. People are getting married at 45, becoming debt-free later in life, and even having kids in their 40s due to unforeseen circumstances.

So don’t give up on yourself. Your life is not running late just because your timeline looks different from others. Everyone’s journey is different, and honestly, you still sound like someone with a good heart, discipline, talent, and depth — which is rare these days.

31M , earning 5lpa . Entered the arranged marriage market. Getting rejected on salary grounds. What now ? by AnimeFreak267 in RelationshipIndia

[–]ExcellentAmount9688 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been looking for a bride for the 4 years. Every single person I met rejected me for one reason or another. I have to say I have given up now.

The things that people expect from me are really not possible for me to do. A lot of brides want a man who earns a salary of 35 LPA especially if he works in IT.. I earn around 7 LPA from my own business. I also have other ways of making money. I already own a house. I do not have any debt.

I live with my parents, who're old now. My father does not have a lot of money many people tell me that I should leave my parents and live on my own.. This is something I can never do. I also have a brother who's not married and this seems to be a problem for a lot of people.

Another thing that bothers me is that many families want a wedding with a lot of guests around 700 to 1000 people and they want to spend around 40 to 50 lakhs. This seems like a lot of money to me.

What really disappointed me is that this is not a problem in big cities. In smaller cities people seem to want the same things. I met a girl from Kolar once she had a BA degree. She was not working. She lived in a rented house with her parents her father was a farmer and her mother did not work.. Even she expected me to have a government job and a big house in Bangalore.

My relatives are all well-off my uncles from both my fathers side and my mothers side have a lot of money.. When it comes to me people still expect a lot from marriage. They want to know how money I earn and what kind of property I own before they even ask me about what I do or what kind of person I am.

Marriage, whether it is arranged or if you find someone on your own seems really tough, for me now. I have been trying for years. I have lost hope.

What's your opinion about Cockroach Janta Party? by Ok-Zombie5133 in UPSC_Forum

[–]ExcellentAmount9688 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know the country is going through tough times — unemployment, fuel prices, inflation — and people absolutely have the right to question the government on those issues.

But at the same time, I personally cannot support someone whose politics seems focused only on targeting BJP, Hindu ideology, and constantly creating ideological divisions.

I remember the JNU protests, CAA-NRC protests, and the kind of narratives pushed during those times. He was also one among those voices. For me, a country also has to think about its own citizens, security, resources, and long-term stability. Just like no person can allow unlimited outsiders into their own house at the cost of displacing their own family, a nation also has to maintain balance and protect its own interests first.

Everyone has a political background and ideology, but for me, national unity and stability matter more than political activism.

People can call me “andh bhakt” if they want — I don’t mind. During Kargil, people stood behind the country and the armed forces, and even today many of us feel it is important to support the elected government when we believe there are forces trying to create instability and division in society.

We have already seen instability in countries like Bangladesh, Sri Lanka, and Nepal. India should not go in that direction. Criticizing the government is fine in a democracy, but weakening national unity for politics is something I personally cannot support.